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2012-03-10 11:22:49 AM  

One Bad Apple: Ignore is for the weak just like restraining orders


Kay ... just wanted to clue you into how the ignore function works.
 
2012-03-10 11:22:51 AM  

One Bad Apple: KiplingKat872: Chudogg is just pissy (and lying) because I called him out for being a rape apologist and then put him on ignore.

But since he says he has favorited me, I guess rejection from women turns him on.



So how do you know what he said ?


You just can't resist the abusive ones can you ?


Because I can read his comments when others reply to him.

That's how most message boards work.
 
2012-03-10 11:27:14 AM  
This is how feminism will eat itself, folks.

/Hilary Clinton is the ultimate feminist ideal
//Bill Clinton is the ultimate feminist ideal's husband
 
2012-03-10 11:28:17 AM  

Tatterdemalian: //Bill Clinton Ron Swanson is the ultimate feminist ideal's husband

 
2012-03-10 11:29:26 AM  

Tatterdemalian: This is how feminism will eat itself, folks


I think you mean 'lesbianism'.

http://www.instantrimshot.com/
 
2012-03-10 11:33:42 AM  

Dr. Mojo PhD: KiplingKat872: Dr. Mojo PhD: KiplingKat872: If the woman was such a biatch, why were you with her to begin with?

If your serial cheater was such a torturous mindfark, why were you with him in the first place?

I was stupid. The red flags were there, but nothing confirmed. He was good, there was never anything he could be nailed on. Everything he had an explanation for, even if it was a lame explanation. And I was in love so I tried to ignore all the red flags and my "childish jealous suspicions" as he termed them, as the trust just erroded to nothing.

That's the protip for cheaters: Make the faithful partner feel bad for doubting you. A good defense is a good offence.

It was a friend who finally had to say, "I can't stand to watch you go through this anymore" who finally laid out the undeniable evidence. By that point it was a relief to have real evidence of his infedelity so I could leave without question that I was doing right by me, not wrong by him.

You know that counts for men too, right? You know men go out with total biatches who -- unsurprisingly -- do not want us to know they're total biatches when we started dating them.

Now, as to why a man might cheat, here's a story of my own: When I was 15 I dated a girl with depression problems with a 15-year-old's understanding of the problems that would cause later. That is to say, none at all. She was cute, she put out, and when her weird racism started to surface, I wanted to bolt. So, while I had the balls to break up with her, what I didn't have the balls to do was live with myself if she slit her wrists, as she tried to do several times.

My solution was just to have relationships on the side, and continue to give her little head-pats and a fake relationship until she got her head together.

Was I going to deprive myself of the affection I wanted out of a relationship to continue servicing a sham relationship I wasn't happy with? F*CK NO. She did it to herself, and I didn't (and still don't) feel the least bit guilty for that. She lost the right to expect faithfulness from me the second she tried to trap me in a relationship with threats of suicide.


So were worried that she might kill herself if you dumped her, but you thought it would somehow hurt her less and make her less likely to slit her wrists if she ever found out you were cheating on her.

15. Yeah, I belive it.

Dude, that sounds like a straight up case of "don't stick your dick in the crazy." She lost the right to a relationship, period, when she threatened suicide. You should have told her friends and family what you were about to do so they could keep an eye on her and then left rather than enabling her and dragging it out.

15, we all do stupid shiat. But thst does not make what you did right. You rationalized it, but you were not justified in doing it.

I assume she did not kill herself when you two finally did break up or you would have mentioned it?
 
2012-03-10 11:33:52 AM  

LouDobbsAwaaaay: One Bad Apple: So how do you know what he said?

If you ignore someone but don't click the "ignore posts quoting this person" button, you'll see what they said through someone else's post. If someone has you on ignore, they'd still see me quoting you saying "So how do you know what he said?".

/the more you know


She's also the queen of arguing with somebody only to finish off "Ignore list you go!" only to come back and respond to your replies a few more times.

