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2010-02-02 02:21:39 PM
Wasilla Hillbilly: I think you can have an identity crisis at near any age where you get lost in a cycle of thoughts about choices you've made and opportunities lost. You can panic and throw away everything good in your life to a misguided search for something better.

This.

/epic words Wasilla Hillbilly.
 
2010-02-02 02:22:51 PM
Has anyone ever speculated that Pocket Ninja might be Anthony Bourdain?
 
2010-02-02 02:23:39 PM
It only seems like a mid-life crisis to people who don't understand it (women?).

It's a lot more about finally having some free time and some free money and being able to do stuff *you* want, instead of 'being a man' and working a crap job to put food on the table for your kids.

My Dad had a motorcycle and a sports car. Then he got married and had kids. He gave up all that stuff that he loved to do what was best for his family. When his kids were finally (mostly) on their own, he was old, but finally had some free time and money.

He went out and bought a motorcycle and a sports car...and everyone was 'OMG - MID LIFE CRISIS'.
 
2010-02-02 02:25:42 PM
Sjetware: ZholtayaStrelka:Dude, an Elise is not an expensive car. Just buy one.

This poster is right. It's actually very cheap in terms of basic maintenance, and the insurance is fairly cheap (assuming you don't have a checkered past). If you can do the maintenance yourself, it gets even cheaper.


Okay, I know that everyone on Fark is making six figures and certainly doesn't have any kids, but I don't know when I'll be able to call a $30-60K (used) toy "not expensive." I looked it up, within 250 miles of me on cars.com there are 7 used Elises, all $30K or more. New they start at $45K... and then the insurance.

That type of dalliance is going to have to wait for kids old enough to not need 24-hour, hawk-eyed supervision and also be able to ride in a front seat. I.e.: mid-life.
 
2010-02-02 02:27:08 PM
Fark_Guy_Rob: My Dad had a motorcycle and a sports car.

Did he have to sell the motorcycle and sports car? We don't have kids yet, but I have a sports car, which is paid off, and zero intentions of selling it when we do. A nice electric/hybrid truck will hopefully fit the bill when they arrive.

/not sure about a motorcycle though
 
2010-02-02 02:28:04 PM
Most days I hate fark and wonder why I'm here with all the incessant bickering, trolltastic posters and the ever decreasing frequency of interesting, intelligent conversation.

Then as always, Pocket Ninja politely reminds me and makes my time here worthwhile again in an instant.
 
2010-02-02 02:28:10 PM
Fark_Guy_Rob: My Dad had a motorcycle and a sports car. Then he got married and had kids. He gave up all that stuff that he loved to do what was best for his family. When his kids were finally (mostly) on their own, he was old, but finally had some free time and money.

My first engineer in the Navy had an air-cooled 911 when he was a junior officer, but by the time I came across him he was having to get excited about getting the Chrysler T&C Limited instead of some pedestrian Dodge Caravan.

Believe it or not, ladies, we never stop wanting the car we had to give up to be "responsible."
 
2010-02-02 02:30:13 PM
Fark_Guy_Rob: It only seems like a mid-life crisis to people who don't understand it (women?).

My mom gave up her other interests completely to raise kids, and never got back into them. Once we moved out, my dad started getting back into things again. These are safe things like coin collecting, record collecting, stein collecting, etc. but she still said it was a midlife crisis.

My dad said that he could finally afford it after spending all his money on us kids.
 
2010-02-02 02:30:14 PM
Wasilla Hillbilly: I think you can have an identity crisis at near any age where you get lost in a cycle of thoughts about choices you've made and opportunities lost. You can panic and throw away everything good in your life to a misguided search for something better.

Based on an old co-worker going through that (he is middle aged though). Yeah. Separating from his wife, deep in debt and dating ex-strippers.

Still trying to live the college life 20 years after. It isn't a "crisis" as much as a his previous family life was just a pause in his real self apparently.
 
2010-02-02 02:32:06 PM
Quatilious Combs: seamus_garcia: What about the quarterlife crisis?

it's the new midlife crisis. i had one in my 20s too.


I'm in my 20s now and having one. I've been doing some research on it and found out that quarterlife crises are actually pretty common as people transition into the "real world." So I'm not a just a whiny biatch (well maybe a bit).
 
2010-02-02 02:34:23 PM
Thisbymaster: Youth is wasted on the youth. The time in your life when you can enjoy things the most you spend it in school or at a bottom of the barrel job. I can't wait for the baby boomer to finally die off and let me have a crack at their jobs.

