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2009-09-13 04:03:49 PM  
AbbeySomeone: I had to sign up to view her stuff, and when I did, immediately it showed my 'friends' that were facebook members - info taken from my email. Creepy. Most people don't realize that all these data bases aren't here for purely altruistic purposes.

I'm pretty sure as soon as you sign up, there's a screen that says, "Are your friends already on Facebook?" or something to that effect, and then it asks you to put in your email password, with the promisethat they won't store your password. There's also an option to skip that step.
 
2009-09-13 04:08:26 PM  
Pumpernickel bread: This is why I don't do facebook. She would know where to send the hitman.

If I wasn't still living in the same house when my ex-wife left I'd know what you mean. At least she'll know where to send the guy she claims is her fiance if he ever gets the money to fly here from Jamaica and actually meet her in person.
 
2009-09-13 04:10:56 PM  
abbeysomeone you're a real moron.
 
2009-09-13 04:11:26 PM  
Urda 2009-09-13 04:00:59 PM

/fark WoW
//and WoW Players



The bitter is strong with this one
 
2009-09-13 04:12:27 PM  
RockIsDead: Most of you Fark kids aren't old enough to have any real exes.

Give it a few decades.



oh, I have a real ex alright. I would say he's definitely an ex when he abused me. would NEVER be his 'friend' on facebook or any where else on this earth. it's kinda hard to any way....since he's in jail.
 
2009-09-13 04:14:41 PM  
TFA: The pair still got along, although this time just as friends.

Which is the way things usually happen, but that makes for a boring article.

Besides, once you have more than one ex as a Facebook friend it becomes far too complicated to be stalking all of them anyway. You wind up exchanging pleasantries, parenting tips, pictures of the kids and so forth.

It's all more normal and less creepy than it would have been the old way.
 
2009-09-13 04:15:47 PM  
Not a bad site but you have to be careful what you post to them now that companies are using them to "back-ground checks" now days.

That and the site runs like crap half the time I am using it.
They really need to do something to improve the site soon
 
2009-09-13 04:16:14 PM  
I don't mind my past flings seeing that I'm doing well and living life to the fullest, etc. What bothers me is pesky family members spying on me... At least twice a month a cousin or uncle I keep in touch with will message me, saying something like "Your grandmother saw that you said/did ______ on facebook and isn't too happy about it."

Well tough shiat.
 
2009-09-13 04:19:59 PM  
Hooking up with an ex is surprisingly fulfilling. And easy.
 
2009-09-13 04:21:06 PM  
kingfish2004: Not a bad site but you have to be careful what you post to them now that companies are using them to "back-ground checks" now days.

That and the site runs like crap half the time I am using it.
They really need to do something to improve the site soon


How do companies get into someone's facebook to check on them? Do they send you a friend request? Seriously, how though? I mean if you put your stuff to private so that only people on your friends list can look?
 
2009-09-13 04:21:06 PM  
IKillBugs: Veeoh: wow, 17 comments and no FB haters.

Are you ill Fark?

FB has it's uses. I'm not a fan of the 1,000,000,000,000,000,000 requests to use whatever retarded application my friends & relative seem to find though.


Good news:
http://lite.facebook.com/

Just-launched, stripped down version. Started toying with it yesterday. So far, somewhat less obnoxious than the full version. It seems to skip all postings related to idiotic apps - which by itself makes Facebook Lite better than full-strength Facebook.

/only sign in every couple weeks to touch base with distant friends
 
2009-09-13 04:21:16 PM  
What bugs me is people who I haven't heard from in 20 years sending me friend requests. My best friend from grammar school tried to friend me. I recapped the last 20 years in 25 words or less, and he's all "we should get together next time I'm in your state".

Meh.

I have enough friends. If I haven't stayed in touch in the last 20 years, odds are I'm not terribly interested in getting back in touch. I'm fine with that.

Then I get friend requests from people whose names I don't recognize. Turns out most of them are people who graduated from my high school the same year as me, who I never even had a class with. Like I care about your kids first little league game. Why would I friend you?
 
2009-09-13 04:22:25 PM  
100 Watt Walrus: IKillBugs: Veeoh: wow, 17 comments and no FB haters.

Are you ill Fark?

FB has it's uses. I'm not a fan of the 1,000,000,000,000,000,000 requests to use whatever retarded application my friends & relative seem to find though.