Likewise she does the "This discussion is over!" and return a few minutes later to nit pick at 3 or 5 more posts.
 
2012-03-10 11:36:18 AM  

ChuDogg: She's also the queen of arguing with somebody only to finish off "Ignore list you go!" only to come back and respond to your replies a few more times.

Likewise she does the "This discussion is over!" and return a few minutes later to nit pick at 3 or 5 more posts.


Does she also compile lists of annoying argument habits about posters she doesn't like and then bore other people with them? You two sound like about 95% of the posters on this site.
 
2012-03-10 11:37:50 AM  

LouDobbsAwaaaay: Does she also compile lists of annoying argument habits about posters she doesn't like and then bore other people with them? You two sound like about 95% of the posters on this site.


www.inquisitr.com
 
2012-03-10 11:38:17 AM  

KiplingKat872: UnspokenVoice: KiplingKat872: First of all, I hate the idiotic attitude that "human beings are just slaves to our animal natures." Anyone who believes that can hand over their computer, car keys, and credit cards and go run down their meals on foot. You enjoy the privilages of living in a civiluzed society, you damn well are going to pay the costs.

I accept that someone want a polyamirus lifestyle and that it us easier on everyone if they are honest about that from the outset and find mates that will accept that.

But I will NEVER knowingly allow any man who thinks he has a right to cheat within 50 feet of my bed. I've lived with that tortorus mindfark once before:love without trust. Fark that shiat. Any man trying to get with me who thinks he has a right to cheat on me that had better "get used to" the idea that I have a right to fark him up.

Hard.

No farking way in hell I am going through that shiat again. I will spend the rest of my life single and celibate before I get involved with another cheater. Happily so.

Maybe he cheated on you because you like to pretend you are more intellectually capable than you are? If you're going to use words you aren't actually familiar with (but heard on daytime talk shows once and thought they sounded good) then you should probably use spell checking, it is free and easy.

I'm on a mobile at 6:30 am on Saturday farkwad.

When I get to a P.C. remind me to put you on ignore for being a looser who thinks criticizing typos is a legitimate debate tactic.

You loser twat.


Ah - it was also probably because you're fat and ugly.

AbbeySomeone: So, you're saying he cheated because she can't spell and watches too much TV?


That sums it up along with the other associated aspects one might conclude based with just those two bits of information. I'd wager laziness and weight also are included in that.

KiplingKat872: Oh and if we ever meet, remind me to beat you farking senseless with a tire iron for suggesting I deserved to go through three years of hell because my typing skills on my phone didn't match up to your standards.


And because you're mentally ill...

KiplingKat872: Cheating hurt people. If ypu are honest from the outset about wanting an open relationship that is one thing, but cheating is selfish, cruel, and it hurts people. So people should not do it.


But beating them with a tire iron is acceptable... Okay then - I'm sure you can justify that in your head. Somehow... So you're fat, lazy, inept, TV influenced, violent, mentally ill, and what's behind door number three?

Dr. Mojo PhD: This. UnspokenVoice is pretty much a rampant misogynist, and anybody who's seen his posts knows he has serious problems with women -- as if HURR DURR YOU'RE A DUMB WIMMINS TRYING TO BE ABOVE YOUR STATION wasn't a dead giveaway.


Citation needed... I don't pick favorites based on gender, ethnicity, sexual preference, or religion. Thank you very much. I find women to be some of the most wonderful and stimulating creatures on the planet and, as a male who's privy to locker room conversations, I find us men to be mostly mundane or downright barbaric. I think of them as equals and tend to find more of them as friends than I find men. So, yeah, I'm going to need a citation or ask if you're somehow confusing me with someone else? Or perhaps you mistake the generally included ";)" when I'm making amusing remarks? Or perhaps you're just trying to make it about you, to feel included, or to make yourself seem like you're a little better than you feel you are if only for a fleeting moment...

miko_toy: Based on your composure, I am going to assume that your man cheated on you for being an emotional wreck that did not have the capability to logically reason with an individual during times of disagreement.