But to be fair, how shiatty a lifestyle would that be to know all the best years of your life are completely behind you and now it's time to pay the price?

I mean, say we did live a world where youth was spent on nothing but fun, and cash advances were given to the youth to have fun and do what they want, but once youth ended, they had to spend the rest of their life working to pay it all off. You know like say we told the youth we would front the money for their education, and also they could borrow money (maybe from some sort of spending card system) for extra things like trips, and hot clothes , you know, so their youth isn't wasted.... what a utopia that would be.
 
2010-02-02 02:36:46 PM
Thisbymaster: Youth is wasted on the youth. The time in your life when you can enjoy things the most you spend it in school or at a bottom of the barrel job. I can't wait for the baby boomer to finally die off and let me have a crack at their jobs.

Such a nice boyim. Now, get me another knish and get back to the mail room. I have to move some 401K fund balances around a bit this afternoon and don't want to be disturbed.
 
2010-02-02 02:44:09 PM
factoryconnection: EvilEgg: Men buy sports cars at forty because they can finally afford them. They've wanted one since they were thirteen, but didn't have the means to get one until forty.

No kidding; almost every guy I know has, since high school or college, had at least one "dream car" that remains out of reach until their 40's. I don't think that I'll ever not want a Lotus Elise, even though that particular dream didn't start until I was well past college.


Is it wrong that I have a dream sword that costs about as much as a dream car? Never understood the dream car thing. A car just moves me around.

I did just turn 40 and purchased an xbox, my first one ever.
 
2010-02-02 02:45:41 PM

iaazathot


Is it wrong that I have a dream sword that costs about as much as a dream car? Never understood the dream car thing. A car just moves me around.


What does a dream sword do?
 
2010-02-02 02:47:41 PM
PanicAttack: Most days I hate fark and wonder why I'm here with all the incessant bickering, trolltastic posters and the ever decreasing frequency of interesting, intelligent conversation.

Then as always, Pocket Ninja politely reminds me and makes my time here worthwhile again in an instant.


"When you think of your superiors, what emotions do you feel?" (^)
 
2010-02-02 02:49:05 PM
Have had 22 cars in my 22 years of driving, most of them Italian (I go through cars like people go through socks)

The list of the interesting stuff, in more or less order:

RX-7
Fiat X1/9
300ZX TT
Lancia Beta
Alfa Spyder
Alfa GTV-6
Lancia Scorpion
Alfa GTV
Toyota MR-2
TVR 2500M
Alfa 164
Abarth 128

Then I got married and had to give it all up (miss the cars, but such is life)

Now divorced and have no money for my toys again....


...sigh
 
2010-02-02 02:57:59 PM
Yes. I will listen to Faux news on what lies, hype, myths other media sources say are truths.


Can someone pass me the Kool-Aid?

/hot like david koresh
 
2010-02-02 03:05:15 PM
factoryconnection: Sjetware: ZholtayaStrelka:Dude, an Elise is not an expensive car. Just buy one.

This poster is right. It's actually very cheap in terms of basic maintenance, and the insurance is fairly cheap (assuming you don't have a checkered past). If you can do the maintenance yourself, it gets even cheaper.

Okay, I know that everyone on Fark is making six figures and certainly doesn't have any kids, but I don't know when I'll be able to call a $30-60K (used) toy "not expensive." I looked it up, within 250 miles of me on cars.com there are 7 used Elises, all $30K or more. New they start at $45K... and then the insurance.

That type of dalliance is going to have to wait for kids old enough to not need 24-hour, hawk-eyed supervision and also be able to ride in a front seat. I.e.: mid-life.


I know from experience... you're looking in the wrong spot. Check out lotustalk.com or britishspeed.com (forums for Lotus enthusiasts) - you can definitely find cars from people that have lovingly taken care of the car and you can get it for sub 30K all said and done. Even the 'high mileage' cars (which is a joke, since anything over 20K is 'high mileage') are good buys. My insurance is also only about 600 / 6 months through Geico, which is darn cheap if you ask me.

That said, if you have to worry about moving the kids from A to B, then, yeah, I'll agree that a Lotus probably isn't in the cards right now. The Lotus manual itself suggests not to transport children in the passenger seat.
 
2010-02-02 03:05:17 PM
Thisbymaster: Youth is wasted on the youth. The time in your life when you can enjoy things the most you spend it in school or at a bottom of the barrel job.

