I'm really enjoying the "This is what people may look like." picture.

In my experience, it's better at finding people who could be friends than chicks I want to sleep with.

Back when I did this, I'd get matched with perfect mates except that they didn't stiffen my dick at all.

Chloroform still #1!
/or is that just me...

That's how I started my relationship with former Nigerian royalty. It's going pretty well.

She comes in colors everywhere: In my experience, it's better at finding people who could be friends than chicks I want to sleep with.

Back when I did this, I'd get matched with perfect mates except that they didn't stiffen my dick at all.

With the exception of 2/10 internet dates, very much THIS.

I met Mrs. Smurf through an internet dating site.

For the most part people are online for a reason. They lack the social skills and confidence to get out or they have too many kids and cannot get out. The rare exception is somebody that is using the internet as just another tool for wider exposure to people looking to date.

I was the latter. Too find Mrs. Smurf I had to wade through the flotsam and jetsam of relationships. Most broads online are fat, ugly and in love with their dildos more than they are with food let alone men. The few attractive ones have standards that a Greek God couldn't hope to match.

Simply put, most people who are single are that way for a reason.

Smeggy Smurf: I met Mrs. Smurf through an internet dating site.

For the most part people are online for a reason. They lack the social skills and confidence to get out or they have too many kids and cannot get out. The rare exception is somebody that is using the internet as just another tool for wider exposure to people looking to date.

I was the latter. Too find Mrs. Smurf I had to wade through the flotsam and jetsam of relationships. Most broads online are fat, ugly and in love with their dildos more than they are with food let alone men. The few attractive ones have standards that a Greek God couldn't hope to match.

Simply put, most people who are single are that way for a reason.

If you aren't married after college, you can meet in a bar or church, or you can stalk someone at the gym. Or, you can just go online and find someone with similar interests.

maverickzy: I'm really enjoying the "This is what people may look like." picture.

Y're looking for toe.



/oblig

Lot's of online dating greens lately. Bets on which admin is feeling lonely?

urger: Lot's of online dating greens lately. Bets on which admin is feeling lonely?

The answer is [REDACTED]. It's always [REDACTED].

She comes in colors everywhere: Back when I did this, I'd get matched with perfect mates except that they didn't stiffen my dick at all.

This

Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and there's no really good way of predicting attraction.

However, I think these sites should have a hidden weight filter. IE, the weight would never be shown to the public, but it would become part of the matching algorithm.

Because "a few" as in "a few extra pounds" differs from person to person.

/Big caucasian women who are both shorter than me and wider than me tend to send me messages, I guess because black guys are supposed to like BIG butts or something.

/doesn't like BIG butts

/leg man

lordargent: /doesn't like BIG butts

Liar!

I like the 'pose' of the female model in the picture i TFA...bring her to me at once.

Burr: lordargent: /doesn't like BIG butts
Liar!

But he cannot lie.

cryinoutloud: Burr: lordargent: /doesn't like BIG butts
Liar!

But he cannot lie.

I have a sibling that will refute this.

i met my girlfriend using online dating. never had a problem getting matched with a lot of fatties either, but probably that was a mixture of listing some healthy/athletic interests in my profile (skiing, hiking, etc) as well as the cambridge area is generally pretty fit.

i liked the process. first, if you're meeting girls at bars, you have a high risk of ending up with the type of girl who goes and trolls bars for men. not my type, to say the least. not to mention the cost of going out all the time to try and meet someone. second, the introductory date is *very* low expectations or risk. you go, meet them, have a cup of coffee or something, and if it isn't clicking you leave, and no one's feelings are hurt.

We use technology to enhance most every other aspect of our lives, why not this?

The_EliteOne: She comes in colors everywhere: In my experience, it's better at finding people who could be friends than chicks I want to sleep with.

Back when I did this, I'd get matched with perfect mates except that they didn't stiffen my dick at all.

With the exception of 2/10 internet dates, very much THIS.

Well, because most of those sites are set up on a false concept... A healthy relationship is typically not one where the guy and girl are an exact mirror of one another... There is no room for growth in that scenario... neither person is contributing to the other... Someone who agrees with you on every issue is gonna be boring.

I'm a firm believer that opposites attract, with only some minor ancillary activities or personality traits that are common to both.

met my wife online. she is the best thing ever and we got to know each other before we even met for the first time in person. made that first actual meeting much less awkward.

in fact, it was less awkward TWICE that night.

;)

frepnog: met my wife online. she is the best thing ever and we got to know each other before we even met for the first time in person. made that first actual meeting much less awkward.

in fact, it was less awkward TWICE that night.

;)

Did somebody mention rape rape? Cause you got it bad

Does it help avoid problems if you actually put you flaws in the profile? After reading the thread down below, I actually did a profile for Match.com. I'm hoping the fact that I emphasized that I clock in at "strongly expressed introvert" and am enough of a geek to enjoy D&D will keep those looking for "soul mates" away. I'd rather have zero hits that deal with those.