Good news:
http://lite.facebook.com/

Just-launched, stripped down version. Started toying with it yesterday. So far, somewhat less obnoxious than the full version. It seems to skip all postings related to idiotic apps - which by itself makes Facebook Lite better than full-strength Facebook.

/only sign in every couple weeks to touch base with distant friends


Amazing. Thanks.
 
2009-09-13 04:22:48 PM  
Goldeneye007: bitter, much?

Maybe. Disinterested might be a better word. I just don't care what they're up to, so I don't care to get that random email from them.


Perducci: I think we can all guess which half of those relationships was the problem.

Glad to see that the Fark Armchair Psychologist brigade is on duty.
 
2009-09-13 04:26:02 PM  
Trick E. Dick: I don't mind my past flings seeing that I'm doing well and living life to the fullest, etc. What bothers me is pesky family members spying on me... At least twice a month a cousin or uncle I keep in touch with will message me, saying something like "Your grandmother saw that you said/did ______ on facebook and isn't too happy about it."

Well tough shiat.


Now, see, here's what I don't get about Facebook. Not to pick on you specifically, but why does anyone feel compelled to post everything they do in any public or semi-public arena?

Not that I give a fark whether or not, say, my grandmother approves of my lifestyle. But I do not in any way understand the compulsion to post stories and/or pictures of every stupid thing I do.

Again, this isn't directed at you specifically - you're post just brings my lack of understanding into sharp relief.

Seriously, what's the appeal of broadcasting one's life?
 
2009-09-13 04:27:18 PM  
Urda: unchellmatt: I dunno, meeting up with old flings on FB doesn't seem so bad.

Then again, I met my GF while playing World of Warcraft....

Yea, just as bad as an idea as you singing up for that WoW account.

/fark WoW
//and WoW Players


Yeah, everyone knows Aion is were the ladies at!
 
2009-09-13 04:28:00 PM  
It is a slightly odd feeling when you make an account on there, as I did only a few months back, add in a load of friends and then suddenly one day there she is, top right, staring at you.

We think you might like to be friends with Emma!

Awkward
 
2009-09-13 04:32:54 PM  
100 Watt Walrus: Now, see, here's what I don't get about Facebook. Not to pick on you specifically, but why does anyone feel compelled to post everything they do in any public or semi-public arena?

Not that I give a fark whether or not, say, my grandmother approves of my lifestyle. But I do not in any way understand the compulsion to post stories and/or pictures of every stupid thing I do.

Again, this isn't directed at you specifically - you're post just brings my lack of understanding into sharp relief.

Seriously, what's the appeal of broadcasting one's life?


I don't post every event of my life, so no offense taken. I just hear crap because I said "Fark Mondays" or "$2 margaritas tonight!" or something along those lines.

A few friends from high school started pulling that mess- status updates every hour. Quickly got dropped from my friend list. I've got no time for that shiat.
 
2009-09-13 04:34:35 PM  
Quantum Apostrophe: IKillBugs: FB has it's uses.

So does an apostrophe. That wasn't one of them.


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2009-09-13 04:37:58 PM  
Facebook is nothing more than a farking contest to see who is doing the most with their life.
 
2009-09-13 04:38:17 PM  
Trick E. Dick: 100 Watt Walrus: Now, see, here's what I don't get about Facebook. Not to pick on you specifically, but why does anyone feel compelled to post everything they do in any public or semi-public arena?

Not that I give a fark whether or not, say, my grandmother approves of my lifestyle. But I do not in any way understand the compulsion to post stories and/or pictures of every stupid thing I do.

Again, this isn't directed at you specifically - you're post just brings my lack of understanding into sharp relief.

Seriously, what's the appeal of broadcasting one's life?

I don't post every event of my life, so no offense taken. I just hear crap because I said "Fark Mondays" or "$2 margaritas tonight!" or something along those lines.

A few friends from high school started pulling that mess- status updates every hour. Quickly got dropped from my friend list. I've got no time for that shiat.


Ahhh. Well if "Fark Mondays" or "$2 margaritas tonight!" raises the ire of family members, I'm with you. I'm guessing family politics makes it harder for you to block them now that they're friended and can see your everything. Time for a snarky post?

"Went to church today to pray for all the busybodies in my life, hoping that they will get a life of their own and stop throwing stones when they live in glass houses."
 
2009-09-13 04:39:28 PM  
ctobio: Then I get friend requests from people whose names I don't recognize. Turns out most of them are people who graduated from my high school the same year as me, who I never even had a class with. Like I care about your kids first little league game. Why would I friend you?