Sounds like you are really saying that wealth and stability are wasted on the old.
 
2010-02-02 03:09:10 PM
iaazathot: I did just turn 40 and purchased an xbox, my first one ever.

An xbox is a male sanity saving device. When you turn 18, you should be presented with an xbox as an initiation rite. You then become a ManTM.
 
2010-02-02 03:11:58 PM
"Men buy sports cars at forty because they can finally afford them. They've wanted one since they were thirteen, but didn't have the means to get one until forty."

Also after they dumped their bipolar drug addicted spouse at 40, remarried a great woman that had her own motorcycle, and was able to get out of the financial that their ex-wife dug me into. Then, I was able to pick up the bike hobby again because I wasn't dumping my money into a black hole.

/not bitter, relieved

/yes, I am talking about me
 
2010-02-02 03:14:57 PM
Alphakronik: Yes. I will listen to Faux news on what lies, hype, myths other media sources say are truths.


Can someone pass me the Kool-Aid?

/hot like david koresh Jim Jones


The Kool Aid cult suicide was at Jonestown

Just saying. Not advocating Koresh in any way.
 
2010-02-02 03:19:19 PM
burgle23: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: About as much of a myth as the female orgasm.

No, that's very real. I can attest to it. :)

I'd believe you, but I think you're trying to sell me a vibrating, heated anus.


Nah, I'd be more likely to try to sell you weighted ball stretchers. They do the job just as well and look smashing. :)
 
2010-02-02 03:21:50 PM
Tosoto: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: About as much of a myth as the female orgasm.

No, that's very real. I can attest to it. :)

*reads profile*

Why hello there...

/How you doin'

I'm doing fine. Reading FARK while working on an erotic story. :)

Bah, I want to start writing myself. But here I am on FARK while thinking I should write something but then end up not writing at all.

/Do you take apprentices? :3


I like to take breaks from writing by hanging out on FARK. Just put FARK away for awhile and get to your writing. That's what I do. I can't wait for the muse to strike or I'd never write.
 
2010-02-02 03:22:49 PM
Coiled Hot 1: burgle23: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: About as much of a myth as the female orgasm.

No, that's very real. I can attest to it. :)

I'd believe you, but I think you're trying to sell me a vibrating, heated anus.

You can get those??? Where, tell me where.


Lots of places. Bondara for one. :)
 
2010-02-02 03:23:48 PM
iaazathot: Is it wrong that I have a dream sword that costs about as much as a dream car? Never understood the dream car thing. A car just moves me around.

And a dream sword does what? Sits prettily in your hand and on the wall, or in its case.
 
2010-02-02 03:23:48 PM
Smeggy Smurf: ms_lara_croft: Is there a scientific explanation for cougars?

When I'm done with my extensive research on the subject I'll publish my findings.


LOL, don't wear yourself out.
 
2010-02-02 03:35:36 PM
New research suggests professional researchers have too much time on their hands.

/ I never said Leonard was faking, I just said his problem wasn't physical
 
2010-02-02 03:36:22 PM
megalynn44: But to be fair, how shiatty a lifestyle would that be to know all the best years of your life are completely behind you and now it's time to pay the price?

To be really fair, everyone gets to that point. Just not at the same age.
 
2010-02-02 03:36:25 PM
ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: About as much of a myth as the female orgasm.

No, that's very real. I can attest to it. :)

*reads profile*

Why hello there...

/How you doin'

I'm doing fine. Reading FARK while working on an erotic story. :)

Bah, I want to start writing myself. But here I am on FARK while thinking I should write something but then end up not writing at all.

/Do you take apprentices? :3

I like to take breaks from writing by hanging out on FARK. Just put FARK away for awhile and get to your writing. That's what I do. I can't wait for the muse to strike or I'd never write.


I was a writer's muse once, over a long weekend in New Mexico. She was fun.
 
2010-02-02 03:36:34 PM
Not only has a greater emphasis on personal fulfillment turned the myth of the mid-life crisis on its head, he says, research has disproved the notion that the brain deteriorates after 40.

Wut?
 
2010-02-02 03:37:18 PM
Sjetware: I know from experience... you're looking in the wrong spot.

I haven't looked into it too much, I just checked cars.com for a snapshot. Trust me, I'm not even interested in teasing myself right now!
 
2010-02-02 03:38:45 PM
As my Grandfather told me - 'All things in moderation, including moderation.'

