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2010-09-06 10:38:08 AM
Well, sure. Have I ever told you how I met your mother (new window)?
 
2010-09-06 10:52:28 AM
this survey was done in Chicago and therefore not valid...
 
2010-09-06 11:36:57 AM
relationship with her down her the road

i107.photobucket.com


/fark has ruined me I think
 
2010-09-06 12:33:02 PM
Wasn't something like this just posted not more than 6 weeks ago?

/old news is old
 
2010-09-06 12:33:56 PM
Wasn't that the scenario in "Trinity is still my name"? Dad saying to his sons "Find yourselves workin' gals, they make the best wives. Ask your ma." and late "I can still remember how your ma looked on our weddin' day, in that red dress. 'Course, you was too young to remember, and you were just knee-high to a grasshopper then..."
 
2010-09-06 12:34:34 PM
so don't be stingy with the poonanny
 
2010-09-06 12:34:54 PM
codemastaflex: Wasn't something like this just posted not more than 6 weeks ago?

/old news is old


Came for repeat reference. Leaving... again.
 
2010-09-06 12:35:46 PM
codemastaflex: Wasn't something like this just posted not more than 6 weeks ago?

It was six weeks ago weeks more than when posted.
 
2010-09-06 12:35:48 PM
Sur-bloody-farking-prise.

My wife was by best friend for 2 years, my girlfriend for 9, and my magnificent wife for 2 years and counting.

Of course, people who don't deny their sexuality and develop neuroses are more likely to form successful relationships.
 
2010-09-06 12:37:10 PM
Wasn't this study posted on here previously? Maybe I just dreamt it.
 
2010-09-06 12:37:23 PM
They completely lost me when they referenced "Sex in the City"...

So you want to build a "solid/real" relationship with some moistened bink you did the nasty with up against some alley wall after a night of over-indulgence?

Yeah - she's a keeper.
 
2010-09-06 12:37:50 PM
And then you marry the whore and two years later find out she has banged everyone at Seven Springs Mountain Resort (new window), including the old guy who played guitar in the lounge.

I am not bitter.
 
2010-09-06 12:38:22 PM
codemastaflex: Wasn't something like this just posted not more than 6 weeks ago?

/old news is old


Damn... I'm too slow. Sorry for repeating the repeat.
 
2010-09-06 12:39:46 PM
yet another nail in the coffin for the prudes. For ages they've been claiming, without evidence, that one-night stands are terrible for your psyche, your mental health, your self-esteem, and everything else possible.

Hell, they've been saying that about casual sex, period, whether a one-night stand or not. They've been saying that about pre-marital sex, whether casual or not.

What a bunch of idiots. It's wayyyy past the time that they are exposed for the foolish, judgemental morons they've always been.
 
2010-09-06 12:42:04 PM
bump: They completely lost me when they referenced "Sex in the City"...

So you want to build a "solid/real" relationship with some moistened bink you did the nasty with up against some alley wall after a night of over-indulgence?

Yeah - she's a keeper.


Hey man: 1) don't you EVER speak ill of over-indulgence again. 2) My best friends tend to be ex-girlfriends I met against the proverbial alley wall, and 3) If you're willing to do a woman against said wall, apparently you're no catch either.

//Oh, wait, double standards... right.
 
2010-09-06 12:42:40 PM
yearinrevolt.com
 
2010-09-06 12:42:59 PM
aagrajag: Sur-bloody-farking-prise.

My wife was by best friend for 2 years, my girlfriend for 9, and my magnificent wife for 2 years and counting.

Of course, people who don't deny their sexuality and develop neuroses are more likely to form successful relationships.


11 years to get into her pants? the fark is wrong with you?
 
2010-09-06 12:43:52 PM
If you saw the things I make girls do on one-night stands you wouldn't think that. Plus I would never have a long term relationship with a girl that would do those sort of things on a hookup.

/I don't date sluts
//I just make them
 
2010-09-06 12:45:16 PM
uptonogood: aagrajag: Sur-bloody-farking-prise.

My wife was by best friend for 2 years, my girlfriend for 9, and my magnificent wife for 2 years and counting.

Of course, people who don't deny their sexuality and develop neuroses are more likely to form successful relationships.

11 years to get into her pants? the fark is wrong with you?


"Girlfriend" does not equal "No Sex". If so,

YOU'RE DOING IT WRONG
 
2010-09-06 12:47:25 PM
Six weeks ago?