For a lot of people, having as many friends as possible is something akin to a popularity contest. My number is bigger than yours.

I found a childhood friend that I last met when I was 9 years-old. However, what the heck do we have in common anymore? Besides one or two emails of how life is going, how would he fit in with my group of current friends? (And no, I didn't block him, Perducci)

Different people use FB for different reasons. Each to their own.
 
2009-09-13 04:39:41 PM  
"Several hours and drinks later, the former flings were kissing. Then Stein went home with him. In the morning, she made the drive of shame back home to her parents' house. "Here I was, almost 30, and my mom was so pissed at me," Stein says. She felt as if she were back in high school."

Facebook, if you get me all the lousy sex I didn't have in high school, I'll take back all the bad things I've said about you.
 
2009-09-13 04:39:45 PM  
Trick E. Dick: I don't mind my past flings seeing that I'm doing well and living life to the fullest, etc. What bothers me is pesky family members spying on me... At least twice a month a cousin or uncle I keep in touch with will message me, saying something like "Your grandmother saw that you said/did ______ on facebook and isn't too happy about it."

Well tough shiat.


Oh, no kidding. I have crazy stalker relatives as well and so I'm always careful to not say anything that can be fuel for a fire on FB...

I did find an old friend from elementary school though, which was way neat considering I had moved away from that town years ago.
 
2009-09-13 04:40:36 PM  
Perducci: Dinjiin: I just joined FB the other day. First thing I did was look up all of my old ex-girlfriends and place them on my ignore/block list.

There is a reason for the "ex-" as a prefix.

I think we can all guess which half of those relationships was the problem.


No shiat. I get along perfectly well with almost every girl I've ever dated. What does one have to do to hate all of them?
 
2009-09-13 04:42:04 PM  
AbbeySomeone: I had to sign up to view her stuff, and when I did, immediately it showed my 'friends' that were facebook members - info taken from my email. Creepy. Most people don't realize that all these data bases aren't here for purely altruistic purposes.

Most likely those were the people that listed your email address on their facebook accts so that when/if you did sign up for it you could friend them right away. That's what happened to me when I finally opened an account a couple of months ago...I had 12 people waiting to friend me, many of whom I didn't even have in my email contacts.
 
2009-09-13 04:45:10 PM  
Third_Uncle_Eno:

Yup....poop is coming out.
 
2009-09-13 04:46:12 PM  
kona: WOW. IT"S BEEN FOREVER. CALL ME. WE WILL DO DINNER.

To be fair i would do awful awful awful things to that girl.

/motorboat it like its hot
//mor plz
 
2009-09-13 04:46:16 PM  
AbbeySomeone: Tsunami Ditka: AbbeySomeone: Veeoh: wow, 17 comments and no FB haters.

Are you ill Fark?

Facebook is creepy, invasive and stalkerish.
If I want to give someone info or pictures, I contact them directly.
Logged on to my daughters fb a few weeks ago and immediately it showed who my friends were, WTF? It got into my email account and extracted info immediately and without consent.

Hold on - you logged into your DAUGHTER'S account and it showed who YOUR friends were? I'm confused.

I'm also pretty sure that FB isn't able to get into your email account without consent.

I had to sign up to view her stuff, and when I did, immediately it showed my 'friends' that were facebook members - info taken from my email. Creepy. Most people don't realize that all these data bases aren't here for purely altruistic purposes.


I'm still not sure why you logged into your daughter's account. That's what's actually creepy.
 
2009-09-13 04:55:12 PM  
The thing I hate most about FB is that he's the father.

/Can't believe I had to be the one to do it
 
2009-09-13 04:56:20 PM  
AbbeySomeone: I had to sign up to view her stuff, and when I did, immediately it showed my 'friends' that were facebook members - info taken from my email.

Your Facebook password is probably the same as your email password.

There is a screen where Facebook can log into your Hotmail/Gmail/Yahoo account and scan your address book. At first glance, it appears to be a Facebook login page. You most likely misunderstood what you were typing.
 
2009-09-13 04:57:39 PM  
I dumped my FB account. It was getting too weird. My nieces describing their sex lives, my mother-in-law sending me racy jokes, and worst hearing from people I couldn't give two shiats about 25 years ago, wanting to talk to me now. Why does everyone have to send a stupid friend invitation? Why can't they just say hello and be done with it. I gave up. I dumped my account, and blocked any emails coming to my gmail account. It's weird. I knew these highschool people briefly 25 years ago, but went on with my life. Why the hell would I care what they're doing today?
 