Sometimes you just have to do things - even if you know that they are probably stupid.
 
2010-02-02 03:44:26 PM
That is the Pocket Ninja that I remember.
 
2010-02-02 03:54:21 PM
ms_lara_croft: burgle23: ms_lara_croft: Tosoto: About as much of a myth as the female orgasm.

No, that's very real. I can attest to it. :)

I'd believe you, but I think you're trying to sell me a vibrating, heated anus.

Nah, I'd be more likely to try to sell you weighted ball stretchers. They do the job just as well and look smashing. :)


At the age of fourteen a Zoroastrian named Vilma ritualistically shaved my testicles. There really is nothing like a shorn scrotum... it's breathtaking- I highly suggest you try it.
/unstretched
 
2010-02-02 03:55:20 PM
The middle-aged years are actually among the happiest in a person's life, a study has found.

img402.imageshack.us

Buying this would make me happy, too.
 
2010-02-02 03:59:42 PM
Cure for my mid-life crisis:

-'72 American Standard Stratocaster
-Enough amplifiers to drown out the wife and kids
 
2010-02-02 03:59:51 PM
Tosoto: /Do you take apprentices? :3

Dr. Zoidberg?
 
2010-02-02 04:02:22 PM
Pocket Ninja: You've had the nagging sensation for a while. Had it as you sit there on the couch that your fiance picked out from Haverty's, brown suede that matches the curtains and those modern art paintings that look to you like a loose scatter of toothpicks viewed through sea glass but are inexplicably titled "From My Heart" and "Bosom." You weigh the PS3 controller in your hand as you wait for the Netflix menu to open. It was smart, buying the PS3. A sensible move. You get Blu-Ray movies and you get games, and you get the media center, too, although honestly that's a feature you never use. You wish you did. You know you should. There are starving children in the world who have probably never even heard of a media center, and for you to just ignore the one you have...

You pop open your Sam Adams. A winter lager. You don't know what you are going to watch. Your queue has grown so long. You add movies to it faster than you can watch them.

And that's when it occurs to you. The thought is like a crashing wave, one that sucks the air from your lungs and leaves your legs buckled and weak. You may never actually get through your queue. You may die first. In fact, you will die first. You know this. You will die before you even get halfway down to the movie you've most recently added, some old Jeff Bridges boxing flick called Fat City that you'd never heard of before. But, hey, Jeff Bridges. And now you may never see it at all.

And is this it? Is this mortality? Is your life truly measured against an ever-growing Netflix queue? If that's true, then you are merely Sisyphus reborn. Your entire life a testament to the unfinished. The unachievable. This brown couch...is this the couch you will always have? You have never owned a beanbag chair, though you have dreamed of one since childhood. Your PS3, so sensible, so smart...but will you never have an XBox? Will you never play Halo online? And your fiance, her cute bangs and cute laugh and cute perky chest--will there never be another? There are other girls to date. Girls with tramp stamps, girls with breasts like pendulums, girls who would do things to you that you can't even vocalize. There are more, so many more, and you will never have them all. You will die first.

This is what you realize. This is the nagging feeling you've had. You switch off the controller and you sag back into that brown couch, stare up at the paintings and take a long drink. You close your eyes, and you weep. Long, wracking sobs that rend your chest. You weep for the world, and for for what you will never be.


As someone who is just hitting 45, and into my mid life crisis - there is a reason you are in my favorites, Ninja Guy. LOL.
 
2010-02-02 04:17:49 PM
thrasherrr: megalynn44: But to be fair, how shiatty a lifestyle would that be to know all the best years of your life are completely behind you and now it's time to pay the price?

To be really fair, everyone gets to that point. Just not at the same age.


Oh yeah, totally. Some people peak at high school, which really sucks for them. But I was responding to the comment that youth is wasted on the young, and you don't get to enjoy it. My point was that it actually a good thing not to have it all when you're young. It's healthy to steadily improve the quality of your life over time.
 
2010-02-02 04:47:15 PM
I'm currently way deep into my 'quaterlife crisis' so I guess I'm getting a kick out of these replies.

I reached 25 and looked back seeing that I had done nothing with my life. 3 jobs, all right at the bottom of the ladder and minimum wage. No better job prospects on the horizon. Nothing but basic education. 1 failed relationship that lasted about 3 months and ended years ago. Still don't have a place of my own. And I've never even travelled. I hadn't even left my town once. I'd made it to 25 years without living my life at all.

