You eventually learn to ignore them...aside from the times you are intentionally humiliating them.

You mean NOT bottling up your emotions and turning into a ticking time bomb later on down the line might actually benefit you somehow?

/shenanigans!

GET OUT OF MY ROOOOOM!

/ron paul

How unhealthy are you if you never did that?

I'm pretty sure my parents thought I was being exposed to drugs and having unprotected sex long before I was exposed to drugs and having unprotected sex. Later, I realized my parents might be as mature as I am. Scary.

I learned talking back by watching you!

I hate you. BOTH!

I don't care if you want to go to the mall. 10 points from gryffindor

ultraholland: I learned talking back by watching you!



You want I should give you something to cry about!?

I informed my daughter of my failings before she reached the "pissy years", leaving her unarmed today.

My parents suffered though my 3 brothers and sister during their teens. My oldest brother during his gangsta phase to my sister going emo. I think they're glad I think they're glad I was more snarky than angry during my teens.

Great, I may be farked from being successful...

What about those of us who were smart enough to hide our various indiscretions from the prying eyes of parents?

A Terrible Human: What if one of your parents is a truly horrible,abusive jackass who beat your mother and abused your sister and you?

I don't know you from Adam, but you have my understanding and sincerest sympathy. My heart goes out to you. (Even if we later disagree in a political spat)

I used to go "Bock!" "Bock!" "Bock!" and cluck like a chicken to piss off the old man. He used to beat and kick me a cur dog from the age of 3 or 4 up until I moved in with my grandmother. I'm not talking getting spanked or an ass whooping, I'm talking about broken pelvic bones, blackened and bloody eyes and sympathetic hugs from whispering relatives. I've never had kids, partly because I believed I was 'damaged goods' as a potential parent. My father has been dead for years and we were able to reconcile prior to his death.

We don't all have to be assholes to one another on here. Especially when someone confides such a personal chapter of their life.

Gilligann: I used to slam my door. Then my parents would remove the door.

I removed the door from one of my kid's bedrooms. She didn't get it back for a year.

A Terrible Human: What if one of your parents is a truly horrible,abusive jackass who beat your mother and abused your sister and you?

Then I strongly urge you to sneak up on him while he's asleep and put a bullet in his skull while you're still a teenager and can get away with it, due to jury sympathy. I Big Brothered a teen in a similar situation. His father came home drunk a lot and raped his little sister. Beat on him too. So I helped him out, built up his confidence enough to stand up to Ol' Papa Pencil-dick. Next time his dad acted like shiat, he called the cops. When the cops came to the house and didn't do anything to help, he took his beating, waited till the old man fell asleep, and then beat him into a coma with a baseball bat. D.A. took one look at his medical file and list of beating-related injuries, and dropped all charges.

While I don't approve of hissy-fits and the 'you're horrible!' routine, I do fully believe that it is the responsibility of youth to challenge the notions and traditions of their parents. If a child DOESN'T demand justification for everything an adult says or does and insist on reasoned dialogue to explains why you do things, then the parent is failing at raising a well-adjusted and critically thinking human being. Then again, I believe that every tradition, of any kind, must be challenged, examined, and judged each time it is observed, and discarded if it is found to have no value or merit. It's a good policy for keeping one's life free of clutter.

Dahnkster: I used to go "Bock!" "Bock!" "Bock!" and cluck like a chicken to piss off the old man. He used to beat and kick me...

Did you cluck like a chicken to piss him off - before or after he beat you?

LOL @ TFA, which seems to insinuate that peer pressure is the only reason teenagers try drugs or alcohol.

You can give kids all the self confidence and critical thinking skills in the world and they will still try drugs and alcohol because they're fun and because societies taboos on them (especially drugs) do not stand up to critical investigation, being based on moral panic and prejudice as they are.

I agree with the general point that engaging with teenagers instead of just shouting them down is a good thing. If you don't then they'll just find ways to work around you anyway, with the added bonus that they'll stop listening to your opinions too.

Thanks, subby. It's been a while since I've thought about Molly Shannon.

jaylectricity: stop saying it's horrible so many times.

a friend was recently dumped so he emailed the lady asking for a little clarification (he thought the breakup was too sugar-coated) and man did the response include a gratuitous use of 'horrible'

You will shut up or I will shut you up. Do you understand?

Do. You. Understand?

You don't understand me!!! YOU NEVER HAVE!! YOU ONLY LISTEN TO YOUR PRECIOUS LITTLE ANDY AND I'M INVISIBLE!! I NEVER CHOSE TO BE BORN!!! *SLAMMM*** I HATE YOU!!


I feel much better now...sorry about the door.

Also, are they going to have a followup article on the best way to get your teen to buy pot for you?

Let the butthurt flow through you!!!

I once slammed my door so hard it got wedged into the doorframe, and I couldn't get out for half an hour. I think that was when I ran off screaming after punching my sister in the back of the head at dinner.


/good times

Subby - who are you, and why are you channelling my child?

OptimusHime: First thing I thought of:

THEM TITTIES BE SLAMMIN

Made me think of Vinnie Jones


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TomD9938: Dahnkster: I used to go "Bock!" "Bock!" "Bock!" and cluck like a chicken to piss off the old man. He used to beat and kick me...

