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(ABC)   Dear skank: Thanks for sleeping with my husband and breaking up my marriage. You now owe me $9 million   (abcnews.go.com) divider line 233
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2010-03-22 04:41:10 PM  
missmez: ConstitutionGuy: schattenteufel: Honest Bender:



True story: a couple years ago I was reading a magazine article about a couple in a "at fault" state that were getting a divorce. The husband was claiming that his wife was a complete and total biatch and after 30 years of her shiat, he couldn't take it any more. Their adult son even took the stand to support his dad's claims. The judge ruled against the husband, stating that after 30 years, it either couldn't have been that bad, or he must of been fine with it for at least 29 years.

The funny part? The article didn't name the couple until close to the end. It turned out to be my aunt and uncle.

/they're both farking crazy btw


this is why the "contract law" analysis doesn't work very often. Courts don't treat a marriage as a contract (and why pre-nup agreements must be very carefully crafted). Logic rarely is a winning argument when it comes to marriage.... (and why I would rather be a day laborer in the Mohave Dessert than practice divorce law!)
 
2010-03-22 04:43:32 PM  
ToxicMunkee: Shackelford, 62, wrote that he had had "numerous affairs going back to the first two years" of his marriage and that the couple had "significant problems in their marriage for years, including three rounds of marital counseling that failed."

And yet he chose to stay married for 33 years. He sounds smart.


Well, as Marvin Gaye so aptly put it "...you can leave but it's going to cost you..." And most would rather stay than pay and leave.
 
2010-03-22 04:48:27 PM  
Honest Bender: FTFA: Shackelford sued her husband's alleged mistress, Anne Lundquist, for "alienation of affection," charging that the woman broke up her 33-year marriage.


Uh... sounds like the wife is the only guilty one here... If her husband was getting what he wanted at home he wouldn't be out chasing skirts.
Maybe the woman needs to put down the fork, exercise a little, and give the man a BJ every now and then...


Cough up $9M and we'll talk.
/it puts the money in the basket
 
2010-03-22 05:07:25 PM  
just_another_farker
"No, the wife is not at all responsible for her husband's affair. Even if she didn't want sex with him and that's a big IF because we have no way of knowing that, it's still his responsibility to end the relationship if he was not getting what he wants from it rather than sneaking around and having affairs."


In an ideal world, that would be fair and ethical.

In the real world, a man spends 30+ years working, providing the house, cars, groceries, entertainment, vacations, etc. for everyone, investing into children's tuition funds so they can go to college, and then when that's all done and paid for, if he decides he's had enough and wants to move on, he can file for a divorce -- in which he will lose not only 50% of whatever he hasn't already given to his family, but a good percentage (often half or more) of anything else he will ever earn.

I could agree with it being his responsibility to end the relationship, if it were also her responsibility to let him do so without ruining him financially.
 
2010-03-22 05:07:30 PM  
kronicfeld: Alienation of affection suits are pretty antiquated. As a plaintiffs' civil litigation attorney and a divorce attorney, I certainly wouldn't mind having that cause of action available to my practice, but the logic behind its existence is just obsolete.

As a human being I wouldn't mind having alienation of affection available as a viable action. People would take marriage and commitment far more seriously if they knew homewrecking could bring a lawsuit.

I know that makes me old-fashioned, but if marriage means nothing, get rid of it. If marriage is worth keeping, then give husbands and wives the tools to protect it.
 
2010-03-22 05:10:15 PM  
It takes two in a marriage. It takes two to make it fail. If a person is getting all of their needs met inside the marriage they wouldn't look elsewhere because...we all inherently look for the easiest solution to our problems.

If husband and wife meet all of each other's needs emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and sexually then why would you look elsewhere? Dating takes work. Sneaking around takes work.

Simple answer: She was withholding in some way, he found someone willing to fill that void she created.
 
2010-03-22 05:16:30 PM  
hailin: It takes two in a marriage. It takes two to make it fail. If a person is getting all of their needs met inside the marriage they wouldn't look elsewhere because...we all inherently look for the easiest solution to our problems.

If husband and wife meet all of each other's needs emotionally, spiritually, physically, financially, and sexually then why would you look elsewhere? Dating takes work. Sneaking around takes work.

Simple answer: She was withholding in some way, he found someone willing to fill that void she created.


Maybe. Maybe he's just a jackass. If he didn't want to be in the marriage any more because it wasn't working for him, he should have been a responsible adult and sought a divorce. If you're not willing to take that kind of responsibility, don't get married.
 
2010-03-22 05:34:57 PM  
So, could my wife sue BangBus?
 
2010-03-22 05:35:48 PM  
politicsoffthegrid.files.wordpress.com
Taking notes.
 
2010-03-22 05:57:40 PM  
Everytime a husband cheats, I read in here that his "needs" weren't being met and if the wife just put out more or looked exactly the way she did 33 years ago this never would have happened. We don't know she wasn't a wonderful wife. Maybe his "needs" were the thrills he gets from cheating.
 