The only 'accomplishment' I had were my life savings which were pretty weak compared to what may people I know have. I guess I just snapped. I told myself that I'd saved for all these years but I was still in exactly the same place I was when I first left school. So in 2009 I had 2 holidays to both sides of the world. This blew a massive dent in my savings and I still plan on another 1 or 2 big holidays this year. It's like I finally said 'fark it, I want something for myself'. But now it's difficult to come back down from that.

I figure I've probably got 4 more big holidays before the money runs out and I'm forced to stop.
 
2010-02-02 04:47:31 PM
ha! the only thing that makes strenger happy is bashing israel.
 
2010-02-02 04:57:55 PM
Yes, it's true.
But without me, you're only you.
 
2010-02-02 05:48:12 PM
That article is total bullshiat. It's exactly because, in your middle years, you realize that you ARE settled and complacent that causes mid-life crises.

Also, every year you age, time seems to speed up. At 20 you have 50 years left and that seems like a long time. At 50 you have 20 year left and you can remember 20 year ago like it was yesterday. It feels like you're at death's door.

Also, you start having health problems, and you start wondering which ones are going to stick with you and finally get you in the end.

Also, your friends start dying. When you're younger, sure, you lose a few people to car crashes or substance abuse, but when you're middle aged you start seeing them die of heart problems and strokes.

Also, you realize that whatever success you had with women is well behind you. If you are not single you think about all the missed opportunities throughout your married life and that you'll have to spend the rest of your life with this one woman. It's not that you don't love her, it's that you still want to be attractive to other women. If you're not married, you know that if you do have any success with the women, it's not going to be the slutty college girls you bagged in your youth, it's going to be an empty nest divorcee or widow. Anything younger and they have kids, and you REALLY don't want to do that drill AGAIN.

Also, you realize that the older you get, the more your friend fall away and you start to wonder, when I'm too old to take care of myself, who is going to change my shiatty diaper? You start wondering, of the years I have left, which don't seem like many, how many of them do I have left that I *can* take care of myself?

Also, at some point in the middle years you start realizing that all the stupid thing you always wanted to do as a kid are never going to happen. You're not going to be a rock star. In fact, you're getting too farking old to even stand up for five hours to play a show in a bar, much less pack stadiums on a 300 date tour. Let's not even talk about the farked up back that gets worse every time you have to set up and tear down that heavy ass sound system. You're not going to get to bang Farrah Fawcett or Morgan Fairchild, and not only because you're too old and ugly but also you don't really want to because one's dead and the other is an old hag now.

That's what a true mid-life crisis is. I know, I've had several already.
 
2010-02-02 05:55:00 PM
megalynn44: I mean, say we did live a world where youth was spent on nothing but fun, and cash advances were given to the youth to have fun and do what they want, but once youth ended, they had to spend the rest of their life working to pay it all off. You know like say we told the youth we would front the money for their education, and also they could borrow money (maybe from some sort of spending card system) for extra things like trips, and hot clothes , you know, so their youth isn't wasted.... what a utopia that would be.

Hey, that sounds just like m-- .... wait a minute.
 
2010-02-02 09:39:47 PM
Sjetware: ZholtayaStrelka:Dude, an Elise is not an expensive car. Just buy one.

This poster is right. It's actually very cheap in terms of basic maintenance, and the insurance is fairly cheap (assuming you don't have a checkered past). If you can do the maintenance yourself, it gets even cheaper.


Sure, but even affordable sports cars are impractical to family men (you really can't haul too much in the way of people or cargo in a Lotus). They may have the means before their 40s, but they have to ALSO wait for their kids to get out of the house (or at least learn to drive) so they can justify the impracticality of the Lotus.
 
2010-02-02 11:38:22 PM
Tom Paulin: I'm currently way deep into my 'quaterlife crisis' so I guess I'm getting a kick out of these replies.

I reached 25 and looked back seeing that I had done nothing with my life. 3 jobs, all right at the bottom of the ladder and minimum wage. No better job prospects on the horizon. Nothing but basic education. 1 failed relationship that lasted about 3 months and ended years ago. Still don't have a place of my own. And I've never even travelled. I hadn't even left my town once. I'd made it to 25 years without living my life at all.

