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(Huffington Post)   New book explains why men will never be monogamous. Yes ladies, your man too   ( huffingtonpost.com) divider line
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2012-01-07 12:32:06 PM  
The greatest aphrodisiac is strange pussy.
 
2012-01-07 12:49:20 PM  
Good luck getting most men buying this book. Especially at $50. WTF?
 
2012-01-07 12:56:11 PM  
Not large but in charge:

B==D
 
2012-01-07 12:57:32 PM  

eddyatwork: The greatest aphrodisiac is strange different pussy.

 
2012-01-07 12:58:55 PM  

star_topology: eddyatwork: The greatest aphrodisiac is strange different pussy.

 
2012-01-07 12:59:43 PM  
Rather than marrying 20 times or more in one's life via serial monogamy, we can keep one emotional lover and just have casual, meaningless -- and hot -- sex with strangers.

We gays have this down to a science.
 
2012-01-07 12:59:46 PM  
Holy shiat that book is $49.99.
 
2012-01-07 12:59:56 PM  
Monogamy is a bullshiat system inspired purely by fear.
 
2012-01-07 01:00:04 PM  
Because women force their men out of the house with their incessant talking and nagging, thereby forcing them to bars where they meet new women that haven't yet crushed their very soul?
 
2012-01-07 01:00:37 PM  
his test group was university undergrad males. might as well have used a bonobo troop - the results would have been the same.
 
2012-01-07 01:01:18 PM  
I've done a good job of keeping my dick out of the strange. I'm not saying it isn't hard difficult, but it seems to be worth it.
 
2012-01-07 01:02:10 PM  
What utter bullshiat: "his study of 120 undergraduate men, 78 percent of those who had a partner cheated"

And yet he gets published, instead of laughed out of the profession.

Call me when it's a study of 500 married men, or something. Sheesh

/and the other 22 percent were lying
//cause college students never sleep around *rolls eyes*
 
2012-01-07 01:02:17 PM  
New book explains why men will never be monogamous I'm not buying said new book for $49.99
 
2012-01-07 01:02:35 PM  
Did anyone else get so far as to notice the term "extradyadic" ?

I think I have a new favorite word :)
 
2012-01-07 01:03:35 PM  
From TFA:

You say men want to be emotionally monogamous, but their "body craves sex with other people somatically." People crave food, drugs, booze, sometimes to disastrous results. If there can be self-control with other cravings, why can't men control their body urges?

Humans are largely lousy at controlling our bodies' desires. We say we don't want to eat that Snickers bar, but we also really do want to eat it. We eat it, we feel guilty about it, and afterwards we promise ourselves not to eat one again; but we nonetheless do. It is this same phenomenon, only with cheating, that I explore.


So you're saying that

1) Human beings lack even the self-control to refrain from eating candy?
2) Cheating on your partner is the moral equivalent of caving in on your diet?

I have some friends in AA who would like to have a word with this guy...
 
2012-01-07 01:03:42 PM  
I call shenanigans. My wife satisfies me just fine. I see a nice piece of tail and sure, I look. But I have something called personal responsibility and the knowledge that while some strange might be fun, the hurt that it would do to my wife outweighs the pleasure I'd have doing it. So I don't. Conclusion, don't get married unless you mean it.
 
2012-01-07 01:03:53 PM  

Toshiro Mifune's Letter Opener: New book explains why men will never be monogamous I'm not buying said new book for $49.99


It's only 47.05 on Amazon!
 
2012-01-07 01:04:11 PM  
This is just wishful thinking on the part of the author.

Most women aren't OK with this, even if they say they are. Most couples will fall apart if they start to pursue open relationships. But most relationships don't pursue it until the relationship is already crap, so maybe that's the problem.
 
2012-01-07 01:05:29 PM  
$50 for a book that explains how undergraduates cheat on their girlfriends. I wish I had the foresight to get into the "pay me to write about forehead-slappingly obvious shiat" business.
 
2012-01-07 01:06:47 PM  
I wouldn't pay 49.99¢ for that book.
 
2012-01-07 01:07:51 PM  
Truth is a fruit that should only be picked when ripe.