2009-09-13 05:00:58 PM  
indarwinsshadow: I dumped my FB account. It was getting too weird. My nieces describing their sex lives, my mother-in-law sending me racy jokes, and worst hearing from people I couldn't give two shiats about 25 years ago, wanting to talk to me now. Why does everyone have to send a stupid friend invitation? Why can't they just say hello and be done with it. I gave up. I dumped my account, and blocked any emails coming to my gmail account. It's weird. I knew these highschool people briefly 25 years ago, but went on with my life. Why the hell would I care what they're doing today?

Or you just don't become friends with those people, or delete them if they start bothering you.
 
2009-09-13 05:03:04 PM  
CruJones: Or you just don't become friends with those people, or delete them if they start bothering you.

Agreed - ignore request, hide feed and remove contact are wonderful tools.
 
2009-09-13 05:03:42 PM  
AbbeySomeone: had to sign up to view her stuff, and when I did, immediately it showed my 'friends' that were facebook members - info taken from my email. Creepy. Most people don't realize that all these data bases aren't here for purely altruistic purposes.

Um ... not to be mean ... but that's a contact import feature. You have to enter your email password for that to work. They are not just automatically connected. Be careful entering your email password on sites you don't trust.
 
2009-09-13 05:15:09 PM  
scottsolomon.biz
 
2009-09-13 05:27:37 PM  
Dinjiin: I just joined FB the other day. First thing I did was look up all of my old ex-girlfriends and place them on my ignore/block list.

There is a reason for the "ex-" as a prefix.


Woah...

All of my ex-gf's are on my 'friends' list. AKA 'people I would stop and help change a tire list.' Cause there is a reason for that gf after the ex bit.
 
2009-09-13 05:29:49 PM  
DirtyHarry: kona: WOW. IT"S BEEN FOREVER. CALL ME. WE WILL DO DINNER.

To be fair i would do awful awful awful things to that girl.

/motorboat it like its hot
//mor plz


Dirty Harry is Dirty.

\News Letter, etc.
 
2009-09-13 05:30:05 PM  
IKillBugs: Veeoh: wow, 17 comments and no FB haters.

Are you ill Fark?

FB has it's uses. I'm not a fan of the 1,000,000,000,000,000,000 requests to use whatever retarded application my friends & relative seem to find though.


those are annoying but very easy to hide.
 
2009-09-13 05:31:58 PM  
Tsunami Ditka: An ex of mine immediately found me on Facebook--less than a week after I joined, I think. I was polite, but I ignored her friend requests. She left me alone until she heard through the grapevine (we still have many mutual friends) that I got engaged. All of a sudden she was all over my nuts again. I continued to ignore her.

Same thing happened to me a few years back when I joined myspace! She was at the very least--from what I could tell--bipolar and probably had several other issues as well. I hadn't talked to her in at least 8 years, and I had an email from her within a week of joining myspace.

I still have a couple of ex's from awhile back that stalk my blog. I don't get it.
 
2009-09-13 05:32:56 PM  
AbbeySomeone: Tsunami Ditka: AbbeySomeone: Veeoh: wow, 17 comments and no FB haters.

Are you ill Fark?

Facebook is creepy, invasive and stalkerish.
If I want to give someone info or pictures, I contact them directly.
Logged on to my daughters fb a few weeks ago and immediately it showed who my friends were, WTF? It got into my email account and extracted info immediately and without consent.

Hold on - you logged into your DAUGHTER'S account and it showed who YOUR friends were? I'm confused.

I'm also pretty sure that FB isn't able to get into your email account without consent.

I had to sign up to view her stuff, and when I did, immediately it showed my 'friends' that were facebook members - info taken from my email. Creepy. Most people don't realize that all these data bases aren't here for purely altruistic purposes.


Sorry, you were being dumb. Next time, pay attention to the questions the machine is asking you and you won't feel "violated" when your system pulls a bunch of info you said it was "OK" to pull. The fault is yours here for not paying attention.
 
2009-09-13 05:35:03 PM  
The first love of my life ended up divorce, having 2 kids with two different men. Its sad to see people you grow up end up in the situations they did, but for the some who do it right, as you get older, your standards increase, not diminish. We'll always have the memories though.
 
