Duh!

Jokes on you parents im actually 37.

What I'll be doing while my kid is at the party.

/Forwarding address....I knew I forgot to tell you something.

My name's pretty easy to figure out.

Hot teen lesbians.

/otherwise teens not good

Excuse me, but I'm 35. You got that wrong.

Tough to tell what my kids will be like. My wife was apparently one of these teens. I honestly don't recall having a single screaming match with my mom growing up. Mostly because I was raised well enough to know when something I was requesting was unreasonable.

Actually the real trick to your kids not saying rude things to you is
1) Don't ever let their rudeness change what you expect of them. As in never say, "That's ok, you don't have to do such and such if you don't want to", after they acted rude.
2) Never insist upon them doing something if you don't really want them to do it. If you really want them to do it, make them do it no matter what. If you don't really want them to do it, make it known up front that it is optional but that you'd like them to do it.

Its the old "don't start a fight you don't intend to win".

My stock replies to these, which I have heard at least once a week for years now:
"I hate you".-----eh, get in line and take a number. You're behind your mom, all your brothers and sisters and the cats.
"That's so stupid"----stupid is as stupid does.
"You're a psychotic neat freak"---and you're a damn oinker. Cleanliness is next to Godliness, so get with it.

You are the parent, they are the kid. In my house, kids do chores and homework.
And sometimes I even get them to do them without a lot of whining and drama.

They are certainly an egocentric bunch, in the at the world revolves around them.

Only thing that gets me is lack of ANY planning. I am not talking about 30 - 60 - 90 day plans, more like, question is asked about 1 - 2 on a Saturday afternoon, "so what are your plans?"; answer is "it's developing"

Then at 8 I am suddenly supposed to drop whatever I am doing to take them someplace, to be with someone. no details (like names) or other any remote information is available. Then I am the bad guy for not just jumping to the bat pole and heading off into the night.

I just beat my kids regularly as they're growing up, so that by the time they become teenagers they fear me enough not to cross me. Seems to be working so far.

I dunno. Hard to tell what my kid is saying from inside that box.

/how should I 'translate' "No more hose. I'm so very sorry."?

Is this the Parenting section of FARK ??? 'cause you know, I come here only for the very best in parenting advice!!!!

If you never allow them to ever talk to you like that in the first place, when they are teenagers they know better than to try that crap. Although eventually they will, but they know the consequences for acting the fool.

Jesus Christo having a surly uncommnicative teen is hard. Now I know why my mother thought I was a smartass shiathead.

I have a bad feeling that karma is going to biatchslap me for how I acted towards my parents when I was 15-17. For some reason everything is life and death, black and white at that age.

-"No, you can't go spend a week in the Dominican with that 28 year old guy you met at the arena."
-"I hate you, you're ruining my life!!!1!!"

I put everything I learned on Fark to good use and just troll my children mercilessly. What's that? You have a crappy attitude? Next time your friends are over, can you guess whose nekkid baby pictures are coming out? I can't wait to tell your girlfriend all about the time you smeared poop all over your train set when you were three and then told me they were stuck in the mud. Bring it, you little turds.

I did not allow my Children to speak disrespectfully to either me or to their Mother. They quickly learned that it was not in their best Interest to do so.
I did use corporal Punishment. One one occasion, I took my Son's Stereo and I locked it in the Storage Shed for a Week before he was allowed to have it back.
I only had to punish my Kids a couple of Times and the disrespect, came to a halt.

Kind of weird that I know someone who purportedly did whatever she wanted as a teenager but seems to mostly dislike her mother now as an adult in part because she never gave a crap what her daughter did.

/Or something like that

Strik3r: Is this the Parenting section of FARK ??? 'cause you know, I come here only for the very best in parenting advice!!!!

Sell them when they are 13. Problem solved. It's a time-tested solution to all teenager problems.

ventrman: I did not allow my Children to speak disrespectfully to either me or to their Mother. They quickly learned that it was not in their best Interest to do so.
I did use corporal Punishment. One one occasion, I took my Son's Stereo and I locked it in the Storage Shed for a Week before he was allowed to have it back.
I only had to punish my Kids a couple of Times and the disrespect, came to a halt.

when you capitalize "Times" it makes me think these were pretty ominous major "Events" rather than the (probably) mundane occurrence that lead to withholding your son's stereo for a week...

Leashlaw: 16

Yea, I did that too. I'd disappear for months and my parents would just send me back to school when I got home. I think we shared the same method of transportation. I hitched to Seattle from the mid-west twice in the early 90's...would not suggest that to anyone, the trains were dangerous, but not as dangerous as possible serial killers.

Honestly, I think that as farking stupid as most of the things that we did, it made me a better person in the long run.

"My father was frightened of his mother. I was frightened of my father. And I am damned well going to see that my children are frightened of me"
-King George V

One of my favorite quotations, and also a truth in regards to my personal upbringing.

Long time lurker, first time poster. Hello, everyone.

reverendsaintjay: I'm the dad, I have to make the hard decisions and deal with the harsh realities. I'm not here to be your friend, I'm here to make sure you survive into adulthood. I love you, more than anything, and that will have to be enough for both of us.

It's ok if you hate me, it means that you are still around to do it.

This

Moonfisher: I put everything I learned on Fark to good use and just troll my children mercilessly. What's that? You have a crappy attitude? Next time your friends are over, can you guess whose nekkid baby pictures are coming out? I can't wait to tell your girlfriend all about the time you smeared poop all over your train set when you were three and then told me they were stuck in the mud. Bring it, you little turds.

