Jesua Tatad is said to have scalded her former spouse as he slept and then beat him with a baseball bat.


Jesusa Tadad, 39, faces torture charges for scalding her sleeping ex-husband with boiling water



'He boiled up that pot of water to pour on him.'


What the fu(k am I reading

cheap_thoughts: I'm only marginally annoying. To the point that they have to make facebook posts calling me a psycho, delusional, fat farking biatch.

Then only do I sit back and rest.

/all I did was just ask for my microwave back...

If you're dating someone who posts personal details on FB you should expect that.

Pouring for dating, pummeling for not making sandwich

I'd be happy to see my ex husband get shot down over and over again, especially after the girl has sex with him. In fact, as far as I can tell, that's all he's had. I guess he's learning that not everyone is as kind about his shortcomings as I was.

Gawd, something about bringing up the term "ex-wife" that makes me think about how I just hope he stays alone forever, just for spite. Actually, I think he needs to take the stuffing out of a body pillow and fill it with cash, since that's the true love of his life anyway.

/where was I going with this?
//don't know either.

bahknee: I'd be happy to see my ex husband get shot down over and over again, especially after the girl has sex with him. In fact, as far as I can tell, that's all he's had. I guess he's learning that not everyone is as kind about his shortcomings as I was.

Gawd, something about bringing up the term "ex-wife" that makes me think about how I just hope he stays alone forever, just for spite. Actually, I think he needs to take the stuffing out of a body pillow and fill it with cash, since that's the true love of his life anyway.

/where was I going with this?
//don't know either.

I think you are bitter. It is okay. It happens.

make me some tea: It's articles such as this that give me comfort in the fact that my ex was only verbally abusive to me and not actually physically violent.

You were fortunate.
My ex was worse.
To this day, when people ask me to give to the battered women's shelters, they get an earfull of "where to men go when they are abused, you sexist biaotch?"

Really, either you want to protect us all or you only want one side to be victims.

It took over a decade of lobbying to get those people to change the language of their media releases.
They will not change their attitudes, however.

In some states, you go to jail automatically, if you are the one with a penis during a domestic.
You could be fast asleep. She could dial 911 drunk, and hang up, and you will wake up to 5 years and a huge fine, just because you stuck your dick in crazy.

So while I DRTFA, I'd like to say there are 2 sides to every story.
ymmv

I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

Britney Spear's Speculum: Jesua Tatad is said to have scalded her former spouse as he slept and then beat him with a baseball bat.


Jesusa Tadad, 39, faces torture charges for scalding her sleeping ex-husband with boiling water



'He boiled up that pot of water to pour on him.'


What the fu(k am I reading

Unedited print news. Welcome to the future.

Isn't this why you have friends? So you can crash on their couch instead of waking up to boiling water and a baseball bat?

moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

you sound young

vudukungfu: make me some tea: It's articles such as this that give me comfort in the fact that my ex was only verbally abusive to me and not actually physically violent.

You were fortunate.
My ex was worse.
To this day, when people ask me to give to the battered women's shelters, they get an earfull of "where to men go when they are abused, you sexist biaotch?"

Really, either you want to protect us all or you only want one side to be victims.

It took over a decade of lobbying to get those people to change the language of their media releases.
They will not change their attitudes, however.

In some states, you go to jail automatically, if you are the one with a penis during a domestic.
You could be fast asleep. She could dial 911 drunk, and hang up, and you will wake up to 5 years and a huge fine, just because you stuck your dick in crazy.

So while I DRTFA, I'd like to say there are 2 sides to every story.
ymmv

My full palm prints are on the Domestic Violence Database in the U.K. because I got beaten up by my ex in broad daylight.

I got tossed in the jail cell with two cracked ribs, a broken nose, black eye and 3 staved fingers (from blocking her 2nd and 3rd kick to my face)

She wasn't arrested and was even offered victim counseling.