2010-03-22 06:11:16 PM  
ZigaZig Ahhhh: Everytime a husband cheats, I read in here that his "needs" weren't being met and if the wife just put out more or looked exactly the way she did 33 years ago this never would have happened. We don't know she wasn't a wonderful wife. Maybe his "needs" were the thrills he gets from cheating.

*seconded*
 
2010-03-22 06:40:02 PM  
ZigaZig Ahhhh: Everytime a husband cheats, I read in here that his "needs" weren't being met and if the wife just put out more or looked exactly the way she did 33 years ago this never would have happened. We don't know she wasn't a wonderful wife. Maybe his "needs" were the thrills he gets from cheating.

And she wasn't meeting his needs. HER FAULT!
 
2010-03-22 06:43:08 PM  
ZigaZig Ahhhh: Everytime a husband cheats, I read in here that his "needs" weren't being met and if the wife just put out more or looked exactly the way she did 33 years ago this never would have happened. We don't know she wasn't a wonderful wife. Maybe his "needs" were the thrills he gets from cheating.

I'm thinking of the kind of person who would file a lawsuit like this. Then, I'm comparing it to what I would think of as a "wonderful wife." Not exactly mixing.

/he shouldn't have cheated, but suing the mistress is just sad and stupid
 
2010-03-22 06:52:08 PM  
More women should cheat when their husband's nuts look like shriveled apricots, but he doesn't know they look like shriveled apricots because he hasn't seen his nuts in 15 years thanks to the 100 lb gut he put on, the lazy fat f*ck.

Heh.
 
2010-03-22 07:04:35 PM  
I dig this. I think this should happen in every marriage that ends as a result of adultery, and that goes both ways. If the wife is a whore, the husband should sue her and her boy toy. Cheaters are lame.
 
2010-03-22 07:05:34 PM  
borg7of9
...She will most likely spend the rest of her life trying to pay this off little by little through wage garnishments, maybe some leins on any property or bank accounts, her credit score may never recover, (who knows what the laws in NC allow for?)...not to mention the public exposure and shame that is gonna come along with something like this like the fact that her name will show up in google as being a Jezebel. Lifetime will be sure to make some silly movie about it for sure. I'm sure the wife is quite happy and surely likes knowing this chicks life is gonna miserable and picked apart.

Actually, I see it being the other way. The hubby & Jezebel may very well be quite happy together, having great sex and laughing at what a loser the wife is. Her targeting them both could be yet another factor that bonds them. The wife is using the courts as a weapon, but if she truly loved the hubby, then she can't get back the one thing she really wants, and the Jez knows it.

If the hubby & Jezebel break up, the Jez will have no problem snaring another man, because she's already shown she has the skills. Meanwhile, do you think any other man would so much ask the wife out for coffee, knowing how vindictive and money-hungry she is? She'll die alone, with whatever money she was able to squeeze out of the Jez, while people speculate endlessly on just why her husband was, by his own admission, NEVER faithful to her.

A marriage may involve a contract, and adultery may be a violation of that contract. But a lawsuit like this just tells the world that you're a massively sore loser. Any woman with dignity would have walked away.
 
2010-03-22 07:12:24 PM  
ToxicMunkee: More women should cheat when their husband's nuts look like shriveled apricots, but he doesn't know they look like shriveled apricots because he hasn't seen his nuts in 15 years thanks to the 100 lb gut he put on, the lazy fat f*ck.

Heh.



Now you got me lookin' at my nuts. They are wrinkly bastards, aren't they?


/At least
//I can still see 'em
 
2010-03-22 07:12:49 PM  
She wont be alone for long.
www.gossipcheck.com
9 million you say?
 
2010-03-22 07:25:28 PM  
ToxicMunkee: More women should cheat when their husband's nuts look like shriveled apricots, but he doesn't know they look like shriveled apricots because he hasn't seen his nuts in 15 years thanks to the 100 lb gut he put on, the lazy fat f*ck.

Heh.


You're gonna love my nuts.
 
2010-03-22 07:59:18 PM  
asciibaron: if my wife gains 10 more pounds, she's gone. well, not gone, i need a maid. i think i can work it out. by work it out i mean stick it in some hottie while my wife cleans the house and shuttles the kids to school and soccer. what could go wrong?

You seem like a happy husband.
 
2010-03-22 08:04:36 PM  
555-FILK: asciibaron: if my wife gains 10 more pounds, she's gone. well, not gone, i need a maid. i think i can work it out. by work it out i mean stick it in some hottie while my wife cleans the house and shuttles the kids to school and soccer. what could go wrong?

You seem like a happy husband and father.


FTFM
 
2010-03-22 08:14:23 PM  
Came for picture of Dale Gribble.

Leaving satisfied.
 
2010-03-22 08:20:54 PM  
I dont think Ive ever been cheated on, I say "think" cause none of my boyfriends have told me one way or the other. However, I do know that I am open enough to try new things, and ya know...my boyfriend wants a blonde? Buy a wig. Keep things fun, and interesting.