He cheated because you pushed him to.


She is crazy. She should see a shrink. I've never molested anyone and haven't been myself but I understand that sort of stuff will screw with a person's head. It must suck to be them. Hopefully they get help before they stalk someone and beat them with a tire iron.

Should I be worried about some crazy, tire iron wielding, overweight freak showing up on my doorstep? (I figure a television would be a bit much to carry.) Ah well, maybe I can distract them with cake and The View while I make good my escape into the darkness of the night.
 
2012-03-10 11:38:45 AM  

LouDobbsAwaaaay:

Kay ... just wanted to clue you into how the ignore function works.



Sounds like it doesn't work at all
 
2012-03-10 11:41:23 AM  

KiplingKat872: So were worried that she might kill herself if you dumped her, but you thought it would somehow hurt her less and make her less likely to slit her wrists if she ever found out you were cheating on her.


Uh yeah, that's about the gist of it. I can't really keep breaking up with her a secret from her, now can I?

KiplingKat872: But thst does not make what you did right. You rationalized it, but you were not justified in doing it.


Of course I was. Infidelity is a perfectly normal response to an unhealthy relationship. Just because running off and shooting a person for no reason is wrong doesn't mean that shooting a person waving a gun in your face is also wrong.

Her behaviour broke the covenant expected and understood in socially acceptable relationships. In contractual terms, she failed to uphold her end of the bargain, and in doing so abrogated any expectation of and responsibility for me to do the same. If you walk into a restaurant and order something, the restaurant can't not deliver your food and still expect to get paid. They can't spit in your food and still expect to get paid. They can't take your plate away while you're eating and still expect to get paid.

And a woman (or man, if it makes you feel better) can't act like a farking lunatic and still expect faithfulness.
 
2012-03-10 11:42:43 AM  
This is one of the most ridiculous articles I have read on fark, in part because it is presented as a "scholarly" article based on a book by some sociologist. FTA: AFTER four years of researching every aspect of monogamy, from a sociological, biological and psychological point of view, then conducting in-depth interviews with 120 young men, I've come to the conclusion that, much as monogamy is an ideal, the majority of men are predisposed to cheating.

Really guy? This is the basis of your study? Interviewing 120 young men?

Sounds like an epic troll to to me.

I wonder how many books he'll sell. I wonder how many hits this website got. I wish I hadnt added to that count.

/don't troll me bro
 
2012-03-10 11:43:06 AM  

One Bad Apple: Sounds like it doesn't work at all


If you click the optional button it will turn off any post that quotes the ignored person. Not everybody does that.

ChuDogg: [www.inquisitr.com image 500x375]


Yeah, that really doesn't work when you're the one complaining about how 95% of the posters behave. Nice try, though. Better luck next time?
 
2012-03-10 11:47:11 AM  

LouDobbsAwaaaay: Yeah, that really doesn't work when you're the one complaining about how 95% of the posters behave. Nice try, though. Better luck next time?


Ignore list you go!
 
2012-03-10 11:50:54 AM  

ChuDogg: Ignore list you go!


Okey dokey, bud. Have fun with that.

/yeesh...
 
2012-03-10 11:51:16 AM  

Dr. Mojo PhD: KiplingKat872: So were worried that she might kill herself if you dumped her, but you thought it would somehow hurt her less and make her less likely to slit her wrists if she ever found out you were cheating on her.

Uh yeah, that's about the gist of it. I can't really keep breaking up with her a secret from her, now can I?

KiplingKat872: But thst does not make what you did right. You rationalized it, but you were not justified in doing it.

Of course I was. Infidelity is a perfectly normal response to an unhealthy relationship. Just because running off and shooting a person for no reason is wrong doesn't mean that shooting a person waving a gun in your face is also wrong.