But in the meantime, keep doing our daughters a disservice by telling them their fairy-tale Prince Charming eternal soulmate is waiting for them when they turn 18.
 
2012-01-07 01:07:53 PM  
i'll never cheat on the right one

...yes, i do mean my hand
 
2012-01-07 01:08:26 PM  

epoc_tnac: Monogamy is a bullshiat system inspired purely by fear.


I think it probably had its place before there was protection or even an understanding of what disease is and ways that it spreads. If you farked all over the place you were more likely to get sick and die. I think that may have something to do with the whole monogamy thing you see in so many religions. They didn't understand what disease was and could easily explain all the playboys and harlots getting sick as "punishment from God." Now? Not so much now with available technology and our understanding of diseases.

/fark away, everyone
 
2012-01-07 01:08:29 PM  
Dan Savage has been saying this for years, and it doesn't cost friggin $50 to read his weekly blog.
 
2012-01-07 01:09:59 PM  

TheOther: Not large but in charge:

B==D BD


FTFY
 
2012-01-07 01:10:04 PM  
Yeah, I've never cheated.
Even if I've found myself in a situation where I feel trapped emotionally (or worse, because of my financial situation), I've found it's always better just to leave. Maybe things will work out in the far future, but for the moment, some space and freedom is what's needed. You'd be amazed how many women are open to that idea. There's no need for deceit.
 
2012-01-07 01:10:15 PM  
Next book: How I Got You To Pay $50 For My Book, Using Nothing But Your Own Insecurities
 
2012-01-07 01:10:19 PM  

TheOther: star_topology: eddyatwork: The greatest aphrodisiac is strange different pussy.


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Also, this could just have been a one-page flyer that said "biatches be crazy"
 
2012-01-07 01:10:55 PM  

DreamyAltarBoy: I've done a good job of keeping my dick out of the strange. I'm not saying it isn't hard difficult, but it seems to be worth it.


So your wife knows your Fark ID, then?
 
2012-01-07 01:12:34 PM  
sounds like there's some high academic demand to be able to charge that price. great news sociology students, you get pay 50 bucks for a book!
 
2012-01-07 01:13:05 PM  
Any guesses on how many cats the author owns?

She sounds lonely and bitter.
 
2012-01-07 01:14:14 PM  
Because different women keep wanting to fark me.

//pulitzer please
 
2012-01-07 01:14:23 PM  
too bad about those pesky little stds
 
2012-01-07 01:14:25 PM  
If I had skillz and a wife who wouldn't castrate me afterwards, damn right I'd sleep around a bit once in a while. Novelty's fun and sometimes sex is just sex.

However, I don't and I wouldn't hurt my wife, so there's that.
 
2012-01-07 01:15:57 PM  

tomWright: TheOther: Not large but in charge:

B==D BD

FTFY


I didn't think it was that cold in this thread.
 
2012-01-07 01:16:19 PM  
Contrary to what we may think, most men aren't cheating because they don't love their partner, he says; they cheat because they just want to have sex with others. And society shouldn't pooh-pooh that.

So if I don't assault people in order to rob them but just because I like assaulting people, society shouldn't pooh-pooh that, I guess.

Look, don't make promises, fail to keep them, and then blame someone or something else. Either don't promise, or keep your promises, or admit to your failures and work to fix them and improve yourself. This kind of whiny rationalization bullshiat sells books but does nothing for the species.

If you want to be polygamous, polyamorous, whatever, fine, but don't dress it up in sad weak thinking. Cheating on intelligence is worse than cheating on your spouse.
 
2012-01-07 01:16:27 PM  
In his study of 120 undergraduate men, 78 percent of those who had a partner cheated, "even though they said that they loved and intended to stay with their partner."

I stopped reading right here.

Is this person f*cking joking?
 
2012-01-07 01:16:30 PM  
That's why my husband has his boyfriend right out front where i can see him. Poly isn't for children, but it solves a lot of human problems.


/thinks the BF is pretty cool
//his former girlfriend had the cray-cray, though
 
2012-01-07 01:16:48 PM  
12349876: It's only 47.05 on Amazon!