We are having a long term relationship with this article.
 
2010-09-06 12:47:42 PM
bump: So you want to build a "solid/real" relationship with some moistened bink you did the nasty with up against some alley wall after a night of over-indulgence?

Yeah - she's a keeper.


So you expect some woman to want to build a relationship with you at some point in the future? But you've done the nasty in an alley! Obviously, you're not a keeper.

/double standard much?
 
2010-09-06 12:47:55 PM
real shaman: this survey was done in Chicago and therefore not valid...

I'm sure I skewed the results somehow.
 
2010-09-06 12:48:46 PM
i281.photobucket.com
 
2010-09-06 12:49:31 PM
It also might help things along if you don't refer to her as a slut.
 
2010-09-06 12:50:15 PM
Theaetetus: bump: So you want to build a "solid/real" relationship with some moistened bink you did the nasty with up against some alley wall after a night of over-indulgence?

Yeah - she's a keeper.

So you expect some woman to want to build a relationship with you at some point in the future? But you've done the nasty in an alley! Obviously, you're not a keeper.

/double standard much?


I seem to disagree with you on just about every gender-relations thread, but I'm happy to know that you find this double-standard crap as repugnant as I.

Cheers!
 
2010-09-06 12:51:40 PM
Sex & the city? REALLY? They're the REASON why majority of girls are farking stupid in relationships. Sure, everyone wants to be loved but seriously? THEY USED Sex & The City as an example?!


Sure, casual sex doesn't automatically mean the female is a skank but it's how she carries herself.
 
2010-09-06 12:51:43 PM
The Committee For Aesthetic Deletions: And then you marry the whore and two years later find out she has banged everyone at Seven Springs Mountain Resort (new window), including the old guy who played guitar in the lounge.

I am not bitter.


will she be there for the
"labor day celebration reconnect with family and friends

live entertainment"
 
2010-09-06 12:53:19 PM
upload.wikimedia.org

Approves.
 
2010-09-06 12:53:44 PM
I love the dirty slutty girls. And I understand that most women you meet have that side either now or in their past. I can live with a crazy past (and hopefully crazy sex life ongoing), but I wouldn't want to live in their past. Meaning I don't want to hang around with all of their friends, coworkers, etc. that know this about her. I know, I know... double standard. Ok, I'm willing to not make a SO hang around my not so nice past either.

Never said I was a good catch.
 
2010-09-06 12:54:37 PM
Of course not, Everyone likes to date someone with lots of mental baggage, and when dealing with your penis or vagina, can compare you to a long list of others which sample size is no less than 20....
 
2010-09-06 12:55:20 PM
Here's my issue with casual sex... No, not the sex itself, but the term 'casual sex'.

Is there such a thing as formal sex? Or Sport sex? Maybe even party sex?.
 
2010-09-06 12:55:54 PM
Who the fark the proofreads these who the these headlines?
 
2010-09-06 12:56:18 PM
pvd021: Of course not, Everyone likes to date someone with lots of mental baggage, and when dealing with your penis or vagina, can compare you to a long list of others which sample size is no less than 20....

How is past sexual experience "mental baggage"? I call it "practice" if anything.
 
2010-09-06 12:58:28 PM
CygnusDarius: Here's my issue with casual sex... No, not the sex itself, but the term 'casual sex'.

Is there such a thing as formal sex? Or Sport sex? Maybe even party sex?.


"Casual Sex" is the term for sex undertaken without irrational and hastily undertaken plans to marry.
 
2010-09-06 12:59:00 PM
just passing through: I love the dirty slutty girls. And I understand that most women you meet have that side either now or in their past. I can live with a crazy past (and hopefully crazy sex life ongoing), but I wouldn't want to live in their past. Meaning I don't want to hang around with all of their friends, coworkers, etc. that know this about her. I know, I know... double standard. Ok, I'm willing to not make a SO hang around my not so nice past either.

Never said I was a good catch.


Meh, I don't mind if the guy I date has a colorful past. As long as he isn't the same douche he once was I'm def OK with that.
 
2010-09-06 12:59:26 PM
I loved the original headline.

"Hookups can lead to relationships. YOU HAVE BEEN WARNED"
 
2010-09-06 01:00:00 PM
imgs.xkcd.com

CygnusDarius: Is there such a thing as formal sex?