/Never been married
//Marriage scares me
 
2010-03-22 08:25:03 PM  
PJ_the_Barbarian: so basically a jury decided that 9 megabucks was the value of this lady's fantasy that she did nothing wrong and her husband would still be loving and faithful if not for some convenient tail?

Maybe he wouldn't, but maybe if some easy woman didn't give him an outlet to hide from the problems he would have faced them and sorted them out and the marriage would have survived and become stronger.
 
2010-03-22 08:33:18 PM  
The wife is equally responsible for the breakdown in the marriage. She knew her husband had wants/desires (I refuse to call them needs because no one needs to have sex. You wont die without it. we just really really want it.). She didn't maintain her end of the relationship. It takes two people to maintain a working relationship. I stand by what I said, if their relationship had been healthy, the husband probably wouldn't have been out looking for tail.

How do you know the wife contributed anything towards the breakup of the marriage. Maybe she did everything right, maybe she was very sexual, maybe she kept a very good house, maybe she worked. Maybe the problems they had stemmed from his affairs and the hurt they cause. maybe he only had them because he has no respect for her.
 
2010-03-22 08:34:46 PM  
Honest Bender: just_another_farker: You cannot claim that if she'd only put out he wouldn't be having an affair. The responsibility lies with him as it was his choice. Period.

His choice was likely heavily influenced by her actions. Thus the responsibility lies with her as well. Period.


Bullshiat.
 
2010-03-22 08:36:53 PM  
1) the husband is a douchebag who never intended to be faithful, and the tail he was chasing didn't really matter

read the article it is this one, he admits his affairs started 2 years after his marriage. He never intended to be faithful and he will probably not be faithful to any woman he meets.
 
2010-03-22 08:41:26 PM  
To The Escape Zeppelin!: MasterThief: kronicfeld: Alienation of affection suits are pretty antiquated. As a plaintiffs' civil litigation attorney and a divorce attorney, I certainly wouldn't mind having that cause of action available to my practice, but the logic behind its existence is just obsolete.

If two people have a contract and one of them breaches the contract, the breaching party must pay damages to the other party. If marriage is a contract, then adultery is a breach of the contract, and the breaching spouse must pay damages. What is "obsolete" about that logic?

Yea but it's weird to make the third party pay. The mistress wasn't breaking any contract, the husband was. Shouldn't he be the one to pay?


When a third party interferes with a contract, they can be held liable for all consequences that arise should their interference without.

It's called Tortious Interference of Contract.
 
2010-03-22 08:54:33 PM  
Is the skank chasing my husband on Facebook listening?

Everything you own will belong to me! (Not that I'd want any of your slimy stuff anyway - I'd sell it all for a nickel just to make a point!)
 
2010-03-22 08:59:58 PM  
When a women enters into marriage and all she brings into the marriage is her pussy, she shouldn't be too surprised when hubby looks elsewhere after said pussy gets worn out after a couple of kids and a couple of decades.
 
2010-03-22 09:08:41 PM  
spmkk: just_another_farker
"No, the wife is not at all responsible for her husband's affair. Even if she didn't want sex with him and that's a big IF because we have no way of knowing that, it's still his responsibility to end the relationship if he was not getting what he wants from it rather than sneaking around and having affairs."


In an ideal world, that would be fair and ethical.

In the real world, a man spends 30+ years working, providing the house, cars, groceries, entertainment, vacations, etc. for everyone, investing into children's tuition funds so they can go to college, and then when that's all done and paid for, if he decides he's had enough and wants to move on, he can file for a divorce -- in which he will lose not only 50% of whatever he hasn't already given to his family, but a good percentage (often half or more) of anything else he will ever earn.

I could agree with it being his responsibility to end the relationship, if it were also her responsibility to let him do so without ruining him financially.


He probably ruined her financially.
He probably insisted on having more then one child, knowing the cost would make it financially unreasonable for her to work.
He probably insisted she stay at home while they were at school, putting her in a position of trying to find a job later in life and because she is an older woman putting her in a position of not being able to find one.
He probably also expects her to drop everything when he wants something or wants to go on holiday making it impossible for her to hold onto any job.

So from his insistence she ends up a housewife with no skills, no savings, no interest outside children, housework and mother's club talk and he wonders why she is boring and bitter.

In many cases if the man did not have ideas of what wives are supposed to do but let them decide, the wife would have had a job, had interests and in the case of a divorce cost him a lot less or nothing at all.

Not saying this is the case all the time, but in many cases of stay at home mums it is on the husbands insistance and if that costs the husbands in the long run then so be it.
 
2010-03-23 12:36:01 AM  
I RTFA but haven't read through all the comments, so forgive me if I repeat...

But as a husband who got screwed around on... DAMN I wish this kind of lawsuit wasn't repealed via judges in Kentucky...
 
2010-03-23 11:03:31 AM  
i wonder what happens when/if they get back together.

i know a couple of marriages that ended in divorce only to get remarried back to each other.
 
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