doglover: It makes sense. I mean, do you REALLY want to be asleep with a meth head hooker in your Manhattan apartment with the bed next to the knife collection and your jewelry right there?

But...but...but she said that I ruined her for other men! That she would never sleep with another man again!

From the abstract: "Participants' desires for partner expressions of emotional bonding, physical affection, and communication were higher when their partners' had greater tendencies to fall asleep first after sex."

In other words, X's desire for Y saying "I love you" is higher when Y tends to fall asleep first.

So, to latch onto the stereotype, when men fall asleep first, it pisses off their wives because their wives think they're emotionally distant.

That seems like the exact opposite of the headline.

Starry Heavens: That seems like the exact opposite of the headline.

On Fark? THE HELL YOU SAY!

PizzaJedi81: Starry Heavens: That seems like the exact opposite of the headline.

On Fark? THE HELL YOU SAY!

To be fair, the Fark article correctly summarizes the DailyMail headline... which is what contradicts the DailyMail's article and the researchers' article.

For anyone interested in some quotes from the researchers' article: (pops to the article; emphasis mine)

"Our results indicate that fulfillment of goals in sexual relationships does not end with the act of sex."

"We did not find support for the prediction that men would tend to fall asleep first after sex. In contrast, previous research had demonstrated this relationship (Halpern & Sherman, 1979), consistent with conventional wisdom. It is possible that this phenomenon is an unfounded stereotype, but it is also possible that our retrospective self-report measures are not sensitive enough to uncover the predicted pattern."

And, related to how they gathered the data:

"Participants were 456 (295 females, 161 males) ethnically diverse undergraduates from two public Midwestern universities, (M age = 20, SD age = 3) who completed anonymous surveys at their convenience over the Internet. Participants reported their relationship status as single (40%), dating casually (9%), in a committed relationship (48%), and engaged or married (2.9%)."

"This study was an exploratory attempt to document perceived sleep patterns of couples after having had sex and not having had sex based upon self-report. Future investigations could improve upon the actual documentation of sleep patterns by having participants keep sleep records to enhance the recall of this information. However, this study does demonstrate how perceptions of sleep patterns after having sex relate to perceptions and desires of couple bonding during the [Post-Coital Time Interval]."

In short, the only thing that seems to disprove the stereotype of "falling asleep right after sex makes the other person feel emotionally needy" is that it applies to both genders, not just one.

Truly, madly, deeply sleepy.

calbert: so falling asleep during sex must mean that you're in super-love.

Or super-love in you is not so super

I_Am_Weasel: See. I knew it. Masturbation is often related to self loathing.

Is this the sort of thing that keeps you awake at night?

Ishkur: PizzaJedi81: But...but...but she said that I ruined her for other men! That she would never sleep with another man again!

I don't know if turning women into lesbians is really something you should strive toward.

Hey now, I only did that twice. The third one just turned out to be bi.

For not getting laid very much, these nerd guys sure do make life easier on the rest of us.

Keep doing the Lord's work, boys.

Well, if you wouldn't just lay there and maybe onceinawhile jump on top maybe I wouldn't be so tuckered out after sexxing you babe.

Starry Heavens: From the abstract: "Participants' desires for partner expressions of emotional bonding, physical affection, and communication were higher when their partners' had greater tendencies to fall asleep first after sex."

In other words, X's desire for Y saying "I love you" is higher when Y tends to fall asleep first.

So, to latch onto the stereotype, when men fall asleep first, it pisses off their wives because their wives think they're emotionally distant.

That seems like the exact opposite of the headline.

*snort* Huh? What? I was totally awake, I just missed what you said. Could you repeat it?

zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz

I gotta say... chewing your arm off and sneaking away doesn't do a damned bit of good when you're at YOUR PLACE. Might as well just sleep and hope it gets better in the morning.

Love it. Women fall asleep first in order to avoid having sex; men fall asleep first after sex to avoid talking.

And subby, your reading skills suck.

Scientists say falling asleep right after sex is a sign you're deeply in love.

Well, I suppose it beats having the guy knock furniture over in his haste to get the hell out of the girls' apartment.

How in the Hell can that even be comfortable?

As oppose to quickly grabbing your clothes and running out the door?

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How in the Hell can that even be comfortable?

Next you're going to tell me that the women laughing alone with salad (^) aren't honestly enjoying themselves!

keylock71: This is relevant to my interests...

Tell me about it. I'm as jet-lagged as a human can be right now, but Mrs_Fab has me penciled in for some bouncy-time in about 6 hours. I'll be comatose before she can roll me off her.

I just got laid so I'm getting a kick out of these zzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzzz...*

What love, might look like.

I_Am_Weasel: See. I knew it. Masturbation is often related to self loathing.

I hate myself.
I hate myself.
I hate myself.
I hate myself.

For me falling asleep means the endorphin rush wasn't strong enough.

Men invariably fall asleep first? I always have a shiatload of energy afterward. I always feel like I could throw a car or something. I can't be the only one, right?

Yeah, I'm energized afterwards too. I want to run a frickin marathon or write a novel. My lady is the one who usually passes out.

I'd be fine with talkin but she ain't into it at all.

My fella and I usually both fall asleep soon after. He's asleep right now and we haven't even done the do.

/wait a sec

zez: [i.dailymail.co.uk image 468x321]

How in the Hell can that even be comfortable?

Meanwhile..

.. at McCartneys