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(CNN)   College grad, 23, is having "panic attacks" thinking about paying for her wedding. Seemingly unaware that it is possible to have one without shelling out $30 grand   (cnn.com) divider line 477
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2008-09-16 10:29:16 AM  
Yeah, you go tell princess she has to settle for the carnations Subby.
 
2008-09-16 10:29:51 AM  
My wife and I got married in 2001. Total cost, including cake, facility, my suit, her dress, decorations, etc.: $1,500. And to this day people still tell us how nice it was, some saying it's the best wedding they ever attended.

We don't enjoy big weddings for other people, and we didn't want one for ourselves.
 
2008-09-16 10:30:05 AM  
I had a co-worker who spent $22K on her wedding and was divorced 2 years later. If she would have spent that money on therapy to not be such a wretched, frigid nag, she would have still been married.
 
2008-09-16 10:32:43 AM  
Courthouse wedding: $50
Trip to stock car races afterward: $12
Getting stuck in a ditch when a tornado hits: Priceless
 
2008-09-16 10:34:42 AM  
I'd like to take this opportunity to brag about my wedding "ceremony", which, if you don't count the court paperwork fees, cost us about $50. And we had a bunch of leftover Korean food when we were done.
 
2008-09-16 10:35:28 AM  
Cheap compared to what she'll probably gain from the divorce.
 
2008-09-16 10:35:34 AM  
CheetahOlivetti: Courthouse wedding: $50
Trip to stock car races afterward: $12
Getting stuck in a ditch when a tornado hits: Priceless


Damn you cheap bastard! Can't believe you got me beat!
 
2008-09-16 10:37:58 AM  
Oh, wait, I think I know this story. Did they meet on an internet WWF wrestling forum? Did he propose over AIM? Does he make six figures at a radio station in Dallas and moonlight with his band?
 
2008-09-16 10:38:14 AM  
Solkar: My wife and I got married in 2001. Total cost, including cake, facility, my suit, her dress, decorations, etc.: $1,500. And to this day people still tell us how nice it was, some saying it's the best wedding they ever attended.

We don't enjoy big weddings for other people, and we didn't want one for ourselves.


Exactly. My future bride will have to deal with the fact that I want to be married by a judge, have the ceremony outside, and have a BBQ afterwards. fark a tux, I want to be comfortable. Same with my groomsmen and the people in the audience. I thought we were supposed to enjoy being married. Ain't nothing enjoyable about spending $50 a plate for high end booze, beer, and food when you could spend $8 a plate, serves some sweet pulled pork and drink a little moonshine

/urban redneck
 
2008-09-16 10:41:50 AM  
My mortgage is locked in at 2.1% for 100 years. Suck it, everyone!

Sorry, wrong thread.
 
2008-09-16 10:44:00 AM  
We eloped. Spent a bunch on the dinner- maybe 20 guests, out for a grand tapas/sangria/champagne feast (San Chez, if you're in Grand Rapids MI you'll know it). 2k maybe, and her dad picked up the tab. Thanks Lou!
 
2008-09-16 10:44:18 AM  
kronicfeld: Oh, wait, I think I know this story. Did they meet on an internet WWF wrestling forum? Did he propose over AIM? Does he make six figures at a radio station in Dallas and moonlight with his band?

Hehe. I know submitting threads about it is verboten, but was there any news about the big day this summer?
 
2008-09-16 10:44:38 AM  
But she doesn't have panic attacks about her $50,000 in student loans? I wonder if she even has a job.
 
2008-09-16 10:46:20 AM  
There is no way in hell that I'd spend more than $200 on a wedding. I can see splurging a bit for a decent honeymoon if you can, but even that is possible for less than $2000.

Heebus. You could put a down payment on a nice house or put a kid through a state university for what some people spend on weddings.
 
2008-09-16 10:47:06 AM  
Mine only cost $20K, and we dun jus' fine.

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2008-09-16 10:48:34 AM  
Oktoberain: There is no way in hell that I'd spend more than $200 on a wedding. I can see splurging a bit for a decent honeymoon if you can, but even that is possible for less than $2000.

If I ever get married, I plan on spending very little on the ceremony itself, and then splurging a bit on the reception. And by "splurging," I mean "maybe a grand." I'd rather have a nice party than a long boring ceremony.
 