Never went to court.

uttertosh: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

you sound young

I'm 27. The only one I hear is "she got knocked up" and they were never really right for each other. It's technically your whole farking life, be it long or short. Why make that choice if you barely get along?

moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

I heard a saying once that has some truth to it:

"A man marries a woman expecting that she will never change - but she does. A woman marries a man thinking that he will change - but he doesn't"

Most folks seem to get married out of lust (the farking is good, or the expected farking looks good) or insecurity (if I don't marry this person nothing else will ever come along). It is more about wanting the the best for themselves than wanting the best for the other person. So when things turn sour, and they divorce, and they see the other person moving on and still doing well, It sincerely pisses them off.

Throw in having kids, where instead of looking at what is best for the kids after the breakup, the kids become pawns to make the other persons lifer miserable, and things get even worse.

It seems these days that the marriage ceremony/party is more important than the relationship. There are less and less good marriage role models that are around - how may folks do you know that re still *happily* married after 20 years? - so I don't see things changing much.

EasyWind: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

Trust me, it's a really short walk from love to hate.

Two sides of the same coin

cheap_thoughts: /all I did was just ask for my microwave back...

*checks profile*

I'd give you your microwave back... ;)

moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

People change over time. Who you are at 25 isn't necessarily the same as who you are at 45.

moothemagiccow: uttertosh: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

you sound young

I'm 27. The only one I hear is "she got knocked up" and they were never really right for each other. It's technically your whole farking life, be it long or short. Why make that choice if you barely get along?

Ok, so you are young and romantic, but if you really have found 'the one' and you 100% stay together for life, why on earth would you ruin it all by bothering with marriage?

Nothing quite says I Love You like a legally binding contract with witnesses and public notaries, if you know what I mean.

In your case, is love not enough to keep you together, rather than the the threat of legal action against you for not fulfilling your side of a contract?

/has found 'the one'
//loves her dislike/disdain for marital contracts.
///will never marry

miss diminutive: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

People change over time. Who you are at 25 isn't necessarily the same as who you are at 45.

Very true.

RexTalionis: miss diminutive: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

People change over time. Who you are at 25 isn't necessarily the same as who you are at 45.

I've always wanted to play a prank on my friends by disappearing for a few years and then having another person who looks nothing like me and acts nothing like me go and meet up with my friends and tell them that he's me.

I want to see how many people will buy that one.

Be sure the new you is an entirely different race.

After my ex-husband and I split, he started dating my former best friend. That's not why she's former. I actually gave them my blessing at first because she seemed to be helping him get his shiat together. She stopped being my friend because she accused me of breaking them up, which I guess I was responsible for. She was beating the crap out of him. I told him to call the police and move out and for once he listened to me.

And at the time she was employed as a domestic violence counselor..

She sure is an ugly Whore!

SundaesChild: And at the time she was employed as a domestic violence counselor..

Well that's ironically disturbing. Or disturbingly ironic. Not sure which.

/need coffee

RexTalionis: SundaesChild: And at the time she was employed as a domestic violence counselor..

I worked for a while providing legal counsel to domestic violence victims. The thing about the job working with domestic victims is that it gets you 1) really really depressed (both from the stories you hear and the fact that the victims usually go back to their SOs) and really angry (there were times where I wanted to go find the SO and clock them a few time with a bagful of clocks). It's a job that will tax you mentally and sometimes people will snap.

I volunteered at a shelter for awhile. Some of the stories are depressing as hell. The scars that the kids carry is the saddest.

I want to address a more pressing issue presented in this article.

Why is a BRITISH newspaper paying so much attention to the police beats in California? It can't be that slow a news day over in London...

miss diminutive: SundaesChild: And at the time she was employed as a domestic violence counselor..

Well that's ironically disturbing. Or disturbingly ironic. Not sure which.

/need coffee

On the other hand, it says in the job description that one of the requirements of being a domestic violence counselor is that you must hate all males.

In this thread: lots of people stupid enough to trust other people.

MannaxOne: bahknee: I'd be happy to see my ex husband get shot down over and over again, especially after the girl has sex with him. In fact, as far as I can tell, that's all he's had. I guess he's learning that not everyone is as kind about his shortcomings as I was.