Did you cluck like a chicken to piss him off - before or after he beat you?

The beatings started as a toddler. The clucking thing was Years later, right before I left home at age 14. I knew it enraged him and I did it just to try to 'get back' at him for all the years of physical abuse. Last year, my uncles confirmed that they were also beaten to the point of needing 'sewing up' and open wounds dressed... So I guess it was a learned behavior. By age 12 or 13, I might not have been big enough to defend myself, but I was fast enough to get away.

A Terrible Human: Dahnkster: I used to go "Bock!" "Bock!" "Bock!" and cluck like a chicken to piss off the old man. He used to beat and kick me a cur dog from the age of 3 or 4 up until I moved in with my grandmother. I'm not talking getting spanked or an ass whooping, I'm talking about broken pelvic bones, blackened and bloody eyes and sympathetic hugs from whispering relatives. I've never had kids, partly because I believed I was 'damaged goods' as a potential parent. My father has been dead for years and we were able to reconcile prior to his death.

We don't all have to be assholes to one another on here. Especially when someone confides such a personal chapter of their life.


Oh god that's farking horrible and I'm so sorry you had to deal with that. I wasn't talking about spankings either,when I was four I didn't get out of the car fast enough so dad broke my arm. I also understand what you mean about not wanting to be a parent. I'm terrified that I would repeat the same horrible things,except the sexual abuse. Warping a child into a broken adult doesn't take that much but when you deal almost every type of abuse everyday til you Mom finally decides to leave his sorry ass it just farks your brain up. When I have nightmares they involve him and the last time I saw him was when I was 14. I'm 22. I cower when people raise their voices,even if I'm not at all involved because of him.

I honestly don't think I'll ever be able to reconcile with him. My sister got a call from my aunt saying he was having major surgery in December of last year. Neither of us really cared and I'm planning to have a party when he dies.

/No I'm not bitter at all.

It's cool. You guys can still have kids. I had the same(ish) crappy childhood and raised a really cool guy. I didn't make the same mistakes my parents did. I made a whole set of new and different mistakes. Mistakes with flair. He still talks to me. Outdoors, in front of people, even.

Dahnkster: TomD9938: Dahnkster: I used to go "Bock!" "Bock!" "Bock!" and cluck like a chicken to piss off the old man. He used to beat and kick me...

Did you cluck like a chicken to piss him off - before or after he beat you?

The beatings started as a toddler. The clucking thing was Years later, right before I left home at age 14. I knew it enraged him and I did it just to try to 'get back' at him for all the years of physical abuse. Last year, my uncles confirmed that they were also beaten to the point of needing 'sewing up' and open wounds dressed... So I guess it was a learned behavior. By age 12 or 13, I might not have been big enough to defend myself, but I was fast enough to get away.

I was actually curious and not trying to be too cute.

It seemed that the only way someone would do something as obnoxious as 'clucking at them', would be if that person beat them first... and in your case... sure enough.

Hope all's well these days.

A Terrible Human: ThighsofGlory: It's cool. You guys can still have kids. I had the same(ish) crappy childhood and raised a really cool guy. I didn't make the same mistakes my parents did. I made a whole set of new and different mistakes. Mistakes with flair. He still talks to me. Outdoors, in front of people, even.

It's just the fear of turning into him honestly or being like him. I don't ever want that so I'm erring on the side of caution. I feel I'm actually too broken to raise kids even though I think kids are awesome. I'd really like to work with children or at a day care,but not a social worker holy shiat I'd lose my mind,yet the fear of me turning into a monster remains.

Maybe you can get a job as a foreman in a Chinese sweatshop.

It's clear some Farkers had really shiatty parents, and my heart goes out to you sincerely.
Make peace with yourself and move on. You may feel like damaged goods, but you have the power to be whatever good person you want to be.

For those of us who try to be good parents, heathly debate between kids and parents, mutual respect and zero violence is absolutely the way for parents to behave.

Thanks my friend. I have a beautiful home on the water here in Florida, a loving wife and am very happy. I've got many nephews and nieces I spoil and we are lucky enough to travel. I enjoy almost every kind of live music and am an avid hunter and fisherman. I've got a camp in the Louisiana bayou where I duck & deer hunt, run crawfish traps and trot lines for fat river catfish. I do volunteer work for a free clinic and also on a disaster relief unit for state and federal emergencies (just to keep my ER skills sharpened). I spent many years as an ER RN in downtown New Orleans public hospital, and am an "evil" former state employee who has a pension plan. Life is good and I am blessed. I believe in a loving God, who loves all people.... even the assholes.

>A Terrible Human: It's rather therapeutic for me to talk about with people online or my friends/family.

whoa, whoa, you're benefiting from this interaction? We're gonna have to put you on the clock at $100/hour.

OptimusHime: First thing I thought of:

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/For obvious reasons.



Two very nice, big, juicy, motorboating reasons.

Iczer: You mean NOT bottling up your emotions and turning into a ticking time bomb later on down the line might actually benefit you somehow?

The article describes rational argument -- not yelling/tantrums/etc. The latter is always detrimental and there is no "ticking time bomb" nature to it.