The scrum reference got to me. Agile really sucks sometimes....too many meetings.

pute kisses like a man: I am aware of my unawareness of other people's sexuality

I have that for age.

"So she's about... what? 65ish?"
"She's 24."
"Ohhhh... Well that explains the 20 year old kid!"
"That's her father. He's 47."
"You know what? Forget we had this conversation."

Reminds me of a friend who got a bunch of us together at a quiet bar to come out. We're drinking and goofing off like we normally do, and he blurts out "Guys, I'm gay. You're my best friends, and I've been wanting to tell you for a long time."

Then a few seconds of silence... Then uproarious laughter.

He was mortified at our reaction until I explained "John, we've known you for 20 years, and for 20 years we've also known that you were gay. It's just funny that you waited so long to admit it."

"You all knew?"

"Yeah. We've always known. Here, drink up, buddy."

Then we drank more and goofed off more like we normally do. The only sad thing was that he felt it was necessary to not trust the group that had known & loved him since 9th grade.

Sybarite


Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

Yeah, had a friend who stated he had a big announcement one time. When he finally got around to it after the build up, it was that he was gay. We were all "and" expecting there to be some big health, financial or move announcement, but nope. Just that he liked penis. Us being college buddies basically said "well duh, now where we going drinking at?"

Sybarite: Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

Yeah, the dude was really into kitsch and had one of the cattiest personalities of anyone I've ever met. I've known him for over a decade. Met some of his boyfriends.

He came out only a few years ago. I obliviously said, "Wait, you mean you weren't out before now?". Took a sharp elbow to the ribs.

I didn't realize he was looking for a "moment". Which I ruined. I'm torn between guilt and irritation over that. I mean seriously, come on.

Exception Collection: Sybarite: Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

Not to me, no, but I have been told that I blindsided *everyone* when I came out. Not just those "too close to see", but even those that I knew well enough to identify but not well enough to prove.

Hell, I blindsided my LGBT gaming guild - until I came out, my wife and I were "the straight couple".

Huh?

blipponaut: Exception Collection: Sybarite: Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

Not to me, no, but I have been told that I blindsided *everyone* when I came out. Not just those "too close to see", but even those that I knew well enough to identify but not well enough to prove.

Hell, I blindsided my LGBT gaming guild - until I came out, my wife and I were "the straight couple".

Huh?

They must not have connected that both of them referred to the other spouse as their wife.

Timeline is SO gay.

Craptastic: Reminds me of a friend who got a bunch of us together at a quiet bar to come out. We're drinking and goofing off like we normally do, and he blurts out "Guys, I'm gay. You're my best friends, and I've been wanting to tell you for a long time."

Then a few seconds of silence... Then uproarious laughter.

He was mortified at our reaction until I explained "John, we've known you for 20 years, and for 20 years we've also known that you were gay. It's just funny that you waited so long to admit it."

"You all knew?"

"Yeah. We've always known. Here, drink up, buddy."

Then we drank more and goofed off more like we normally do. The only sad thing was that he felt it was necessary to not trust the group that had known & loved him since 9th grade.

Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

Hot Carl To Go: Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

I don't think that anyone's coming out has ever surprised me. I also don't really know anyone who was closeted after high school though. At least not that I know of!

MusicMakeMyHeadPound: I didn't realize he was looking for a "moment". Which I ruined. I'm torn between guilt and irritation over that. I mean seriously, come on.

I totally understand. I still feel kind of annoyed/guilty because of a guy I knew online (no one here), who was just... way too queeny to be easily listened to. It was like "Dude. I know you like guys, but tone down the Mardi Gras/biatch thing okay?"

So yeah. Annoyed that he was over the top, guilty because, you know... not my business.

RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

Aidan: pute kisses like a man: I am aware of my unawareness of other people's sexuality

I have that for age.

"So she's about... what? 65ish?"
"She's 24."
"Ohhhh... Well that explains the 20 year old kid!"
"That's her father. He's 47."
"You know what? Forget we had this conversation."

age is impossible. the only way I judge whether or person is old is if they have noticeable plastic surgery or wear too much make up.