2008-09-16 10:50:38 AM  
Vegas
 
2008-09-16 10:51:19 AM  
Dress: Just go to Steve & Barry's or something and pick out some white clothes. You're only going to wear the farking thing once.
Groom: Ditto
Church: Come off it, lady. You don't go to church anyway. Rent a VFW hall.
Reception: Well, as long as you're at the VFW anyway...
Dinner: It's time for some BBQ.
Cake: Betty Crocker. It's in your supermarket. Top it with some dollar store dolls.
DJ/Band: Come on. You're bound to know someone with a big stereo and a large music collection. Just ply him with free cake.
 
2008-09-16 10:56:46 AM  
I_Love_Verdi: We eloped. Spent a bunch on the dinner- maybe 20 guests, out for a grand tapas/sangria/champagne feast (San Chez, if you're in Grand Rapids MI you'll know it). 2k maybe, and her dad picked up the tab. Thanks Lou!


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2008-09-16 10:58:43 AM  
To add to the conversation, we spent a hefty amount on our wedding. upwards of $25k

The "ceremony" lasted all of 6 minutes. The party went on until the wee hours of the morning.

Best party ever. It can be fun getting all dressed up to party.
 
2008-09-16 10:59:45 AM  
I'd like to say that thanks to all these (stupid) girls that think it has to be a fairytale princess story, I make my money. It's pretty awesome and terrible at the same time.


For one, I have to deal with brides all day...and help them plan these over the top events. And convince them to spend as much money as possible.

Sad thing is, most care more about the party than the marriage (shocking, huh?) Maybe 1/2 of my brides make it to their 2 year anniversary. As long as my check clears, I don't give a fark.

That being said- I still was going to have a 'big' reception when I got married. But being as I could get EVERYTHING at cost or free, my $2000 reception would have cost any other bride $15000. But I'm not married and that is probably a really REALLY good thing
 
2008-09-16 11:00:23 AM  
The older I've gotten, the more I've realized that I can picture being married, but I can't picture actually having a wedding.
 
2008-09-16 11:01:00 AM  
I_Love_Verdi: We eloped. Spent a bunch on the dinner- maybe 20 guests, out for a grand tapas/sangria/champagne feast (San Chez, if you're in Grand Rapids MI you'll know it). 2k maybe, and her dad picked up the tab. Thanks Lou!

20 guests and $2000...that doesn't sound like eloping
 
2008-09-16 11:13:12 AM  
MmmCrime: Exactly. My future bride will have to deal with the fact that I want to be married by a judge, have the ceremony outside, and have a BBQ afterwards. fark a tux, I want to be comfortable. Same with my groomsmen and the people in the audience. I thought we were supposed to enjoy being married. Ain't nothing enjoyable about spending $50 a plate for high end booze, beer, and food when you could spend $8 a plate, serves some sweet pulled pork and drink a little moonshine

/urban redneck


Sounds like my wedding plans, if they ever get back on track. Though I want to actually be married outside, not in a courthouse. Then the barbecue and keg.

And only close family/friends come. Who needs second cousins twice removed, some senile aunt, someone you haven't spoken to in 10 years? Nope... small, but awesome. That's my plan.

/Now to win back my love... and my beloved $50 engagement ring.
 
2008-09-16 11:13:28 AM  
We WANT to go to Vegas and have Elvis marry us.
My family WANTS me to wear my mother's long sleeve white lace gown and get married in a catholic church with every relative and parents friend in attendance and 6 giggling bridesmaids.

Compromise? Town Hall with parents and siblings only, party at home to follow.

/would rather have a big downpayment than a big wedding
//hate the Catholic Church with most of my being
 
2008-09-16 11:13:36 AM  
Bullshiatter: But she doesn't have panic attacks about her $50,000 in student loans? I wonder if she even has a job.

Why do you think she's getting married in the first place? Her $50,000 debt will become her husband's problem, while she'll get to go to lunch with her girlfriends and shopping with her husband's credit card.
 
2008-09-16 11:15:06 AM  
dragyne: Best party ever. It can be fun getting all dressed up to party.

Dress up and go to Dave & Busters. That'd be fun. But I'm easy to please like that.

/"I just got married, so NOW can I fark in the Jurassic Park game booth and NOT get kicked out, please?"
//Not that I ever did that....
 
