Brettster808: AtticusFinchEsq: Out the submitter. Let's sponsor this guy.

Yup

ditto

I'm so sorry. I know how you are hurting right now.

so sorry you had to make that decision. My mom died around Christmas. She didn't even make it to the hospital, sparing us of any decisions like that. She did it on purpose too--thanks, mom. If you were OK with it, then I guess I am too.

Hey subby, if you see this, ....

Sometime around 2004, I was listening to Al Franken talk about his dying mother, and if I remember this right, and I probably don't, one thing he said he did at the hospital was to set up a chair he could sleep in, and basically just be there holding her hand night and day. So that if she did come around at all at times, she would know family was there.

My mother passed away in 2005, my father in the early 80s.

Anyway, when my mother was dying, I set up a chair, and would be there for the overnight shift (I had brothers there at other times), and I just held her hand, occasionally giving it a squeeze, and occasionally feeling her squeeze back. And then eventually, I knew, she was no longer squeezing back in any manner, and then we just waited for the rest of the family to get into town.

Well, you might want to consider it. It made me feel much better about her finaly stay in the hospital.

Also, I don't know how old you are, but my dad went when I was about 20. An adult I thought, I missed him, but well, I was an adult.

It wasn't until a decade or more later when I was married and with kids and at times lost in my relationship with my wife that I realized how much I lost when I lost my dad. A person to share with, to learn from, to talk to, to experience as an adult, to show off my kids to,

I haven't seen him in 30 years, and I miss him every single day.

Be well subby.

I will not say "Do not weep" for not all tears are an evil.

Bathia_Mapes: And now we're green, folks. :-)

I saw it green for a couple of minutes, and it was all I could do to not enter

Hey! Congrats for the green subby!

Because that would be wrong.

My boyfriend just found out that his dad died today. He never got the chance to meet or even see pictures of our son that was born two weeks ago. It's a sad day here today.

/condolences to you as well subby

This is why people pay for TF.

I drop an e-mail once in while, but it's an exercise in humility because as old as he is he's still just such a better man than I will ever be.

I just booked tickets this week to take my wife, our 20 month old son and 3 month old daughter from Chicago to Southern California to visit my folks. I called my mom to make arrangements. 10 minutes later, my dad called back and gave me his AMEX number so they could pay for our tickets out.

I love Chicago, but I'm working to move my family out to California so we can be near my parents in their latter years.

My father in law is dying from cancer in Alaska and my mother in law is self absorbed in Minnesota. So those are no goes.

My poor son has been sick the last week and even when I'm pissed off about being up at 4AM with him, my heart hurts for how sick he is. Even while he's driving me nuts during the day while I'm trying to make him a meal and he's kicking me, I love the little guy to death. I can't count how many dinners I've burned because I'm holding him and giving a play-by-play on how I'm trying to cook everything.

My condolences, Subby.

My condolences subby, I understand completely. My dad died 21 years ago of cancer, at the age of 62. He hadn't been feeling well and my grandfather (who live nearby) went to check on him; he called for my grandmother to come quickly. Dad died in his mothers arms, and grandma and grandpa both died within two years. None of my children ever met their grandparents or great-grandparents from my side of the family :(

Oddly coincidental. I just found out a friend of a friend lost a parent today (well, maybe yesterday, time differences and all).

I'm neither on the best or worst terms with my father. We've never seen eye to eye on much, but we don't really bother about it either: I always thought one of the best things about being raised by him was that he gave up on raising us his way and let us work things out for ourselves, which is just the sort of people we are.

/better than his relationship with his own father, an abusive drunk who actually shot him once
//he wanted to piss on his dad's grave when he died, but it was a cross country drive.

Since there's not really words to say...I'll just silently salute subby.

i wish i had words that could give you strength to endure what is yet to come. i believe that the power of Fark will try to do whatever we can to console and to carry you through this.
May your heart rest peacefully that your decision is a strong and brave choice. And it is right.
i hope you and your family are able to help each other as your father moves on to the next great adventure. Peace to him and to you.
i wish you the best.


/i have been reconnecting with my father this last year.
//It's been hard, but worthwhile.
///Damn it's dusty in here.

My father died almost six years ago. We spread him in the Hudson River. I think of him whenever I cross (which is sometimes 2-4 times a day). Biggest regret was that he never got a chance to meet any of his grandchildren.

My dad is currently in Kandahar. My fiancée's father is 72. Do not take any day with your loved ones for granted.

My dad's an a**hole. He's not getting a call unless I decide I want to say "fark you".

/sorry about your dad. most are good, mine's not.

I'm sorry for your loss, subby.

There isn't much I can add that hasn't already been said by smarter and more eloquent farkers than me in the space above.

So bad to be right in this situation. I'm sure it is what he wanted you to do. Remember the best. Forget the rest. I have no dad to call anymore, but I will call Mom tomorrow.

My dad was the most stubborn, hard headed, strong willed man who angered me a LOT in his later years because he would not even change any of his thinking about the way he saw things. As he grew more ill, it came to the point where we would actually have words because he didn't always know what was good for him or mom. He passed shortly before Thanksgiving and I will always miss him and treasure every disagreement because he knew I loved him and I knew he loved me.

And, my dad's favorite saying when he didn't want to do something was "Life isn't a soap opera son" lol

RIP dad, and peace to you Subby

...that is all

My grandmother passed away a year and half ago. I had graduated college and wanted to see her, three~ days later she passed away.

I miss her stories - she was a mighty fine story teller.

Subby, you have my condolences and support. That decision probably took a good bit of effort.

Man, sorry to hear. I also went through the same thing a few years ago with my grandparents. My grandfather had alzheimer's and as you know, sometimes it is just 'time". My grandmother had to make the decision as well...not pretty. My condolences and I raise my Tito's Vodak and tonic in the honor of you both.