His mother wants contact with him? After she tried to disrupt his wedding and then pressed charges against him? If that were my mother, the only contact I would ever have with her again would be to send her yearly pictures of the grandchildren she would never get to meet. What a biatch.

I don't see how this is assault. Unless he actually hit her or threw her to the ground or something.

I wish I had been so lucky to have someone stop mine.

brownlady79: I don't see how this is assault. Unless he actually hit her or threw her to the ground or something.

I could poke you with my left thumb and it would be assault -- it's touching with aggressive intent, essentially. It's a bit nanny state these days, but it would still be up to the mother to press those charges.

And is anyone surprised that a mother is overprotective of her son? That's just something most guys never win and if you do, you should consider yourself damned lucky.

lohphat: Unacceptable behaviors have consequences.

There's no point to expending effort maintaining unhealthy relationships.

I have to watch my brother and my father fight like this. BOTH are wrong, because both have, in fact, made up events involving the other party so as to allow themselves to feel better about their quarrel. Some people are just stubborn.

That is no statement regarding your situation, just my two cents regarding human nature.

This is pretty much why my grandmother/adoptive mother was not invited to my wedding. I'd have ended up either killing her or throwing her ass out.

I don't know everything going on in this, but it certainly sounds like it must be a bit complicated. Assault charges in the process of protecting her son? Objecting to a wedding, but with no reason known by the groom? I get the sense the son is probably not a good one, but mom ain't helping the situation either.

I have a few farkwit assholes in my clan, and I am told every so often "blood is thicken than water" and the like. Screw that. My bro is going through a nasty meth problem right now and in a fit of rage, threatened to call DHS to get my kid taken away, my BF and I fired from our jobs (all unfounded, he thinks anon. calls and lying will work) and all kinds of idiocy. I hadn't spoken to him in months and my mom recently had me to lunch, and sprang him on me and told me to apologize.

I believe that if I wouldn't let a friend behave that way, then I sure as fark won't tolerate crap from family. Family should be held to a higher standard, in my book. If we're stuck together for life, then everybody needs to be at least civil.

brownlady79: I don't see how this is assault. Unless he actually hit her or threw her to the ground or something.

Technically it is battery because he touched her. Legally, 'assault' just means a threat.

lohphat: My mother doesn't even get pictures. She doesn't even know she has a granddaughter.

Unacceptable behaviors have consequences.

There's no point to expending effort maintaining unhealthy relationships.

QFV

rogue_L_chick: I have a few farkwit assholes in my clan, and I am told every so often "blood is thicken than water" and the like. Screw that. My bro is going through a nasty meth problem right now and in a fit of rage, threatened to call DHS to get my kid taken away, my BF and I fired from our jobs (all unfounded, he thinks anon. calls and lying will work) and all kinds of idiocy. I hadn't spoken to him in months and my mom recently had me to lunch, and sprang him on me and told me to apologize.

Ugh, Sorry to hear it. I have a couple meth heads in my family as well, although to be honest they weren't that great to begin with. Meth really does up the ante, though, doesn't it? Once someone is addicted to meth, they simply aren't there anymore. There is no point arguing or pleading or rationalizing with them (the "person") because they are literally gone.

Worse, I've NEVER seen anyone "come back" from an addiction like that and be anyone I would want to be around for more than 10 seconds.

Benevolent Misanthrope: The Record-Courier reports Justin Lew Harris of Gardnerville carried his 56-year-old mother out of the church Monday as she loudly objected to the ceremony.

Good for him. As lohphat pointed up, unacceptable behaviors have consequences. If she's so undisciplined she can't shutup, or at least shutup after she's stated her case, then get her the fark out of there. Too bad the wedding was called off, though I can understand if it was the bride who called it. I wouldn't want to marry intothat family, either.

And FARK YOU SIDEWAYS, Justice Tom Perkins. He has to treat that biotch with respect? She certainly showed him none.

Many old people have a stunning amount of "I'm old therefor you should respect me regardless of what I say or do" attitude, and the judge probably subscribes to the same theory.

Young assholes are ignorant.

Old assholes are just plain stupid.

No where in the article did it say that she pressed charges. It is possible that the cops did. A friend of mine threw a wine bottle in his house. His daughter called the cops. No one pressed charges, but he ended up in jail. His daughter was an adult too. He also received a restraining order. Could not even go back to his own house and not one person in that house wanted any of that. Cops did it!

lohphat: kxs401: His mother wants contact with him? After she tried to disrupt his wedding and then pressed charges against him? If that were my mother, the only contact I would ever have with her again would be to send her yearly pictures of the grandchildren she would never get to meet. What a biatch.

My mother doesn't even get pictures. She doesn't even know she has a granddaughter.

Unacceptable behaviors have consequences.

There's no point to expending effort maintaining unhealthy relationships.

I put some effort into my relationship with my mother, despite its unhealthy aspects. On occasion, I get a message on my answering machine from my mother requesting to see my 4 month old daughter. I put in just enough effort to hit the "delete" button on the answering machine.

My (now ex) brother-in-law was barred from my wedding for threatening to pull the same bullshiat.

Of course, he "Got us back" by throwing out the wedding cake.

church

...aaaand there's your problem.

linxdev: No where in the article did it say that she pressed charges. It is possible that the cops did. A friend of mine threw a wine bottle in his house. His daughter called the cops. No one pressed charges, but he ended up in jail. His daughter was an adult too. He also received a restraining order. Could not even go back to his own house and not one person in that house wanted any of that. Cops did it!