The only 'accomplishment' I had were my life savings which were pretty weak compared to what may people I know have. I guess I just snapped. I told myself that I'd saved for all these years but I was still in exactly the same place I was when I first left school. So in 2009 I had 2 holidays to both sides of the world. This blew a massive dent in my savings and I still plan on another 1 or 2 big holidays this year. It's like I finally said 'fark it, I want something for myself'. But now it's difficult to come back down from that.

I figure I've probably got 4 more big holidays before the money runs out and I'm forced to stop.



I had a similar experience after starting a new relationship (married to her now :) after a bad one, and my mom's breast cancer fight months later. I started playing with the math of life. For example, at 22 it hit me that I could clearly remember what it was like to be 11 and becoming increasingly responsible for myself since, but that I hadn't done much with my life anyways.

Then I started to fret about "months". You can actually comprehend a month as a unit of time, better than a year or 52 weeks. You remember everything that you did over the last month better than over the last year, if you try to remember it. So, when I say:

- From the day you were born to your 18th birthday, you've only been alive for 216 months.

- By the time you turn 80 (rounded average lifespan), you'd have lived for 960 months.

...you can grasp what 216, or 960, months actually is.

So, I realized if you start with 960, subtract 216 for the months up to 18 (because you're infancy is unproductive, and you're still considered a kid and minor), and subtract the months you spent in college (about 48) if you went (because you're still in school preparing for life), as well as the months for your retirement (65th birthday to your 80th, 180 months), you're left with 516 months of adult, productive life, if you're lucky enough to stay healthy and capable.

That could make matters worse. But it should put every week you're looking for work, or working at something you hate, or putting off losing 10 lbs, or fixing your relationship, or dropping your shiatty SO, into sharp focus.

Anyways, this all hit me as "Damn! Time does move fast! What do I, and will I, have to show for it?"

Travel is a valuable experience, as is learning about other cultures and history. For me, the solution was (and is still the way I stay sane today at 30) developing skills: it was like shopping for parts to build a machine to make the best of every week - some business courses here, some web design & coding books there, some volunteer work on the side, and leftover networking to boot, some walking/jogging, lots of dates with my wife, and sources of inspiration (Ben Frankin, for instance :), etc.

It helped me, and I hope it helps someone who reads this.
 
2010-02-03 12:07:32 AM
Tom Paulin: I'm currently way deep into my 'quaterlife crisis' so I guess I'm getting a kick out of these replies.

I reached 25 and looked back seeing that I had done nothing with my life. 3 jobs, all right at the bottom of the ladder and minimum wage. No better job prospects on the horizon. Nothing but basic education. 1 failed relationship that lasted about 3 months and ended years ago. Still don't have a place of my own. And I've never even travelled. I hadn't even left my town once. I'd made it to 25 years without living my life at all.

The only 'accomplishment' I had were my life savings which were pretty weak compared to what may people I know have. I guess I just snapped. I told myself that I'd saved for all these years but I was still in exactly the same place I was when I first left school. So in 2009 I had 2 holidays to both sides of the world. This blew a massive dent in my savings and I still plan on another 1 or 2 big holidays this year. It's like I finally said 'fark it, I want something for myself'. But now it's difficult to come back down from that.

I figure I've probably got 4 more big holidays before the money runs out and I'm forced to stop.



I forgot two things. First, it's common now for people in their 20's and early 30's to be in a similar situation you find yourself in. Living at home, maybe unsure about career paths, etc. I'm not a sociologist, but apparently it's a consequence of modern day society, in the West anyways.

Two, you don't have to come back down from your trips. You got a taste, so make a plan to keep getting that taste, and you'll find your confidence and focus will improve.
 
2010-02-03 03:40:52 PM
Pocket Ninja:

I have no words. You cut to the heart, and your writing paints a vivid picture in my mind.
 
2010-02-03 05:55:15 PM
Many, many good comments. Much that seems to be true or that I can relate to.

I actually did have a quarter-life crisis, or something like that at age 25. I realized that we're all here for a purpose of some sort, and I was acutely aware that I had not yet gained the knowledge and wisdom I'd need to be able to accomplish more than I'd done so far. That was, um, more than a few years ago. I can say that I've grown and matured, no matter how little or how much I've accomplished.

When I see how some people are lazy and manipulate or use people, or even worse, horrifically mistreat family members, friends, or co-workers, I've come to the realization that how we treat others in life probably says the most about who we are and what kind of person each one of of is.

Sharing love and kindness, respect for others, That's what it's all about. People who don't love themselves can't share love with others.

/don't let yourself be one of the miserable people
 
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