Her behaviour broke the covenant expected and understood in socially acceptable relationships. In contractual terms, she failed to uphold her end of the bargain, and in doing so abrogated any expectation of and responsibility for me to do the same. If you walk into a restaurant and order something, the restaurant can't not deliver your food and still expect to get paid. They can't spit in your food and still expect to get paid. They can't take your plate away while you're eating and still expect to get paid.

And a woman (or man, if it makes you feel better) can't act like a farking lunatic and still expect faithfulness.


You never encountered the "two wrongs don't make a right" axiom did you?

You were justified in breaking up with her, which unless you are married to her now, happened eventually. But you weren't justified in cheating on her. That's just passive agressive b.s..

Which, if you didn't break up with her, I imagine she found out about and broke up with you. Sans suicide.

And how was she supposed to learn not to pull that kind crap. In her eyes, it worked with you so she probably pulled it on the next guy.
 
2012-03-10 11:53:18 AM  

ChuDogg: LouDobbsAwaaaay: Yeah, that really doesn't work when you're the one complaining about how 95% of the posters behave. Nice try, though. Better luck next time?

Ignore list you go!




I'm going to quote every LouDobbs' post from now on and then I will pee on everything you love.
 
2012-03-10 11:54:02 AM  

KiplingKat872: And how was she supposed to learn not to pull that kind crap. In her eyes, it worked with you so she probably pulled it on the next guy.


I don't recall any part of the story where he was supposed to be tutoring her in proper relationship behavior.
 
2012-03-10 11:55:37 AM  

Dr. Mojo PhD: KiplingKat872: So were worried that she might kill herself if you dumped her, but you thought it would somehow hurt her less and make her less likely to slit her wrists if she ever found out you were cheating on her.

Uh yeah, that's about the gist of it. I can't really keep breaking up with her a secret from her, now can I?

KiplingKat872: But thst does not make what you did right. You rationalized it, but you were not justified in doing it.

Of course I was. Infidelity is a perfectly normal response to an unhealthy relationship. Just because running off and shooting a person for no reason is wrong doesn't mean that shooting a person waving a gun in your face is also wrong.

Her behaviour broke the covenant expected and understood in socially acceptable relationships. In contractual terms, she failed to uphold her end of the bargain, and in doing so abrogated any expectation of and responsibility for me to do the same. If you walk into a restaurant and order something, the restaurant can't not deliver your food and still expect to get paid. They can't spit in your food and still expect to get paid. They can't take your plate away while you're eating and still expect to get paid.

And a woman (or man, if it makes you feel better) can't act like a farking lunatic and still expect faithfulness.


I mean, that totally blows that she blackmailed you like that. I'm not denying that for a second. No one should have to deal with that b.s.. Especially heaping that kind of emotional extortion on a kid. That's all kinds of farked up and you should not have been put through that.

But that doesn't make cheating on her justified.

And I will point out that boys pull that kind of emotional blackmail too.
 
2012-03-10 11:55:45 AM  

A Bloody Disaster: A Bloody Disaster: this a mute moot point


Shoulda left it - thought you were making a joke. (-;
 
2012-03-10 11:56:40 AM  

One Bad Apple: ChuDogg: LouDobbsAwaaaay: Yeah, that really doesn't work when you're the one complaining about how 95% of the posters behave. Nice try, though. Better luck next time?

Ignore list you go!



I'm going to quote every LouDobbs' post from now on and then I will pee on everything you love.


Dammit man! If I only I could this "ignore replies" button!
 
2012-03-10 11:57:15 AM  
I just accidentally the whole thing.
 
2012-03-10 11:59:34 AM  

LouDobbsAwaaaay: KiplingKat872: And how was she supposed to learn not to pull that kind crap. In her eyes, it worked with you so she probably pulled it on the next guy.

I don't recall any part of the story where he was supposed to be tutoring her in proper relationship behavior.


He isn't. I thought about that after I hit send. People are responsible for their own behavior.