Ha. I didn't realize it, but I do the same thing. I'm also a substitute teacher, and I troll those kids mercilessly too. They all deserve it.

Maybe we would be less rude if the Parents could recognize that there are instances when we know best. Tried reason, but these are parents we are dealing with, so when did that ever work?

I hate the chick who wrote this article.

I wish I had read a different article instead.

She is a psychotic biatch.

She is so stupid.

Tjaden4815: Maybe we would be less rude if the Parents could recognize that there are instances when we know best. Tried reason, but these are parents we are dealing with, so when did that ever work?

You want to be right? Then you be right in adult terms. Write a full report and give it to your parents with return on investment numbers and how it will help you succeed in your endeavors after they kick you out of the house.

kbotc: Tjaden4815: Maybe we would be less rude if the Parents could recognize that there are instances when we know best. Tried reason, but these are parents we are dealing with, so when did that ever work?

You want to be right? Then you be right in adult terms. Write a full report and give it to your parents with return on investment numbers and how it will help you succeed in your endeavors after they kick you out of the house.

Yeah, because we all know adults think that way.

occamswrist: kbotc: Tjaden4815: Maybe we would be less rude if the Parents could recognize that there are instances when we know best. Tried reason, but these are parents we are dealing with, so when did that ever work?

You want to be right? Then you be right in adult terms. Write a full report and give it to your parents with return on investment numbers and how it will help you succeed in your endeavors after they kick you out of the house.

Yeah, because we all know adults think that way.

Wouldn't say you need a full report, but part of being right is being able to express yourself. If you can't defend your proposal against your parents questions, and you can't explain why they are wrong and you know best, then part of being an adult is acknowledging that sometimes, just being pretty sure you know what's best isn't good enough.

Once you become a parent, trying to know what's best is even more important, and if it comes down to your unsupported claims versus a parents unsupported biases, it's not a shock who wins.

Tjaden4815: Maybe we would be less rude if the Parents could recognize that there are instances when we know best. Tried reason, but these are parents we are dealing with, so when did that ever work?

Riiiiiiigght. Gotcha. "I tried "reason" and that didn't work. So now I get to be a childish arsehole about it." Why won't they treat me like an adult and make my own decisions?!?!?"

Name one instance in which a teenager "knows better" than a parent.

Is it just me, or does this read like it was written by someone who's never raised a teenager, but just vividly remembers being one when their parents were being so totally unreasonable about that overnight party.

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What I'll be doing while my kid is at the party.

/Forwarding address....I knew I forgot to tell you something.

My mom did that to me. She thought it was hilarious when I finally called her and told her whoever was living at our other house did not think it funny a total stranger walked in their door.

Our oldest turned 16 today, so getting a kick out of this.

We do corporal punishment however rarely needed. Always talk out why any discipline is handed out. Sometimes he hates that more than being grounded. Lying is never allowed. When asking him to do something it is expected to be done and I am always specific, so as to stop any misunderstandings. The chores are shared between us and all 3 kids, so no need for him to feel like a slave. Rudeness towards mom always draws a chewing out no matter what. (gets him used to married life) Give him room to be himself. When it comes to things he knows that I have no problem reducing what he has to only what the law requires me to give him. Mom gave him a tv when he was 5. He would turn it on after bedtime. Took that away and now I am considering giving him another one later this spring. I think 11 years might have been long enough time to think it over. Get to know your kids early and stay in touch with them. Living with them doesn't mean you know them. Teaching them life will not always bring happiness prevents snowflakiness.

My wife is 5 months pregnant. We found out a week ago that it's a girl. I'm buying a shotgun.

My dad and I didn't get along. I know a lot of it had to be that I was doing the typical teenage independence struggle, but I think a lot of it also had to do with the fact that my dad misunderstood a lot of the culture I was becoming a part of. It's hard to grow up in a Christian home and decide you like punk rock, no matter how many times "Christian" is stamped on the sticker. That, and my dad had little patience. And I think I've inherited that trait. My poor daughter is probably screwed.

JackieRabbit : Name one instance in which a teenager "knows better" than a parent.


For me it's whenever I have to program the TIVO. And one of them knows deaf sign language, so that too.
Otherwise they need watching, for their impulse control is about nil and their logic is often severely flawed.

I hear a good punch to the face works just as well

As a single parent to a 10 year old girl, who is very loving and respectful. My parents made the right decision back in the 80's to give my brother and me one good beating when we royally farked up. I got spanked with a hockey stick blade once and my brother got the ping pong paddle. Put the fear of god in both of us. Try doing that today without losing custody

maybe i'm just weird, but i never once said anything like that to my parents. i've never disrespected my parents like that, hell, i don't think i ever really argued with them before, especially when i was a kid. i was pretty easygoing and my parents never had a problem with how i behaved.

of course, i was not very social and never left the house. i never saw my friends outside of school, so no arguing about curfews. and i didn't learn to drive until after college, so no arguments about the car. i never had even the slightest interest in alcohol or drugs or anything like that. there was nothing for my and my parents to argue about.

Beat the crap out of the little punks. I hear it cures ADD. I saw it on South Park so it must be true.

JackieRabbit: Strik3r: Is this the Parenting section of FARK ??? 'cause you know, I come here only for the very best in parenting advice!!!!

Sell them when they are 13. Problem solved. It's a time-tested solution to all teenager problems.

I did exactly this...three times. Extremely happy and wealthy now!

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