Your mom doesn't hate the cawk, that's for sure.

I get along fine with my mom but I'm still fat. Maybe it has something to do with calorie consumption instead.

So basically, those kids with poor self control (i.e. those who can't behave) grow up to be unable to limit food intake? The hell you say!!!

Seriously, though. Why all this talk about hating? We just celebrated Jesus' birthday. This should be a time of happiness and goodwill towards each other.

My Bologna Has A Maiden Name: those kids with poor self control

Hmm, it's interesting that you would automatically assume it's the child's fault. Have you ever considered that perhaps it's the adults in question who are responsible for how their children grow up? Emotionally abusive mothers are more likely to have children with unhealthy relationships to food than are non-emotionally abusive mothers.

Since the Mom existed prior to the kid, she passed the kid her genes, I'm going to guess fat moms dislike their fat kids and tend to have bad relationships with them. I wish I were fat so I could sit on ppl.

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Do people actually hate their mothers? Mine has given me nothing but hurt through the years, but I still don't think I'd use the word hate to describe how I feel about her. I just want nothing to do with her. Am, I'm slim.

So, I guess the article is a bunch of bunk?

mom haters gonna hate, deep friers gonna fry, shadows gonna follow you even when you're not in the light, batman smells, and joker laid an eight...

AverageAmericanGuy: Seriously, though. Why all this talk about hating? We just celebrated Jesus' birthday. This should be a time of happiness and goodwill towards each other.

I'm not sure exactly what is celebrated in late December - but I'm pretty sure it has nothing to do with Jesus.

What the Fark is "comfort food"?? The term makes no sense? One cannot derive comfort from food.

Buffet: What the Fark is "comfort food"?? The term makes no sense? One cannot derive comfort from food.

Oh, but you are so wrong...I can.

Abuse makes one succorant, duh.

phenn: Do people actually hate their mothers? Mine has given me nothing but hurt through the years, but I still don't think I'd use the word hate to describe how I feel about her. I just want nothing to do with her. Am, I'm slim.

So, I guess the article is a bunch of bunk?

I think it's an unresolved issue thing. If you're over it and don't give a shiat anymore it makes no sense to have feelings as strong as hate.

My skinny model mom hated my build (BMI 20, but I put on muscle and I do have boobs) and hounded me about food all the time. I used to eat extra just to piss her off, until I actually was overweight. Fortunately, this could be cured by simply moving to the other side of the continent.

/don't hate my Mom
//but I see how this would work if one couldn't move

how about eating too much and not exercising?

Huskaroo, Huskaroo, you're beautiful in all the things you doooo, and your brand is Huskarooo. Huskaroo let's you be you!

phenn: Do people actually hate their mothers? Mine has given me nothing but hurt through the years, but I still don't think I'd use the word hate to describe how I feel about her. I just want nothing to do with her. Am, I'm slim.

So, I guess the article is a bunch of bunk?

I go between hate and pity. I mean, it is something to be pitied if your only child hates you. On the other hand, I hate her.

A study found toddlers who struggle with their mothers are at higher risk of being grossly overweight by the time they are 15.


I hate you Mom! You see this plate of brownies? I'm going to eat all the brownies so that you can't have one!

Love mom, and delicious baked goods she makes. Mmm German and Polish cookies, mine not yours.

I suppose it's a good thing my mom didn't evolve into an evil witch until I was out of my teenage years.

Well part of my strained relationship with my mom came from her always prodding me about me being fat, even though I was a totally normal sized kid. So now, I don't like her AND I work out all the time, did I win?

MaxV: Well part of my strained relationship with my mom came from her always prodding me about me being fat, even though I was a totally normal sized kid. So now, I don't like her AND I work out all the time, did I win?

Not yet, but halfway there!

Lupine Chemist: phenn: Do people actually hate their mothers? Mine has given me nothing but hurt through the years, but I still don't think I'd use the word hate to describe how I feel about her. I just want nothing to do with her. Am, I'm slim.

So, I guess the article is a bunch of bunk?

I go between hate and pity. I mean, it is something to be pitied if your only child hates you. On the other hand, I hate her.

My mother has 3 biological children and 3 step children. Of those, only 1 still communicates with her. I consider that an epic failing and, yes, I probably pity her, too.

My mom over the past year has taken to trying to pick a fight every time we talk and then gets butthurt when I oblige her.

My mom was always on diets. She was/is always trying to be thin. And she is. My stepmom is the same way. Every time I start to gain a bit of weight, I feel guilty. Next thing you know, I'm watching what I'm eating. My mom was a biatch to me at times about my weight. But I'm glad I listened to her. Without her influence, I'd probably be heavy. But, I digress.

Smeggy Smurf: My mom over the past year has taken to trying to pick a fight every time we talk and then gets butthurt when I oblige her.

That's not the only time she feels the butthurt. ;)

/hates mom
//not fat
///was fat
///doesn't hate mom?

James F. Campbell: My Bologna Has A Maiden Name: those kids with poor self control

Hmm, it's interesting that you would automatically assume it's the child's fault. Have you ever considered that perhaps it's the adults in question who are responsible for how their children grow up? Emotionally abusive mothers are more likely to have children with unhealthy relationships to food than are non-emotionally abusive mothers.

People have relationships with their food? I mean, I like sandwiches, but I don't like like sandwiches.

Action Batch: People have relationships with their food? I mean, I like sandwiches, but I don't like like sandwiches.