But then we all do learn from every relationship, and the fact that there are a bunch real a-holes past the age of 25 in the world is due in a small (small) part to them having found enablers. That was the point I was trying to make.
 
2012-03-10 12:07:02 PM  

One Bad Apple: At first I was all...
[teleport-city.com image 320x214]
But then I...
[radiovixen.com image 336x265]


Every time I think I might want a man in my life again, I just read some Fark relationship threads. Now THAT's free birth control.

/actually birth control is not a concern of mine anymore.
//Crazy people remain high on the list though.
 
2012-03-10 12:10:53 PM  
What a load of horseshiat, but it sure did bring out all the misogynists, man-haters, and tragically damaged divorcees. Been married 8 years to a man I've known for half my life. Quit marrying idiots you've known for a year and being surprised that s/he isn't everything you wanted.
 
2012-03-10 12:15:10 PM  
Open marriages aren't that hard, for fark's sake.
 
2012-03-10 12:22:26 PM  

KiplingKat872: You never encountered the "two wrongs don't make a right" axiom did you?


That's a maxim, not an axiom.

KiplingKat872: But you weren't justified in cheating on her. That's just passive agressive b.s.


Nope, sorry, I was. And if she'd gotten violent with me, I would have been justified in using force to defend myself. If she'd gone on a screaming rage, I'd have been justified to yell back. Reciprocity's a biatch.

KiplingKat872: In her eyes, it worked with you so she probably pulled it on the next guy.


So? I'm not out to mother the world.

KiplingKat872: And I will point out that boys pull that kind of emotional blackmail too.


And it's 100% justified cheating on them, too. fark, it's not even cheating in that case. It's a goddamned sham relationship, any idea of faithfulness is equally a sham.

If one spouse abuses the other, and makes them fear for their life if they leave, is it "wrong" for that person to try to have a normal life with some semblance of happiness on the side? fark. No.

Or other circumstances. Is it right for a daughter to stab her father with a pencil? Hell no. Is it right for a daughter to stab her father with a pencil if her father is in the middle of trying to rape her, because stabbing her father with a pencil is a "wrong", and a second "wrong" won't make the situation "right"? Hell yes, and it's also richly deserved and hopefully in the scrotum, and that's why the maxim is bullshiat.

Infidelity is like anything else in life, justifiable in some circumstances and unjustifiable in others.
 
2012-03-10 12:24:34 PM  

cryinoutloud: One Bad Apple: At first I was all...
[teleport-city.com image 320x214]
But then I...
[radiovixen.com image 336x265]

Every time I think I might want a man in my life again, I just read some Fark relationship threads. Now THAT's free birth control.

/actually birth control is not a concern of mine anymore.
//Crazy people remain high on the list though.


and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads. Those genuinely give me the heebeejeebees. This one seems the typical assortment of surprisongly well reasoned arguments, personal issues and blatant trolling.

Although, anyone looking for birth control might want to consider being a constuction worker in camp. I am surrounded by men but would sooner stick a fork in my eyeball than date any of them.


/shudder...
 
2012-03-10 12:24:39 PM  

quickdraw: Women are going to cheat and men just have to live with that.


This is something I can get behind.
 
2012-03-10 12:27:53 PM  

my herniated disc: and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads.


Are there actually people out there that are actually pro-rape and unafraid to post their bizarre views on Fark? What farking horrors of the human mind have I been missing?
 
2012-03-10 12:32:24 PM  

Dr. Mojo PhD: my herniated disc: and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads.

Are there actually people out there that are actually pro-rape and unafraid to post their bizarre views on Fark? What farking horrors of the human mind have I been missing?



If you for example believe that the stripper that falsely accused the Duke lacrosse team should be punished or just publicly ridiculed you are pro rape or at a minimum a "rape apologist".


If you make any kind of joke about rape (even clown rape which is by definition funny) you are also pro rape.
 