That's a Fark-worthy material right there if it's true.

FarkinHostile: I wish I had been so lucky to have someone stop mine.

THIS, so many time over......

Man: what a bunch of messed up farkers.

I don't see the misdemeanor here.

ArkAngel: jaylectricity: ArkAngel: Her mother seriously hates me and we've never even really met.

Maybe that's why she hates you.

She's the one who refuses to meet with me

Get out while you still can.

Earguy: ArkAngel: I might seriously have to worry about this when me and my girlfriend get married. Her mother seriously hates me and we've never even really met.

Tell the preacher to omit it from the ceremony. Many already do anyway, just to avoid this scenario.

I have a friend who's a preacher, and he stopped using it once someone objected and interrupted everything.

Or just get married at city hall with the provided witnesses and have the ceremony separately. One of the best weddings I ever attended was held in the middle of Mexico (partially to avoid unwelcomed family members just "dropping by") and the ceremony was officiated by the grooms brother. The couple were actually married a week before. To the state - its just paperwork.

I'll say only this: if you ever decide to object to a wedding, any wedding, at the wedding, even if your reasons for objecting are 100% noble and 100% right, getting ejected bodily is the least consequence you should expect. You have it coming.

/ The mom had it coming.

lohphat: My mother doesn't even get pictures. She doesn't even know she has a granddaughter.

This is sad, but it might be the case when I have a little Moron.

/Haven't spoken to my family in years.
//5 and counting.

linxdev: No where in the article did it say that she pressed charges. It is possible that the cops did. A friend of mine threw a wine bottle in his house. His daughter called the cops. No one pressed charges, but he ended up in jail. His daughter was an adult too. He also received a restraining order. Could not even go back to his own house and not one person in that house wanted any of that. Cops did it!

Sounds like a "if you wanna call us out here,we will do something about it." The police don't want to let it go,and get called back to a stabbing and "why didn't you do your job?" mess in the newspapers.

Domestic disputes;Some LEOs would rather deal with an armed bank robber.

I've been a wedding officiant for over 12 years. The only time I have ever said "If anyone objects to this marriage.." the bride and groom wanted me to follow up with"....just keep your piehole shut!"

Yes I did it.

/I also offer the infamous "impressive clergyman" Wuv, tru wuv...

MooseUpNorth: I'll say only this: if you ever decide to object to a wedding, any wedding, at the wedding, even if your reasons for objecting are 100% noble and 100% right, getting ejected bodily is the least consequence you should expect. You have it coming.

/ The mom had it coming.

I always wanted a realistic alternate ending for the Graduate.

JLEM: ArkAngel: jaylectricity: ArkAngel: Her mother seriously hates me and we've never even really met.

Maybe that's why she hates you.

She's the one who refuses to meet with me

Get out while you still can.

RUN! I've had almost 20 years of that shiat. When we announced our engagement, the old bat asked if I were pregnant in front of everyone. Awkward moment and no I wasn't!

I would love to find out the back story on this.

http://www.recordcourier.com/article/20111018/NEWS/111019881/0/FRONTP A GE

LadySusan: I would love to find out the back story on this.

http://www.recordcourier.com/article/20111018/NEWS/111019881/0/FRONTP A GE

Why does that guy look so familiar?

Hmmm. I sense myself going down this route. My mother went crazy some years ago, a mix of bipolar disorder (and fundamentalist christian disorder), plus plain old stubbornness, all while being Asian.

She currently believes that I am still a virgin (age 23), and still sits me down to give me a talk about it every year when we have a family gathering. The idea here is that having sex before marriage will lead to a terrible life, and so she blames her and my father's premarital sex for their unfortunate marriage, rather than her refusal to communicate like an adult with him. Also tells me all men are rapists and to stay away from them.

She also throws tantrums when she thinks she's not getting enough attention, crying and screaming, then seemingly recovers completely the next day and acts cute to cover it up. I could go on and on...

I feel like this is the girlfriend I can't break up with. If I stopped contacting her, she would simply terrorize my father (who, in his own words, believes that leaving her would be similar to abandoning a child), who has given up living a good life of his own to keep her fed, clothed, and crazy.

Is this line for Fark family issues?

/only me and my Mrs. At our wedding. On the beach in Kaui'i. She wore the white dress (snerk) and I wore a suit like a real wedding and everything No fuss, no muss. Well other than we had sand on our shoes/clothes.

ArkAngel: I might seriously have to worry about this when me and my girlfriend get married. Her mother seriously hates me and we've never even really met.

I have no intentions of ever marrying again, but if it ever happened with my current GF, her mother wouldn't be carried away...she'd only be allowed IN wearing a straight jacket and a farking muzzle. She doesn't hate me, per se but her daughter and her are gasoline and fire.

Bathia_Mapes: brownlady79: I don't see how this is assault. Unless he actually hit her or threw her to the ground or something.

He was arrested for disorderly conduct and coercion, not assault.

How the hell does one get charged with coercion at a wedding? Doesn't the bride do enough of that already?

Another example of our dual justice system. If he had called the cops to remove her from the premises, no charges. But he does it and it's charges against him for forcing lady mcdouchebag out of the place for causing a disturbance.

/Prosecutor is also a douhebag if he/she even allows this shiat to be in court more than 60 seconds.

Why even give someone the opening by asking that stupid ass question?