Gawd, something about bringing up the term "ex-wife" that makes me think about how I just hope he stays alone forever, just for spite. Actually, I think he needs to take the stuffing out of a body pillow and fill it with cash, since that's the true love of his life anyway.

/where was I going with this?
//don't know either.

I think you are bitter. It is okay. It happens.

I KNOW I am bitter.

rjakobi: I want to address a more pressing issue presented in this article.

Why is a BRITISH newspaper paying so much attention to the police beats in California? It can't be that slow a news day over in London...

Because all Americans are like that, right?

So did he decide to take her back after the assault?

James F. Campbell: In this thread: lots of people stupid enough to trust other people.

I assume you kill and cut your own meat and prepare your own vaccines and antibiotics as well?

Marriage is the number one cause of divorce.

AbbeySomeone: rjakobi: I want to address a more pressing issue presented in this article.

Why is a BRITISH newspaper paying so much attention to the police beats in California? It can't be that slow a news day over in London...

Because all Americans are like that, right?

I don't understand why they include a googlemap pic of the street. Is that a British thing?

SundaesChild: After my ex-husband and I split, he started dating my former best friend. That's not why she's former. I actually gave them my blessing at first because she seemed to be helping him get his shiat together. She stopped being my friend because she accused me of breaking them up, which I guess I was responsible for. She was beating the crap out of him. I told him to call the police and move out and for once he listened to me.

And at the time she was employed as a domestic violence counselor..


Why call the cops if the beatings were so effective ?

uttertosh: She wasn't arrested and was even offered victim counseling.

Never went to court.

It gets better once you get away.

I went upward and she's a baglady now.

SundaesChild: After my ex-husband and I split, he started dating my former best friend. That's not why she's former. I actually gave them my blessing at first because she seemed to be helping him get his shiat together. She stopped being my friend because she accused me of breaking them up, which I guess I was responsible for. She was beating the crap out of him. I told him to call the police and move out and for once he listened to me.

And at the time she was employed as a domestic violence counselor..

Reading over these kinds of fark threads (and the experiences of married and divorced colleagues in my office) has convinced me to not marry.

EasyWind: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

Trust me, it's a really short walk from love to hate.


My lawyer explained it to me like this: "I see this every day in my practice, and it is simple: many women hit their mid 30s and the ticking of the biological clock meets the glamorization of the single lifestyle, as put forth by Sex in the City and other popular media, causing them to make a purely selfish choice. Once they have made that choice, often at the expense of their own children, they must then justify it, at least to themselves. They do that by creating conflict where there was none, and pointing to that conflict as the reason for their leaving."

He was dead nuts on too, predicting every passive aggressive move and machination that my Ex would eventually make. She wasn't special, she was entirely typical of half the women who leave (the other half actually have a good reason to leave), his predictions were proof of that to me.

If yours leaves and is acting like somebody you have never met, get a friggin' lawyer and don't have ANY contact. If there is a chance to work it out, meet at the marriage counselor's office and get there early and stay in sight of credible witnesses at all times. Every phone call becomes a death threat later, every meeting a chance for her to bash her nose into a doorframe and call 911.

LISTEN TO YOUR LAWYER.

Hell hath no fury like a middle aged slut trying to not look like one.

RexTalionis: miss diminutive: moothemagiccow: I'll never get divorce. How can you end up despising someone you once decided to spend every day of the rest of your life with?

People change over time. Who you are at 25 isn't necessarily the same as who you are at 45.

I've always wanted to play a prank on my friends by disappearing for a few years and then having another person who looks nothing like me and acts nothing like me go and meet up with my friends and tell them that he's me.

I want to see how many people will buy that one.


I saw a movie based on this premise a long time ago, about an actual historical event --



Abusive jerkass goes off to fight a war, comes back looking completely diffferent, with a good, kind personality, and knowing things only he's supposed to know. Obviously not the original guy, but a much better man, husband, father. What do?