That's when you send a thank-you note afterward.
 
2010-09-06 01:02:34 PM
aagrajag Quote 2010-09-06 12:56:18 PM
pvd021: Of course not, Everyone likes to date someone with lots of mental baggage, and when dealing with your penis or vagina, can compare you to a long list of others which sample size is no less than 20....

How is past sexual experience "mental baggage"? I call it "practice" if anything.


All failed relationships you go through, you leave with a little bit of mental wear and tear, that's why it failed in the 1st place, the bad experiences trumped the good experience. Maybe for you, the chick was just practice, but maybe for them, you were the asshole who used her and treated her like a practice.

But then again, I'm 30. Been with the same girl since I was 18. But I have plenty of friends around my age and if not older, who are still single and have their fair share of tales and battle scars. Its also worse for you if you're a woman and if you're in your 30's and single....

But it can be a hell of a lot worse than being single not actively dating and in your 30's. You could end up being a single parent.
 
2010-09-06 01:03:19 PM
You said "her" twice.
 
2010-09-06 01:04:29 PM
But that's not what the article says.

FTFA:

University of Iowa researchers analyzed relationship surveys and found that average relationship quality was higher for people who took it slowly than for those who became sexually involved in "hook-ups," casual dating, or "friends with benefits" relationships.

... When he factored out people who weren't interested in getting serious, he found that those who became sexually involved as friends or acquaintances and were open to a serious relationship were just as happy as those who dated but delayed having sex.


So what this means is that you have to become friends with that slut before it'll end up good.
 
2010-09-06 01:07:38 PM
pvd021: aagrajag Quote 2010-09-06 12:56:18 PM
pvd021: Of course not, Everyone likes to date someone with lots of mental baggage, and when dealing with your penis or vagina, can compare you to a long list of others which sample size is no less than 20....

How is past sexual experience "mental baggage"? I call it "practice" if anything.

All failed relationships you go through, you leave with a little bit of mental wear and tear, that's why it failed in the 1st place, the bad experiences trumped the good experience. Maybe for you, the chick was just practice, but maybe for them, you were the asshole who used her and treated her like a practice.

But then again, I'm 30. Been with the same girl since I was 18. But I have plenty of friends around my age and if not older, who are still single and have their fair share of tales and battle scars. Its also worse for you if you're a woman and if you're in your 30's and single....

But it can be a hell of a lot worse than being single not actively dating and in your 30's. You could end up being a single parent.


It's entirely possible to have a poor emotional experience, yet gain quite a bit of useful information about the physical.

Also, a failed relationship hardly implies dishonest or exploitative motives.

Lastly, I've been with the same amazing woman since I was 18, and I'm 32 now! I WIN! Hah!
 
2010-09-06 01:07:45 PM
Flings provide greater utility.
 
2010-09-06 01:10:17 PM
I find a conflict in that, when it comes to 'encounters' as such, both genders are 'dogs' - it's just that men do not pretend to be anything else, whereas women tend to play some "Cartman's mom" routine of forcing the illusion of 'love/like' instead of just calling a spade a spade. For example, a guy will say, day AM I just had some hot ____ w/ some chick... a woman will say, OMG I think I'm in LOVE cause I just had some hot _____ w/ some guy.

I did not, nor do mandate the double standard - I simply report the facts.
 
2010-09-06 01:13:55 PM
cowsspinach: just passing through: I love the dirty slutty girls. And I understand that most women you meet have that side either now or in their past. I can live with a crazy past (and hopefully crazy sex life ongoing), but I wouldn't want to live in their past. Meaning I don't want to hang around with all of their friends, coworkers, etc. that know this about her. I know, I know... double standard. Ok, I'm willing to not make a SO hang around my not so nice past either.

Never said I was a good catch.

Meh, I don't mind if the guy I date has a colorful past. As long as he isn't the same douche he once was I'm def OK with that.


So you prefer fresh and new douches? Is there an expiration date or something?
 
2010-09-06 01:14:20 PM
CygnusDarius:
Is there such a thing as formal sex?


When you do it while wearing a tuxedo.
 
2010-09-06 01:14:31 PM
aagrajag
pvd021: aagrajag Quote 2010-09-06 12:56:18 PM
pvd021: Of course not, Everyone likes to date someone with lots of mental baggage, and when dealing with your penis or vagina, can compare you to a long list of others which sample size is no less than 20....