I don't go to church, my line of work ends up with mostly male coworkers and the few women who enjoy my hobby are normally spoken for. Tried the bar scene for years and never once met a girl I cared to date. Met Mrs. Desktitute in '07 answering her Craigslist ad. We married in '09 and our son just turned 1. I don't think I could be any happier.

A few extra lbs = man the harpoons
Average = fat

Was sitting at the local dive bar drinking one evening while home from college, and a girl sat next to me and ordered a shot of tequila. I said make it two, and paid for both, and had a fun night.

After parting ways the next morning, I went back to college (it was only 100 miles away). Later that week I saw her again as a passed a local coffee shop. She didn't go there (was visiting a friend) and I sat down and we talked.

7 years later (4 of those married) we have two children together.

She doesn't care about my video game habits, tries to have a hot meal ready for me when I get home from work, loves to watch football, and she isn't afraid to get her hands dirty.

/loves his wife

Smeggy Smurf: frepnog: met my wife online. she is the best thing ever and we got to know each other before we even met for the first time in person. made that first actual meeting much less awkward.

in fact, it was less awkward TWICE that night.

;)

Did somebody mention rape rape? Cause you got it bad

no rape rape. we had been talking online and on the phone for about a month before we met IRL. so once we actually met yeah we were both pretty ready to jump into bed.

/was awesome too

Smeggy Smurf: Most broads online are fat, ugly and in love with their dildos more than they are with food let alone men. The few attractive ones have standards that a Greek God couldn't hope to match.

So much THIS. Online dating women seem incapable of being honest about their body type. If your dress size is double digits, you are NOT farking slim, slender, or petite. And a few extra pounds means 5 or 10 extra pounds, not 100. If you are wider than you are tall, you do not get to say "a few extra pounds".

But the good looking women (not uber hot, just nice looking) are even worse. They start out saying they are "down to earth and want to meet a regular guy". Then they toss that entire premise out by listing requirements that no living man can hope to fulfill. Sorry ladies, but my looks, penis size, and bank account balance are all average. Which seems to make me completely undersirable - except to the BBWs - which is an oxymoron.

OgreMagi: Smeggy Smurf: Most broads online are fat, ugly and in love with their dildos more than they are with food let alone men. The few attractive ones have standards that a Greek God couldn't hope to match.

So much THIS. Online dating women seem incapable of being honest about their body type. If your dress size is double digits, you are NOT farking slim, slender, or petite. And a few extra pounds means 5 or 10 extra pounds, not 100. If you are wider than you are tall, you do not get to say "a few extra pounds".

But the good looking women (not uber hot, just nice looking) are even worse. They start out saying they are "down to earth and want to meet a regular guy". Then they toss that entire premise out by listing requirements that no living man can hope to fulfill. Sorry ladies, but my looks, penis size, and bank account balance are all average. Which seems to make me completely undersirable - except to the BBWs - which is an oxymoron.

I don't know what the fark you guys are talking about. I seperated from my wife for a few months and went on a heap dates with some hot women that I met through on online dating site. My guess is that both of you are grossly over-estimating the "averageness" of your looks. Average compared to what, an Uruk-hai orc?

Knows a thing or two about being a full-on-rapist...

TwistedFark : I don't know what the fark you guys are talking about. I seperated from my wife for a few months and went on a heap dates with some hot women that I met through on online dating site. My guess is that both of you are grossly over-estimating the "averageness" of your looks. Average compared to what, an Uruk-hai orc?

I have a picture in my profile, where is yours :P

/seatbelts crampin my style

lordargent: TwistedFark : I don't know what the fark you guys are talking about. I seperated from my wife for a few months and went on a heap dates with some hot women that I met through on online dating site. My guess is that both of you are grossly over-estimating the "averageness" of your looks. Average compared to what, an Uruk-hai orc?

I have a picture in my profile, where is yours :P

/seatbelts crampin my style

Don't feed the troll. TwistedFark is in my ignore list, but I didn't put a reason, which indicates he's most likely your generic douchenugget troll.

Smeggy Smurf: Most broads online are fat, ugly and in love with their dildos more than they are with food let alone men. The few attractive ones have standards that a Greek God couldn't hope to match.

Not merely the attractive women. There are plenty of personal ads out there by mid-30s, twice the healthy weight for their height with a couple of illegitimate kids clinging to their skirts with requirements that would make Adonis turn away depressed.

There is a serious lack of proper perspective to be found in many women who turn to the internet to find their uberman.


lordargent: I have a picture in my profile, where is yours :P

/seatbelts crampin my style

You look like you hate Pluto.