Hot Carl To Go: Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

You just say that you love/care for them regardless of what they are, and if they ever need your help or for you to listen to them that you've got their back. That's pretty much the best thing you can say to anyone in any circumstances and IF they are gay and they know you're gay? They'll probably make out with you.

/this is in no way how I got most of my action in high school
//blatant. farking. lies.

kellynoel: Hot Carl To Go: Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

I don't think that anyone's coming out has ever surprised me. I also don't really know anyone who was closeted after high school though. At least not that I know of!

I'd kind of prefer people not having to come out at all. If I'm not personally involved in your sex life, it doesn't really matter who else is.

This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

I'm still trying to think of a sentence where the word "Cunnilingii" could be used, and I'm at work so using Google for examples is out of the question. Last thing I need is some Furry Captain Kirk, Uhura, and Nurse Chappel fanfic to show up in my work computer's history.

//Not that there is anything wrong with Furry Captain Kirk, Uhura, and Nurse Chappel fanfics, if that's what does it for you.

victrin: This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

You came out to Kingdom Hearts? Wanna get hitched?

/farking love dearly beloved
//most pro gay/trans VG series

I feel bad for the guy. Being born attracted to hairy man ass instead of a a woman's beautiful body has to be rough on anybody. Oh well, shiat happens.

Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

Sure, why not? Plus I thought it was funnier than then dick-eye, dong-eye, bulls-eye and cock-eye.

That was a fun fake Facebook thread. (It happened back in July and we're only hearing about it now?)

Whatever helps you love. See I don't need to be with anyone. All I need is the constant fear that she'll marry me.

PonceAlyosha: victrin: This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

You came out to Kingdom Hearts? Wanna get hitched?

/farking love dearly beloved
//most pro gay/trans VG series

Yup, I am a very fabulous gamer. I love Prada and Gucci, but my favorite Italians are Mario & Luigi.

RibbyK: Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

Sure, why not? Plus I thought it was funnier than then dick-eye, dong-eye, bulls-eye and cock-eye.


Huh, it turns out you're right...carry on...

Hot Carl To Go: Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

We actually discussed it several times and came to a majority decision to not press him about it. I mean, what if we were all wrong? (unlikely, but possible) We figured that he'd come out to us eventually, and it really wasn't that big of a deal either way. Most of my "core group" are in science-related fields, and none of us has ever thumped a bible regarding sexuality. So we just kind of let it slide until he felt that it was finally time to come out. I wish he'd have done it sooner, but it's his life and he did what he did for his own reasons.

PonceAlyosha: victrin: This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

You came out to Kingdom Hearts? Wanna get hitched?

/farking love dearly beloved
//most pro gay/trans VG series

Even over Mass Effect? I love the way they handled the shuttle pilot.
"Nice eyecandy here"
"Yea I'm liking these ladies"
"Cool, let's have another beer"

dnicoloff: THIS JUST IN

No one cares you're gay!!

That's not true. How hot is he?

Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: Yes, the pastel penii were *fabulous* and gay.
Hmph. "Penii".

Yes, much like these:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Penii

So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

This brings me back to my argument yesterday that the multiple of fetus should be fetii. Fetuses just sounds weird.

brigid_fitch: marius2: Made me chuckle

Me too.
[Original poster]: I'm a fan of plain HTML so I'm not going to gay up my coming-out post"
"Quiet, [OP], this doesn't concern you. We're working on a project"

Honestly, though, it's really great that he has so many good friends who took his coming-out in stride and didn't give him any real grief over it.

shiat, it's the 21st century. Even the young Republicans often don't think it's their business who is and isn't gay.

Loaf's Tray: So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

No, the plural would then be "penera"

Hot Carl to Go
Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

That's an interesting question.

I've always taken the approach that since sexual orientation doesn't factor into my friendship with someone that it's none of my business if they don't feel the need to tell me.

The closest I've come is asking someone if they want to go out to try to meet someone of the opposite gender. If they seem unenthusiastic I'll offer same gender. If they're still unenthusiastic I'll offer to set aside cab money so we can just get drunk.