2008-09-16 11:19:36 AM  
Temescal: I'd like to take this opportunity to brag about my wedding "ceremony", which, if you don't count the court paperwork fees, cost us about $50. And we had a bunch of leftover Korean food when we were done.

Same here. $50 for the judge and paperwork. $75 for dinner and a movie afterwards.

We didn't invite anyone - sent notecards out afterwards informing everyone we had married.

/lived together for 8 years prior, so really didn't think a ceremony was necessary.
//happily married for 7 years now
///I have 2 sisters who insisted on having "big" weddings (that put my parents in severe debt). Both are now divorced.
 
2008-09-16 11:20:27 AM  
I married into a Chinese family. Wedding was a DIY affair with about 100 people in attendance. Cost less than $1000. After all the red envelopes, we MADE money at our wedding.

Sweet.
 
2008-09-16 11:23:37 AM  
serpent_sky: dragyne: Best party ever. It can be fun getting all dressed up to party.

Dress up and go to Dave & Busters. That'd be fun. But I'm easy to please like that.

/"I just got married, so NOW can I fark in the Jurassic Park game booth and NOT get kicked out, please?"
//Not that I ever did that....



Well Dave and Buster's over priced gaming nonwithstanding, we had a great time drinking and dancing with the people we love.
 
2008-09-16 11:24:38 AM  
dragyne: I_Love_Verdi: We eloped. Spent a bunch on the dinner- maybe 20 guests, out for a grand tapas/sangria/champagne feast (San Chez, if you're in Grand Rapids MI you'll know it). 2k maybe, and her dad picked up the tab. Thanks Lou!

Well it was kind of an elope, in the sense that it happened very quickly. Once we got engaged, we started the very basics of planning for a traditional wedding a year later... got two weeks into that and said "fark it, guys (and family), if you want to show up next friday night at our place, we're getting married." We got a pastor from the internet (klassy), got married in our (quite nice) apartment, and made reservations a couple days in advance at the restaurant we got engaged at.
 
2008-09-16 11:25:38 AM  
About $1,500 for the wedding here, too. The wife and I were proud of our wardrobe the most. I got my suit at a Mr. Tux sidewalk sale. Mostly display model stuff, but I got a nice tux for less than $100. Her dress was a $50 eBay display model and came out looking great. The rest was mostly catering, cake, and other stuff. I never understood people spending money out the ass on weddings. Yeah, you want it to be a nice day and all, but if you have to spend tons of money to have a nice day, your marriage is probably doomed.
 
2008-09-16 11:28:36 AM  
So this is one of those threads where everyone comes in and brags about how little they spent on their weddings, right?

Who the fark cares what you spent on your wedding - what matters is that you have a good time with those you love. If you can do that for 10 bucks, good for you. If someone else wants to spend a couple grand on an elaborate party that's not a bad thing.
 
2008-09-16 11:29:29 AM  
I'm not 35 yet so no ring for me. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go spend my disposable income and travel on a whim to where ever I want whenever I want.
 
2008-09-16 11:30:20 AM  
Talon: Who the fark cares what you spent on your wedding - what matters is that you have a good time with those you love. If you can do that for 10 bucks, good for you. If someone else wants to spend a couple grand on an elaborate party that's not a bad thing.

I think the main point of the "bragging" is that it is silly to put yourself in deep debt for a wedding ceremony.
 
2008-09-16 11:30:21 AM  
If we were to do it over again, go the the temple to get the rabbi for a small ceremony and then a nice meal with immediate family and close friends later. Maybe spend a thousand or so if we rented out a small restaurant, less if we kept the list small and just took a few tables or a small room.

Sometimes I think we did it more for our parents, as it was their last chance to have a big party (that we paid for of course) with the older relatives who were still healthy but definitely on the way out. Considering what happened with everyone's health in the years after, especially my mother's, in one way I'd say it was worth it. That really was my mom's last hurrah with a lot of her family. 11 years later, most of them are gone (and it was a big family) and my mother's health is poor. On my wife's side, most are still around though. The big party was nice (and it was small compared to some others we've been to) but all these years later it's a blur anyway.
 
2008-09-16 11:37:24 AM  
Me and Da Missus:

Justice Of The Peace: $25
Reception: $0

Ok, that's not true there was a bottle of wine and some snacks for the 5 friends and family that were present for the ceremony.

Still married, 26 years late.

My Sister spent $15k on her wedding (in 1992 or so) and she's divorced.