2012-03-10 12:43:40 PM  

Dr. Mojo PhD: my herniated disc: and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads.

Are there actually people out there that are actually pro-rape and unafraid to post their bizarre views on Fark? What farking horrors of the human mind have I been missing?


Fark has an entire camp of "she asked for it" rationalizers under the guise of "if she goes to a party dressed a certain way and flirts, she bears some responsibilty for what happens to her." I don't think they are rapists so much as boys who can't get any without getting a woman totally hammered and don't want to be accused of rape the next day after taking advantage of someone's heavy inebriation.

Seriously. I was told that asking, "are you sure you're o.k. with this?" was being too circumspect (ie. "Wussy/weak") and expecting men to verify that the woman want to sleep with them was crazy feminazi talk because, and I quote, "I've had women back out when you ask them that."

They don't seem to be able to put "woman backing out because she is unsure" together with "cops not showing up on their doorstep the next day."
 
2012-03-10 12:50:12 PM  

One Bad Apple: Dr. Mojo PhD: my herniated disc: and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads.

Are there actually people out there that are actually pro-rape and unafraid to post their bizarre views on Fark? What farking horrors of the human mind have I been missing?


If you for example believe that the stripper that falsely accused the Duke lacrosse team should be punished or just publicly ridiculed you are pro rape or at a minimum a "rape apologist".


If you make any kind of joke about rape (even clown rape which is by definition funny) you are also pro rape.


That's a complete load. I have never seen anyone making excused for the biatch in the Duke Lacrosse team incident, and in fact I am several others stated that people who bring false charges should be punished to the full extent of the law as it is illegal to deliberately file false charges.

What we do not do is allow people who bring up the "false charges" argument (which the F.B.I. says is 8%) discount *all* rape claims which is how it is used on fark. "8% of rape claims are false so this biatch is lying!"

Thats the other half, the "biatches be lyin'" crowd.
 
2012-03-10 12:50:46 PM  

One Bad Apple: Dr. Mojo PhD: my herniated disc: and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads.

Are there actually people out there that are actually pro-rape and unafraid to post their bizarre views on Fark? What farking horrors of the human mind have I been missing?


If you for example believe that the stripper that falsely accused the Duke lacrosse team should be punished or just publicly ridiculed you are pro rape or at a minimum a "rape apologist".


If you make any kind of joke about rape (even clown rape which is by definition funny) you are also pro rape.


OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE

I am so sorry people!!!!!!

I accidently the thread

/move along nothing to see here
 
2012-03-10 12:52:49 PM  

Dr. Mojo PhD: my herniated disc: and yet this thread has been a pleasant surprise compared to some of the rape threads.

Are there actually people out there that are actually pro-rape and unafraid to post their bizarre views on Fark? What farking horrors of the human mind have I been missing?


And as I just pointed out to OneBadApple, there is a significant number of people on Fark that assume any woman's claims of rape are automatically suspect. Every rape story that comes up, they automatically assume the woman is lying.
 
2012-03-10 12:55:43 PM  

vampishlypale: Yeah, sorry. There's no getting used to the idea of allowing my husband to possibly catch and share diseases and getting another woman pregnant. That's even setting aside issues of jealousy, disrespect, and broken trust. Everyone fantasizes, that's a given. Everyone makes mistakes, sometimes being cheating. However, trying to condone cheating and telling women that we should expect and allow for it is BS on an epic scale.


In that case you have two options. You can stay in good shape and put out whenever he wants you to, or you can get used to him stepping out on you.
 
2012-03-10 12:57:28 PM  
i.imgur.com
 
2012-03-10 01:01:01 PM  
@KiplingKat

You spewed, You want farking hard? Age 9 to 14 I was sexually molested by two men because my father completely failed in his basic duty to protect his child. At 18, I was raped. Ages 28 through 31, I was involved with a serial cheater. Do I win? (repetitive blah blah blah wharglebargle blah blah)

SIGH. OK, lady...you win. We all know how awful your life was, and how wonderful you are now because your therapist thinks you are commendible [sic] in your relations with men today. Is this why you are wasting valuable minutes on your cell phone because you can't afford internet at your place?