Moms make sandwiches. Evil fatty. high-calorie sandwiches of loathing and disgust and hate. Then you're fat. See how that works?

/moms also tell us to behave
//not really worth the effort and lacks a point

James F. Campbell: Hmm, it's interesting that you would automatically assume it's the child's fault. Have you ever considered that perhaps it's the adults in question who are responsible for how their children grow up? Emotionally abusive mothers are more likely to have children with unhealthy relationships to food than are non-emotionally abusive mothers.

That's snowflake talk. There is such a thing as a bad kid. They grow up to be bad adults, and the world is full of them.

Makes sense. Spending time with mom should be fun. It should stimulate the pleasure centers of the brain. If it doesn't then I can see the child seeking that elsewhere. Food is a pretty efficient way to release those endorphins. Especially if you hate the person telling you about healthier alternatives.

My daughter is doomed.

pottie: Buffet: What the Fark is "comfort food"?? The term makes no sense? One cannot derive comfort from food.

Oh, but you are so wrong...I can.

What, a cucumber??

average, actually. Used to be underweight and anemic.

7wolf: phenn: Do people actually hate their mothers? Mine has given me nothing but hurt through the years, but I still don't think I'd use the word hate to describe how I feel about her. I just want nothing to do with her. Am, I'm slim.

So, I guess the article is a bunch of bunk?

I think it's an unresolved issue thing. If you're over it and don't give a shiat anymore it makes no sense to have feelings as strong as hate.

That's how you know you're over it. The opposite of love isn't hate, but apathy.


Lupine Chemist: I go between hate and pity. I mean, it is something to be pitied if your only child hates you. On the other hand, I hate her.

My mother is zero for four; neither I nor my three brothers can stand her. She does get points for telling me that if she had it to do over again, she would never have had any of us.


dustygrimp: Makes sense. Spending time with mom should be fun. It should stimulate the pleasure centers of the brain. If it doesn't then I can see the child seeking that elsewhere. Food is a pretty efficient way to release those endorphins. Especially if you hate the person telling you about healthier alternatives.

YMMV, of course, but this was the case with me. I was a heavy kid starting in early elementary school and steadily grew bigger as the years passed. Same with all but one of my brothers. Granted, my choice to overeat wasn't prompted only by my mom's variations between emotional neglect and emotional/physical abuse; dad's an alcoholic, elder brother wanted nothing to do with us younger kids, I grew up protecting my younger brothers from physical abuse, etc. One brother grew up to be a textbook sociopath (new window), while the other developed schizophrenia so severe that the only meds that affect him turn him into a zombie (he was the thin brother - self-medicated with drugs instead of food, and the drug use from an early age may have contributed to the schizo being as bad as it is). In short, my family is very farked up. Protective order, fled-for-my-life farked up.

When I fled, I cut off all ties to my family because it was the only way to stay safe. That was in February of '08. I haven't been in contact since.

At the start of '08 I was a size 20. I'm now a size 14, and those are starting to fit loosely - some brands of size 12s fit now. The only thing that's changed in the last four years in regards to diet & exercise is that I stopped eating to deal with my relationship with my family. I'm not anorexic and I'm not actively dieting; I eat when I'm physically hungry, stop when I'm not hungry anymore, and if I get a taste for junk food I have a few bites of what I'm craving and that's it. The thought of eating the way I used to actually makes me mildly nauseated now, even though it provided comfort at the time.

/No longer hate my parents or feel guilty over "failing to save" my brothers
//Not jealous of people with "normal" families anymore, either
///1st holiday season since leaving that I've actually been truly and consistently happy
/slashies

phenn: Do people actually hate their mothers? Mine has given me nothing but hurt through the years, but I still don't think I'd use the word hate to describe how I feel about her. I just want nothing to do with her. Am, I'm slim.

So, I guess the article is a bunch of bunk?

I agree.

I don't necessarily hate my mother. I definitely don't like her. She's a shrill, ignorant, harpy of a woman who's only thoughts are the ones my overbearing, pompous ass of a father gives her. The only thing I really learned from her (and dad too) was never to ask for help because no one is going to help you because your problems are insignificant compared to those of everyone else around you so stop whining. Also, don't wake up your younger siblings when you come home covered in blood from the neighborhood bullies beating the crap out of you, you'll dirty up the carpet and get a spanking for being a crybaby.

I've been slim for most of my life, mostly because I made my own choices when it came to food. Why bother talking to mom who's gonna yell at me when I ask for something, when I could raid the neighbors' gardens for sweet carrots, or go hiking in the woods behind the neighborhood and get free raspberries, blackberries, and the occasional wild strawberry. Besides, my mom's cooking makes the worst of British food look good.

/Fark is my therapist, thanks for the time.
//My husband does almost all the cooking; didn't really learn much from mom in that field.

My Mom hates me because I refuse to speak Armenian at her house.
Why should I?
We aren't Armenian.

My Bologna Has A Maiden Name: That's snowflake talk. There is such a thing as a bad kid. They grow up to be bad adults, and the world is full of them.

No, you're simply an idiot with wrong preconceived notions of the world who hasn't done enough living and reading to know any better.

Action Batch: People have relationships with their food? I mean, I like sandwiches, but I don't like like sandwiches.

Read Jack London's "Love of Life." It has a simple enough vocabulary for you to understand, and reading it will (one can hope) make you wiser with regard to the meaning of a relationship to food.