/Maybe it's just the 'stache.

T.rex: Well, because most of those sites are set up on a false concept... A healthy relationship is typically not one where the guy and girl are an exact mirror of one another... There is no room for growth in that scenario... neither person is contributing to the other... Someone who agrees with you on every issue is gonna be boring.

I'm a firm believer that opposites attract, with only some minor ancillary activities or personality traits that are common to both.

I generally agree but its not the problem with the tool - its the problem with people not really knowing what they are looking for - or being completely unrealistic. My partner and I met on gay.com 10 years ago. The only thing in common is that we are both introverts. The similarities end there. We were both going after specific things and pretty much got it.

Diogenes Teufelsdrockh: There is a serious lack of proper perspective to be found in many women who turn to the internet to find their uberman.

uberman?

if you're gonna go the foreign language route, you may as well go all the way and not bail half-way through

/unless you mean Grubermann
//boot to the head

WhiteCrane: Does it help avoid problems if you actually put you flaws in the profile? After reading the thread down below, I actually did a profile for Match.com. I'm hoping the fact that I emphasized that I clock in at "strongly expressed introvert" and am enough of a geek to enjoy D&D will keep those looking for "soul mates" away. I'd rather have zero hits that deal with those.

That's funny, I'm going through that now myself. I really don't want to list myself as "heavyset", 'cause that's as much a red flag to women as "kids: more than zero" is to men. I also don't want to lie and see her face drop when she sees the gut for the first time. And there isn't much value in saying, "Yes, I'm fat, but I'm surprisingly flexible."

/I sound big-boned
//You sound big-assed. Dinosaurs are big-boned

Knara: Diogenes Teufelsdrockh: There is a serious lack of proper perspective to be found in many women who turn to the internet to find their uberman.

uberman?

if you're gonna go the foreign language route, you may as well go all the way and not bail half-way through

/unless you mean Grubermann
//boot to the head

Nope, I meant uberman as a catchall word. I thought about Superman and Übermensch, but, let's face it, they aren't good enough for what some of these euphemistically called "BBW"s list as their expectations in a mate.

Snatch Bandergrip: That's funny, I'm going through that now myself. I really don't want to list myself as "heavyset", 'cause that's as much a red flag to women as "kids: more than zero" is to men. I also don't want to lie and see her face drop when she sees the gut for the first time. And there isn't much value in saying, "Yes, I'm fat, but I'm surprisingly flexible."

/I sound big-boned
//You sound big-assed. Dinosaurs are big-boned

You know the solution to this is to eat better, get into shape and THEN get on that dating site, right?

I'm doing pretty good from online dating. Met 3 great women, hooking up with one of them, and thinking about seriously dating another.

Got nothing bad to say about it.

Met my wife online dating, after a lot of online dates fro hell. On first glance of her profile we didn't have much in common. I really wasn't a huge fan of her favorite movies, books or music. She didn't even put up very flattering pictures of herself . Went into the first date with low expectations. Almost backed out of the date, but I didn't have anything else to do that night. Turns out she was REALLY attractive in person. It also turns out pop culture touchstones like favorite movies and music is often times a really bad way to judge compatibility (at least for me anyway). There are very important things about people that are hard to decipher just from online profiles ... their deeper values, intellectual curiosity, how they treat people, their outlook on money/finances (a bigger issue with couples than I originally thought). My advice is to just go out on dates, even people who you might not think you're compatible with on first glance, and have fun with it.

I met my current girlfriend online (been dating about 8 months). I had been doing the online dating thing for about a year prior to meeting her. It was pretty up and down, hooked up with a few girls off of it, but nothing ever really stuck until I met her. It's worked out extremely well. She's very pretty, we always get along great, we have a lot of similar interests, and she's a lot less crazy than most of the women I was meeting in real life. I'm always busy as hell with my career and have never been particularly social (at least not in the go-out-and-pick-up-chicks-in-a-bar sort of way), so it's not like the two of us really would have met any other way. The only semi-awkward thing about it is when people ask how we met, but online dating is so common now that nobody has ever made a big deal about it.

bravian: T.rex: Well, because most of those sites are set up on a false concept... A healthy relationship is typically not one where the guy and girl are an exact mirror of one another... There is no room for growth in that scenario... neither person is contributing to the other... Someone who agrees with you on every issue is gonna be boring.

I'm a firm believer that opposites attract, with only some minor ancillary activities or personality traits that are common to both.

I generally agree but its not the problem with the tool - its the problem with people not really knowing what they are looking for - or being completely unrealistic. My partner and I met on gay.com 10 years ago. The only thing in common is that we are both introverts. The similarities end there. We were both going after specific things and pretty much got it.

I congratulate you. Me, being an introvert myself, i sometimes think that I'd be better off with an extrovert, to get me out of the house, but by the same token, i'm glad that i'm with another introvert, because, now i don't have to leave the house.