(more repetitive arglebargle...whine...blah blah blah)

Enough already. The first time your "serial cheater" cheated, you should have walked away. That's what grown-ups do. Grown-ups who have had way more trauma in their lives than you. Way more. So please give it a rest. Next time a man cheats on you (and he will...trust me), be a grown-up and leave. OK?

Oh, and BTW, Welcome to Fark.

Now back to our regularly scheduled Farkfest.
 
2012-03-10 01:03:57 PM  
I hate this shiat so much. A author interviewed a whopping 120 men to come to this conclusion, and it's all set up so that people have some justification for cheating. "See? See? The article sez so!!11"

Fark that noise. I demand monogamy, and if I don't get it, I leave. In return, I will always be faithful, and I would happily sign a prenup to that effect. Saying no to an "opportunity" just to get some strange isn't that hard.
 
2012-03-10 01:10:59 PM  

umad: In that case you have two options. You can stay in good shape and put out whenever he wants you to, or you can get used to him stepping out on you.


is that what you told your SO (yeah, like you have one) when you gave her the clap?

Take a farking hike. People who blame others for their own actions are the worst kind of losers.
 
2012-03-10 01:11:10 PM  
I once worked with a guy who kinda resembled Robert Redford, the actor from Magnus P.I., and that deep voiced cowboy, Sam Elliot, who played next to Nicholas Cage in Ghost Rider.

We worked in a stock room for Kmart and the lady floor clerks just went nuts over him. He had the personality you'd expect of those guys and was very likeable. He was married and he told me the interesting tale of pursuing his red headed wife in one of the Western states. It seems her 4 big brothers didn't like him and made things a bit difficult for him. Once, in the dead of winter, they grabbed him, tossed him in the back of a pickup truck and drove him about 20 miles out into the snowy backwoods and dumped him off.

He spent the next couple of hours walking back to her house.

Anyhow, he went through a lot to win her love and marry her and was deeply in love with her when I met him.

However, he cheated. He had no problem with cheating and from the way the girls threw themselves at him, he had no problem getting willing partners. He firmly assured me that cheating was nothing, that he deeply loved his wife and had no plans to leave her.

Then I asked him what about if she decided to cheat like he did?

THAT was a whole different story!

He couldn't tolerate that! It would rip him apart. He'd have to go and beat the snot out of any lover she had and their marriage would be in jeopardy.

It was a whole different thing when women cheated. Guys could do it because they're guys, but NOT women.

I understood why his wife's brothers stopped just short of killing him.

I actually understand the oddball philosophy which comes with this way of thinking -- which I'm not going into here. However, it doesn't make it right.
 
2012-03-10 01:11:26 PM  

my herniated disc:


OH MY GOD WHAT HAVE I DONE

I am so sorry people!!!!!!

I accidently the thread

/move along nothing to see here



Don't be sorry. This thread was a lost cause long before you posted that. Just look at how this thread was dressed and dancing around like that. It wasn't your fault. You were led on.
 
2012-03-10 01:11:38 PM  

Mrs. Beasley: @KiplingKat

You spewed, You want farking hard? Age 9 to 14 I was sexually molested by two men because my father completely failed in his basic duty to protect his child. At 18, I was raped. Ages 28 through 31, I was involved with a serial cheater. Do I win? (repetitive blah blah blah wharglebargle blah blah)

SIGH. OK, lady...you win. We all know how awful your life was, and how wonderful you are now because your therapist thinks you are commendible [sic] in your relations with men today. Is this why you are wasting valuable minutes on your cell phone because you can't afford internet at your place?