I have never understood having a big wedding. Young couples usually don't have two nickels to rub together and they piss away thousands of dollars on an event.
 
2008-09-16 11:37:58 AM  
Why are people paying for their own weddings? Family too cheap?
 
2008-09-16 11:38:01 AM  
Aw fark.

Still married 26 years LATER.
 
2008-09-16 11:39:28 AM  
We spent very, very little on the wedding, and instead saved the money and spent a year in London where my wife got her MS degree.

These people are stupid.
 
2008-09-16 11:43:29 AM  
Talon: So this is one of those threads where everyone comes in and brags about how little they spent on their weddings, right?

Who the fark cares what you spent on your wedding - what matters is that you have a good time with those you love. If you can do that for 10 bucks, good for you. If someone else wants to spend a couple grand on an elaborate party that's not a bad thing.


The kind of wedding most people are thinking of doesn't cost "a couple grand".
 
2008-09-16 11:47:08 AM  
Sybarite: Why are people paying for their own weddings? Family too cheap?

More likely that we're mostly past the time when it was a given that the family would pay for the wedding. Also, with the cost of weddings these days, it's not necesarily affordable to the family.

When my son got married, last year, they paid for a lot of it themselves. We picked up the tab for a few things too, like the DJ and the rehearsal dinner. The bride's parents picked up some stuff as well. It was a more or less traditional wedding, but they we careful to keep costs down and to not invite a bazillion people.
 
2008-09-16 11:47:34 AM  
Tr0mBoNe: I'm not 35 yet so no ring for me. Now if you'll excuse me, I have to go spend my disposable income and travel on a whim to where ever I want whenever I want.

FTW
 
2008-09-16 11:50:11 AM  
what_now: We WANT to go to Vegas and have Elvis marry us.

LOL, I've been hinting to my girl that if we ever got married, that's exactly what I'd want to do.

She's responded in the affirmative.
 
2008-09-16 11:50:51 AM  
I don't want to get married, but I think it'd be fun to have a wedding and figure out who NOT to invite.
 
2008-09-16 11:51:02 AM  
I'm going to be getting married in Iowa in the near future (assuming she says yes), so I'm getting a kick of these replies.

We don't want to spend a lot either. Not using a church, no extra bows, no fancy invites. I just want people to show up and have a good time.
 
2008-09-16 11:56:43 AM  
MrKraclenutz: what_now: We WANT to go to Vegas and have Elvis marry us.

LOL, I've been hinting to my girl that if we ever got married, that's exactly what I'd want to do.

She's responded in the affirmative.


I think *if* I ever decide to get married (and that is apretty big if), I want a horror-themed halloween wedding

I'm talking zombie ushers, blood splattered table numbers, a tiered cake oozing strawberry puree. And costumes would be required.

Ok, so maybe I want to get married a little bit...
 
2008-09-16 12:14:07 PM  
My stepdaughtermonster, after soaking the family for years, announced that she and her SO were getting married. After living together for five years with him. DEMANDED her wedding. Her mom caved, of course, 'because she is a child of divorce'. My husband caved, of course, because 'maybe one day I'll get her to love me'. She's refusing to allow him to walk her down the aisle, after he shelled out money that he borrowed against our retirement.

What an absolute coont. I am the only one in this family with any backbone, I guess. Her grandmas also donated big bucks. I told them both that Emily Post would have slapped them in the face for allowing this. I'm not her mother, they say, I have no say in the matter. Just keep that money flowing.

Precious farking snowflake. I wish she would literally DIAF and make everybody else's life much better.
 
2008-09-16 12:14:32 PM  
KoalaFace: I think *if* I ever decide to get married (and that is apretty big if), I want a horror-themed halloween wedding

I'm talking zombie ushers, blood splattered table numbers, a tiered cake oozing strawberry puree. And costumes would be required.

Ok, so maybe I want to get married a little bit...


Will you marry me? Srsly, I don't even care if you have boy parts or girl parts, I live in Massachusettes, and I want to be a part of that.
 
2008-09-16 12:20:01 PM  
Wife and I got hitched for about 500 bucks... including rings (two silver claddagh rings), license, ceremony and reception (ten minute ceremony in the City Clerk's office followed by a BBQ in our back yard with friends and family.

With the money we saved we went to Sweden and Iceland for two weeks...
 
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