How is past sexual experience "mental baggage"? I call it "practice" if anything.

All failed relationships you go through, you leave with a little bit of mental wear and tear, that's why it failed in the 1st place, the bad experiences trumped the good experience. Maybe for you, the chick was just practice, but maybe for them, you were the asshole who used her and treated her like a practice.

But then again, I'm 30. Been with the same girl since I was 18. But I have plenty of friends around my age and if not older, who are still single and have their fair share of tales and battle scars. Its also worse for you if you're a woman and if you're in your 30's and single....

But it can be a hell of a lot worse than being single not actively dating and in your 30's. You could end up being a single parent.

It's entirely possible to have a poor emotional experience, yet gain quite a bit of useful information about the physical.

Also, a failed relationship hardly implies dishonest or exploitative motives.

Lastly, I've been with the same amazing woman since I was 18, and I'm 32 now! I WIN! Hah!


Dishonest and exploitative? No, not always. But to have a good relationship, it Requires tons of work. And consistent amount of it. Its not something you do in the beginning and have some endpoint where you feel you're done. Its continuous and you labor at it until you basically die, and obviously you know this. But imagine if you put all your effort and work into something, and it fails miserably at some point later on. That puts a serious toll on you mentally, physically, and to me its like a taxing burden for the next person that wants to date this individual. But kudos to you for entering the winners circle. I hope to join you there at some point in the near future.
 
2010-09-06 01:15:17 PM
abb3w: CygnusDarius: Is there such a thing as formal sex?

That's when you send a thank-you note afterward.


I thought it was a sawbuck on the dresser before you left.
 
2010-09-06 01:21:27 PM
pvd021: aagrajag
pvd021: aagrajag Quote 2010-09-06 12:56:18 PM
pvd021: Of course not, Everyone likes to date someone with lots of mental baggage, and when dealing with your penis or vagina, can compare you to a long list of others which sample size is no less than 20....

How is past sexual experience "mental baggage"? I call it "practice" if anything.

All failed relationships you go through, you leave with a little bit of mental wear and tear, that's why it failed in the 1st place, the bad experiences trumped the good experience. Maybe for you, the chick was just practice, but maybe for them, you were the asshole who used her and treated her like a practice.

But then again, I'm 30. Been with the same girl since I was 18. But I have plenty of friends around my age and if not older, who are still single and have their fair share of tales and battle scars. Its also worse for you if you're a woman and if you're in your 30's and single....

But it can be a hell of a lot worse than being single not actively dating and in your 30's. You could end up being a single parent.

It's entirely possible to have a poor emotional experience, yet gain quite a bit of useful information about the physical.

Also, a failed relationship hardly implies dishonest or exploitative motives.

Lastly, I've been with the same amazing woman since I was 18, and I'm 32 now! I WIN! Hah!

Dishonest and exploitative? No, not always. But to have a good relationship, it Requires tons of work. And consistent amount of it. Its not something you do in the beginning and have some endpoint where you feel you're done. Its continuous and you labor at it until you basically die, and obviously you know this. But imagine if you put all your effort and work into something, and it fails miserably at some point later on. That puts a serious toll on you mentally, physically, and to me its like a taxing burden for the next person that wants to date this individual. But kudos to you for entering the winners circle. I hope to join you there at some point in the near future.


I don't think anyone puts huge amounts of effort into a trial relationship. That's why it's so called. Learning about each other's movie likes/dislikes, foods, etc. is just one part. Sexual likes and dislikes are just another part. But it's a part upon which I think people are more likely to find common ground.
 
2010-09-06 01:21:53 PM
just passing through: I love the dirty slutty girls. And I understand that most women you meet have that side either now or in their past. I can live with a crazy past (and hopefully crazy sex life ongoing), but I wouldn't want to live in their past. Meaning I don't want to hang around with all of their friends, coworkers, etc. that know this about her. I know, I know... double standard. Ok, I'm willing to not make a SO hang around my not so nice past either.

Never said I was a good catch.


I give you big points for being honest.
 
2010-09-06 01:22:13 PM
CygnusDarius:
Is there such a thing as formal sex?
Goin natural with the surrogate.

Or Sport sex?
Gang-bang world record chicks.

Maybe even party sex?.
Orgies, key parties, bachelorette parties
 
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