(more repetitive arglebargle...whine...blah blah blah)

Enough already. The first time your "serial cheater" cheated, you should have walked away. That's what grown-ups do. Grown-ups who have had way more trauma in their lives than you. Way more. So please give it a rest. Next time a man cheats on you (and he will...trust me), be a grown-up and leave. OK?

Oh, and BTW, Welcome to Fark.

Now back to our regularly scheduled Farkfest.


Before, you make the snude remarks, you really should have read to the point where I was asked how my experience went down and I described it. Othwise, you might look kinda stupid, oops too late.

Sort of like here where someone else tried to turn it into a competition just because I brought personal experience to the table. They accused me of being competative and got competative in order to shut me up. "Your life isn't as bad as this random guy so shut up!" Funny that argumentative fallacy didn't work out so well.

Also funny how I am singled out as bad for using personal experience in a discussion while no one else on this thread is.
 
2012-03-10 01:15:59 PM  
fark it all.
 
2012-03-10 01:18:35 PM  
What a stupid biased article. Men don't cheat because of their "strong sexual appetites". If anything, they cheat out of boredom, and she is most likely bored with him, too. Lackluster sex will drive anyone to look for passion and desire. I have been in a relationship for awhile. I am a woman and I have a "strong sexual appetite", he does not. It has caused many problems. But when we do get freaky, its pretty f**king awesome. So I have resigned myself not to cheat, because for one- I have never been a cheater, and two- the sex is awesome. Its just not as often as I would like. I don't have to worry about him cheating because he's just not that type either. Its too bad actually, because I don't get enough it would be better to be in an open relationship, but he would never go for that either.

/meh
//can't stand relationships
///only in it for the sex
 
2012-03-10 01:20:04 PM  
Oh yeah, wasn't there an article on here awhile back about the monogamy gene? And how very few men have it? Anyone remember that one?
 
2012-03-10 01:28:27 PM  
@KiplingKat,

See above.

That is all.

/snude?
 
2012-03-10 01:29:11 PM  

KiplingKat872: Mrs. Beasley: @KiplingKat

You spewed, You want farking hard? Age 9 to 14 I was sexually molested by two men because my father completely failed in his basic duty to protect his child. At 18, I was raped. Ages 28 through 31, I was involved with a serial cheater. Do I win? (repetitive blah blah blah wharglebargle blah blah)

SIGH. OK, lady...you win. We all know how awful your life was, and how wonderful you are now because your therapist thinks you are commendible [sic] in your relations with men today. Is this why you are wasting valuable minutes on your cell phone because you can't afford internet at your place?

(more repetitive arglebargle...whine...blah blah blah)

Enough already. The first time your "serial cheater" cheated, you should have walked away. That's what grown-ups do. Grown-ups who have had way more trauma in their lives than you. Way more. So please give it a rest. Next time a man cheats on you (and he will...trust me), be a grown-up and leave. OK?

Oh, and BTW, Welcome to Fark.

Now back to our regularly scheduled Farkfest.

Before, you make the snude remarks, you really should have read to the point where I was asked how my experience went down and I described it. Othwise, you might look kinda stupid, oops too late.

Sort of like here where someone else tried to turn it into a competition just because I brought personal experience to the table. They accused me of being competative and got competative in order to shut me up. "Your life isn't as bad as this random guy so shut up!" Funny that argumentative fallacy didn't work out so well.

Also funny how I am singled out as bad for using personal experience in a discussion while no one else on this thread is.


Not responding to the comment, just want to pass along a book suggestion: Full Catastrophe Living by Jon Kabat-Zinn. It's how I learned to let go. I can only imagine how unhappy I would be if I still felt the (understandable) rage that you feel.

/caught my ex-wife three times, three different dudes, gaslighting, cake-eater, blaming, the works
//she married and had a kid with dude #3, he's in for a rough ride
 
2012-03-10 01:32:24 PM  

Eatin' Queer Fetuses for Jesus: gaslighting


Isn't that the best? Cluster B mother, Cluster B ex. Nothing in the world quite as insane as gaslighting.
 
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