Oh, man... it's the choice I wish I never had to make: 941 pieces of Bazooka Chewing Gum or this book?

Decisions, decisions...
 
2012-01-07 01:17:36 PM  

Toshiro Mifune's Letter Opener: Oh, man... it's the choice I wish I never had to make: 941 pieces of Bazooka Chewing Gum or this book?


At least the gum will make your mouth hurt rather than your brain.
 
2012-01-07 01:17:36 PM  
Unsolicited opinion time.

I think monogamy is a relief. I don't know about anyone else, but I find dating to be expensive, stressful, difficult, depressing, and generally hollow.

I like growing with one person and having a life to look back on. I like having the safety and security of her love. I don't need to indulge whatever fantasies or impulses I may have because the cost is too great. Yeah okay, strange may seem appealing, but it's beguiling. It seduces you without delivering anything solid and lasting. It promises much and delivers terribly little.

I don't think that anyone who dislikes or doesn't believe in monogamy is wrong or stupid. We just have very different values and desires in life.
 
2012-01-07 01:18:06 PM  
Find a wife that likes to have sex with other women with you. It's awesome.
 
2012-01-07 01:18:28 PM  
A relationship thread so close to an atheist thread? Fark is wipping out the big guns today. There might be a popcorn shortage if we get a bike thread too.
 
2012-01-07 01:18:34 PM  
In his study of 120 undergraduate men, 78 percent of those who had a partner cheated, "even though they said that they loved and intended to stay with their partner."

Wow, way to pick your sample. Undergraduage college students--translation: young single guys who are prone to cheating on their girlfriends, and for whom "intending to stay with your partner" means not having found a compelling reason to dump her yet.

Good luck extrapolating that to older, married men with families for whom the potential consequences of cheating are much more serious.
 
2012-01-07 01:19:18 PM  

Toshiro Mifune's Letter Opener: 12349876: It's only 47.05 on Amazon!

Oh, man... it's the choice I wish I never had to make: 941 pieces of Bazooka Chewing Gum or this book?

Decisions, decisions...


Buy both?

Or better yet. Stop being stupid.
 
2012-01-07 01:20:27 PM  

Primum non nocere: Truth is a fruit that should only be picked when ripe.

But in the meantime, keep doing our daughters a disservice by telling them their fairy-tale Prince Charming eternal soulmate is waiting for them when they turn 18.


There are many mistruths spread around by our culture. One being that the right relationships just work, and don't need constant effort.
 
2012-01-07 01:20:48 PM  
If you aren't willing to stick with the person you are with, you are with the wrong person.

Maybe if you take more time to think about the relationships that you get into, you wouldn't feel such the overwhelming urge to cheat.

/cue the farkers who can't get a girl in the first place telling me I'm being a prude.
//Suck it, haters.
///Wait, "sucking it" is the problem...
 
2012-01-07 01:20:55 PM  
Ah another "study" to justify men's cheating. Lol, no matter how many times you try and spin it and justify it, women aren't buying it. Plus, I find it highly insulting that men all get grouped into one category of cheaters. Not all men cheat, I would say a majority do/would, but not all. Some people are actually happy in their relationships. It doesn't mean that they don't look/think about other people in sexual ways, but they don't have that biological drive to act on it.

I've cheated in the past (in my teens and early 20's), but that was because I didn't really care about the other people enough. Sure I "loved" a couple of them, but it was not the same. I would never do that now in my current relationship. Been together 7 years, married 6, and I've never felt the need to cheat despite being attracted to some other people.
 
2012-01-07 01:20:59 PM  

Inaditch: Find a wife that likes to have sex with other women with you. It's awesome.


fark you. I can get by without seeing other people with grass greener than mine, thanks!
 
2012-01-07 01:21:33 PM  
The failure of the matter is the whole "men need to cheat" and how the interviewer was trying to slant the conversation to a "men bad, women good" resolution.

Ok, men cheat. Men love to cheat. Whatever.

Now answer me this: With WHO do men cheat?

Unless they're gay, it's with other women.

Now, aren't those women cheating too? It's not like there magically appear for the man to cheat. They have partners too.
 
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