/not saying leaving the house is the definition of an extrovert... Just painting broad strokes here.

Knara
You know the solution to this is to eat better, get into shape and THEN get on that dating site, right?

That's like, hard work and stuff.

/Working on it

TwistedFark: My guess is that both of you are grossly over-estimating the "averageness" of your looks. Average compared to what, an Uruk-hai orc?

Wasn't there some large study showing how women have bizarrely high expectations/demands for the appearance of their online date, while men were far more open-minded?

I seem to recall something along the lines of how female online daters rated 95% of men as "average" in looks - or below. (For the English majors out there: that means that they thought only 1 in 20 guys was above average, let alone good-looking).

But then, I guess it isn't surprising when your inbox (actual, non-metaphorical inbox) is swamped with adoring messages from men within minutes after opening your female profile...

Rambino: TwistedFark: My guess is that both of you are grossly over-estimating the "averageness" of your looks. Average compared to what, an Uruk-hai orc?

Wasn't there some large study showing how women have bizarrely high expectations/demands for the appearance of their online date, while men were far more open-minded?

I seem to recall something along the lines of how female online daters rated 95% of men as "average" in looks - or below. (For the English majors out there: that means that they thought only 1 in 20 guys was above average, let alone good-looking).

But then, I guess it isn't surprising when your inbox (actual, non-metaphorical inbox) is swamped with adoring messages from men within minutes after opening your female profile...

Woman have Hollywood expectations. The hero in the chick flicks is supposed to be the average looking guy who gets the girl in the end. Except Brad Pitt (or whomever the women drool over) is a Hollywood Hunk(tm), not an average looking guy. Now the real average guys (I'm being kind to myself by thinking I'm in this category) are finding it impossible to reach this new goal post.

I don't hate chick flicks because of the sappy stories. I hate chick flicks because of this shiat.

OgreMagi: Now the real average guys (I'm being kind to myself by thinking I'm in this category) are finding it impossible to reach this new goal post.

I'm just an average man
With an average life
I work from nine to five
Hey, hell, I pay the price
All I want is to be left alone
In my average home
But why do I always feel
Like I'm in the twilight zone

And (I always feel like)
(Somebody's watching me)
And I have no privacy
Whooooa-oh-oh
(I always feel like)
(Somebody's watching me)
Tell me, is it just a dream

When I come home at night
I bolt the door real tight
People call me on the phone
I'm trying to avoid
But can the people on TV see me
Or am I just paranoid

I'm a fairly average looking guy. I'm pretty overweight (although used to do a lot of weights which means it doesn't look *too* terrible on me). I met my significant other online because we used to hang out on the same forum so not via online dating. She knew what I looked like long before we met, but was still in to me. I've found out it's because of my personality. It's something that REALLY stands out about me (apparently).

/I get hit on by a lot of guys too
//I don't really hit on people, just talk crap and see if we're interested in each other
///I don't get it either

Something I saw just a few minutes ago.

Q: Are you vegetarian or vegan?
A: Yes
Explanation: "I eat meat about once or twice a week."
4 minutes ago Talk about it Hide her


So you're a vegetarian/vegan that eats meat on a weekly basis?

I thought I once had a date setup via an online site. The day of the date, I got an e-mail from the site mentioning they deleted a bunch of accounts for people arrested for fraud.

Now I'm dating a friend of a friend. Most of the women who looked listed themselves in my age range either had standards that were so damn high nobody would ever meet them all, OR they looked like they should be on a my husband just died and my grandkids just graduated college site.

OgreMagi: Rambino: TwistedFark: My guess is that both of you are grossly over-estimating the "averageness" of your looks. Average compared to what, an Uruk-hai orc?

Wasn't there some large study showing how women have bizarrely high expectations/demands for the appearance of their online date, while men were far more open-minded?

I seem to recall something along the lines of how female online daters rated 95% of men as "average" in looks - or below. (For the English majors out there: that means that they thought only 1 in 20 guys was above average, let alone good-looking).

But then, I guess it isn't surprising when your inbox (actual, non-metaphorical inbox) is swamped with adoring messages from men within minutes after opening your female profile...

Woman have Hollywood expectations. The hero in the chick flicks is supposed to be the average looking guy who gets the girl in the end. Except Brad Pitt (or whomever the women drool over) is a Hollywood Hunk(tm), not an average looking guy. Now the real average guys (I'm being kind to myself by thinking I'm in this category) are finding it impossible to reach this new goal post.

I don't hate chick flicks because of the sappy stories. I hate chick flicks because of this shiat.

Sorry, but the common link here isn't the girls, it's you. There is something about you that puts women off.

DEAL WITH IT.

/no one likes to hear a man complain
//especially women