I would never yell at you, subby. I love you too much to yell at you. You mean the world to me. You are my world. That's why you've disappointed me so much just now, do you understand? Can you understand my point? I love you so much and want to do what I can for you, but you've disappointed me so much and I'm really wondering if maybe I've made a mistake even deciding to have you as a part of my life. Sometimes you just make me think that maybe I can't keep you around, that maybe you're just never going to be even half as good as I hoped you would be. And it's not fair for me to constantly expect good things from you when I know you can't deliver them. I don't want to be unfair to you. I love you to much to be that unfair. If you love something, you have to let it go sometimes. You know? Maybe you just need to be around people who will be satisfied with you not being good enough. I just don't think I can be that person. I'm not strong enough. It's me, not you. I don't have what it takes to support your failure. But I tell you what. Let's just take a breather now, an hour or so. We'll come back and talk about this later.

Even kids know what an unrestrained idiot you look like when you feel the need to scream. If you don't have a modicum of patience, don't have children.

platkat: Even kids know what an unrestrained idiot you look like when you feel the need to scream. If you don't have a modicum of patience, don't have children.

You obviously have never had children. No matter how calm, patient and rational you are, there are times you lose it, like when the kids are fighting over something stupid, your son refuses to even try to do his homework even when you've painstakingly told him what to do and offered to help, when the toys you asked/told/demanded to be picked up are still on the floor and you've just stepped on one in your bare feet, or you're just having a really bad day and this is what puts it over the top.

Sometimes you need to vent and there will be times where you can't vent the right way and just lose it. I'm more of a a voice raiser than a yeller but occasionally lose it. Talking rationally gets tuned out just as much as yelling -- sometimes even more so because you're never sure that your child heard you. My wife yells so infrequently that when she loses it the kids know they are in BIG trouble.

/grew up in a Jewish house -- screaming was talking
//for the most part our kids are well behaved.

TFA : We congratulate our toddlers for blowing their nose ("Good job!")

Jesus, man. If my toddler suddenly figured out how to blow her nose I'd throw a parade. It'd be one less thing I would have to help her with.

Coming soon: Why does mommy have a drinking problem?

And though she's not really feeling ill
there's a little yellow pill...

Mommy drinks because you cry

But, incongruously and with regularity, this is a generation that yells.

Funny... I grew up in the 70's where the yelling was BECAUSE of Mommy's drinking.

Feck that... I holler at my kids when they deserve it. I also give them praise when they deserve it too. Nevwer "just for the helluvit".

I "friend" my kids on Facebook because I want to BE A FECKING PARENT.

I've noticed that my kids have the same disgusted reaction as me to "touchy/feely" parenting.

Maybe I'm doing something right.

Not only do I agree with parents spanking their children, I agree with spanking the children of total strangers when merited. Hell, I am in agreement with muzzles for children.

/Not a big fan of the little ones.

Ennuipoet: Not a big fan of the little ones.

I've never laughed as hard at a dinner table as I do with the wife and kids now.

/They're funny as Hell

If I had a kid, I'd train him/her to defend him/herself.

As I am a better teacher than practioner, within no time the toddler would inevitably be beating the living shiate out of me.

I speaking to kids in a seemingly neutral tone which nevertheless sends shivers down their little spines and makes them despair of ever finding anything good or kind in this world still acceptable?

'Cause it works.

/Can do the look of death too - also effective.

Spare the rod, spoil the child.

Pocket Ninja: I would never yell at you, subby. I love you too much to yell at you. You mean the world to me. You are my world. That's why you've disappointed me so much just now, do you understand? Can you understand my point? I love you so much and want to do what I can for you, but you've disappointed me so much and I'm really wondering if maybe I've made a mistake even deciding to have you as a part of my life. Sometimes you just make me think that maybe I can't keep you around, that maybe you're just never going to be even half as good as I hoped you would be. And it's not fair for me to constantly expect good things from you when I know you can't deliver them. I don't want to be unfair to you. I love you to much to be that unfair. If you love something, you have to let it go sometimes. You know? Maybe you just need to be around people who will be satisfied with you not being good enough. I just don't think I can be that person. I'm not strong enough. It's me, not you. I don't have what it takes to support your failure. But I tell you what. Let's just take a breather now, an hour or so. We'll come back and talk about this later.

Wow, I know it's humor but I was somehow a bit traumatized by that. I think I may have some parental issues....

Nogale: I Is speaking to kids in a seemingly neutral tone which nevertheless sends shivers down their little spines and makes them despair of ever finding anything good or kind in this world still acceptable?

'Cause it works.

/Can do the look of death too - also effective.

FTFM

Toots McGee: Can somebody explain to me, just what the fark was wrong about how we were disciplined that today's parents think it needs to be so dramatically altered?

We don't want our kids to turn out like you.

Wait...I'm having a premonition....

I foresee that...wait...parents are going to continue to raise their kids just like they've always done...and ignore dumbass articles like this one...yes...because kids are unpredictable, raising them is unquantifiable...yes...

And as long as you love your kids and let them know it, it seems like 95% of them end up just fine. Whew. That was tough.

It used to be in the 50's, Dr. Spock (yes, he was a real doctor) said showing your kids too much physical affection was unhealthy. Some parents did that, and their kids probably wound up being Manson's groupies. Everyone else said "you know, I wanna hug my kids" and did what they thought was best for the kids.

mysticcat: Mommy drinks because you cry

No, Mommy cries because I drink.

/daddy

Beat your kids* twice a day; If you don't know why, they do.

/also applies to wives

mysticcat: Mommy drinks because you cry

My kids wonder why I drink so much. I wonder why I don't drink more.

Passive aggressive anger and guilt are much more effective methods of bringing your kids up right.