But since I'm a thirtysomething and most people come out in their teens it doesn't invite opportunity often at all.

victrin: This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

don't really care if you are gay or not...but i gotta know something.
What after effect plug-in is that?
/trying to learn it right now

GooberMcFly: Why the multi-colour penises on each picture?

It's a test. If you see penises, you're gay too.

ko_kyi: Loaf's Tray: So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

No, the plural would then be "penera"

...let's call the whole thing "cocks".

MusicMakeMyHeadPound: Hot Carl to Go
Most people here seem to have known people that were obviously gay prior to them coming out. Is it better to try to talk to them before they spend many years living a stressful double life or let them admit it on their own? Maybe it would drive them deeper into denial/fear or whatever if they were asked, though. Any gay farkers want to chime in?

That's an interesting question.

I've always taken the approach that since sexual orientation doesn't factor into my friendship with someone that it's none of my business if they don't feel the need to tell me.

The closest I've come is asking someone if they want to go out to try to meet someone of the opposite gender. If they seem unenthusiastic I'll offer same gender. If they're still unenthusiastic I'll offer to set aside cab money so we can just get drunk.

But since I'm a thirtysomething and most people come out in their teens it doesn't invite opportunity often at all.

See we need a new religion that supports gay people. In fact discourages it.

MusicMakeMyHeadPound: But since I'm a thirtysomething and most people come out in their teens it doesn't invite opportunity often at all.

Actually, most people who come out don't come out until their late twenties, but that data is from when I was in high school and headed up our GSA so it's mega farking old.

bluehubcap: Loaf's Tray: RibbyK: Deucednuisance: RibbyK: This brings me back to my argument yesterday that the multiple of fetus should be fetii.

Updated list:
Cactii
Radaii
Calculii
Fistulii
Campii
Cunnilingii
Fetii
Penii

I inserted fetii between cunnilingii and penii. That makes physical and biological sense, right?

ko_kyi: Loaf's Tray: So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

No, the plural would then be "penera"

So that's what is in their bread...

victrin: This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

I like the glass/ice thing.

Headso: ko_kyi: Loaf's Tray: So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

No, the plural would then be "penera"

So that's what is in their bread...

Penis bread.

Sybarite: Completely tangential, but has anyone ever had a friend come out that you weren't secretly thinking "Well, duh."? I mean, even though you obviously have to make the appropriately supportive statements.

Not every time, but more often than not. Ran into an old friend and she was catching me up on her family, So and so's doing this, you know who's living there, what's her name's pregnant, blah blah blah. Down the list she goes then all of a sudden 'Oh yeah, Kyle (not his name) is gay now.' At first I was surprised because he was married with 2 kids, but then almost immediately I said 'You know, that explains a lot.' Turns out he wasn't homosexual as much as he was trisexual - he'd try sex with ANYTHING.

So how did you become tangenital?

mr lawson: victrin: This brought me back. I came out via facebook too, but used a pretty animation, not a bland markup:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8cgDVez3KlM

don't really care if you are gay or not...but i gotta know something.
What after effect plug-in is that?
/trying to learn it right now

It's a tweaked version of video copilot's Shatterize effect. I modified it and reversed the time so the lettering assembled itself instead of exploding. Not a plugin per-say, but you can definitely use it.

http://www.videocopilot.net/tutorials/shatterize/

Jon iz teh kewl: Headso: ko_kyi: Loaf's Tray: So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

No, the plural would then be "penera"

So that's what is in their bread...

Penis bread.

[www.panerabread.com image 300x285]

damn look at the logo, that dude has a giant dong

Dude has a blog. Friends should have figured out he was gay ages ago.

Headso: Jon iz teh kewl: Headso: ko_kyi: Loaf's Tray: So you think the singular is spelled "penus"?

No, the plural would then be "penera"

So that's what is in their bread...

Penis bread.

[www.panerabread.com image 300x285]

damn look at the logo, that dude chick has a giant dong

FTFY