2009-09-13 05:41:47 PM  
I went on *one date* to the movies with some guy in high school (circa 1988). He started calling me too much - way too much. I was at my supermarket job after school, and when I got home one day, my mom was pissed off. She said "Some guy named John has been calling you every 15-20 minutes for the last 3 hours, even though I TOLD him you were at work." Psycho, right? Eventually told him to leave me alone. A few months later, I saw him at a party hosted by a non-connected friend. Did NOT expect to see him - different social circles. That night, at 2AM, I get a phone call - him. He says, in this creepy voice, "I should have killed you tonight". I got my dad to call him the next day, pretending to be a police officer responding to a harrassment complaint. The guy shiat his pants. "I only wanted to talk to her!" My dad warned him off.

Fast forward to 2009. I am 37. The other day I get a message in my facebook account - from psycho boy. "Hi, I remember you! How are you?"

What the hell?
 
2009-09-13 05:42:07 PM  
Faceboook.

Whore attention from people you've never met and, like yourself, are old enough to know better.

Pass.
 
2009-09-13 05:44:15 PM  
bunner: Faceboook. Fark

Whore attention from people you've never met and, like yourself, are old enough to know better.

Pass.


FTFY
 
2009-09-13 05:45:20 PM  
MicheleThePasserineGirl: I went on *one date* to the movies with some guy in high school (circa 1988). He started calling me too much - way too much. I was at my supermarket job after school, and when I got home one day, my mom was pissed off. She said "Some guy named John has been calling you every 15-20 minutes for the last 3 hours, even though I TOLD him you were at work." Psycho, right? Eventually told him to leave me alone. A few months later, I saw him at a party hosted by a non-connected friend. Did NOT expect to see him - different social circles. That night, at 2AM, I get a phone call - him. He says, in this creepy voice, "I should have killed you tonight". I got my dad to call him the next day, pretending to be a police officer responding to a harrassment complaint. The guy shiat his pants. "I only wanted to talk to her!" My dad warned him off.

Fast forward to 2009. I am 37. The other day I get a message in my facebook account - from psycho boy. "Hi, I remember you! How are you?"

What the hell?


That is scary, and as long as you keep your profile "private" or for people you have agreed to befriend only, should be no problem. Just be careful who you "friend" on FB.

Also, as someone with the nickname Birdman (for my knowledge and love of all things ornithological), I love your Fark handle!
 
2009-09-13 05:45:22 PM  
TheOtherOne79: bunner: Faceboook. Fark

Whore attention from people you've never met and, like yourself, are old enough to know better.

Pass.

FTFY


Geee, dickwad, we probably don't use it for the same thing. : )

Fixed it back, idiot
 
2009-09-13 05:46:17 PM  
ctobio: What bugs me is people who I haven't heard from in 20 years sending me friend requests. My best friend from grammar school tried to friend me. I recapped the last 20 years in 25 words or less, and he's all "we should get together next time I'm in your state".

Meh.

I have enough friends. If I haven't stayed in touch in the last 20 years, odds are I'm not terribly interested in getting back in touch. I'm fine with that.

Then I get friend requests from people whose names I don't recognize. Turns out most of them are people who graduated from my high school the same year as me, who I never even had a class with. Like I care about your kids first little league game. Why would I friend you?


There is an extremely easy answer to this complex problem you seem to be having. don't friend these people
 
2009-09-13 05:46:57 PM  
MicheleThePasserineGirl: I went on *one date* to the movies with some guy in high school (circa 1988). He started calling me too much - way too much. I was at my supermarket job after school, and when I got home one day, my mom was pissed off. She said "Some guy named John has been calling you every 15-20 minutes for the last 3 hours, even though I TOLD him you were at work." Psycho, right? Eventually told him to leave me alone. A few months later, I saw him at a party hosted by a non-connected friend. Did NOT expect to see him - different social circles. That night, at 2AM, I get a phone call - him. He says, in this creepy voice, "I should have killed you tonight". I got my dad to call him the next day, pretending to be a police officer responding to a harrassment complaint. The guy shiat his pants. "I only wanted to talk to her!" My dad warned him off.

Fast forward to 2009. I am 37. The other day I get a message in my facebook account - from psycho boy. "Hi, I remember you! How are you?"

What the hell?


Come'on, he only wants to talk to you!!!
 
2009-09-13 05:51:45 PM  
I'm a big sap, but I love FB, I have lots of "friends" (but not a ridiculous amount), and I love reuniting with friends from elementary school or whatever. What the hell's it hurt? If they post boring shiat, scroll right through. I don't know why people are so bitter and guarded all the time.

/and if I ever get divorced, I am getting so laid...
 
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