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2008-08-04 11:18:47 PM  
Number one wish among men married to working mothers? "More blowjobs."
 
2008-08-04 11:29:51 PM  
I work nights and my wife works days. My daughter told me last week that, "It's funny how you do the mom stuff like laundry and dishes and she does the dad stuff like working during the day."
I would have chased her down and smacked her if I wasn't wearing my good apron.
 
2008-08-04 11:31:49 PM  
The article is from Singapore?
 
2008-08-04 11:44:46 PM  
moothemagiccow: Number one wish among men married to working mothers? "More blowjobs."

Where both sides have things they want, a basis for trade exists; I've heard this one can work pretty well....
 
2008-08-04 11:59:13 PM  
Women are lazy
 
2008-08-05 12:04:49 AM  
You_mean_Im_gonna_stay_this_color: Women are lazy

THIS... (with very few exceptions).
 
2008-08-05 12:31:20 AM  
mail2.someecards.com

I think we know what men are looking for...
 
2008-08-05 01:13:50 AM  
Heroic Poser: I work nights and my wife works days. My daughter told me last week that, "It's funny how you do the mom stuff like laundry and dishes and she does the dad stuff like working during the day."
I would have chased her down and smacked her if I wasn't wearing my good apron.


I LOL'd
 
2008-08-05 02:56:35 AM  
Unfortunately, most husbands eventually end up "helping themselves" if ya know what I mean.

Most women have no clue about what men want.

They think just having a vagina is enough and THAT's not very "HELPFUL" either is it?

/sheesh
 
2008-08-05 05:57:08 AM  
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2008-08-05 05:57:30 AM  
Help you find the kitchen.
 
2008-08-05 05:57:49 AM  
I'm not so worried about the blowjobs... I'm worried that she won't WANT my help with kid stuff. Hey, maybe I want to take some parental leave and give her some respite from changing diapers all day and whatnot. Dad should get to be a parent too, and not just building soapbox racers and modding the Xbox, or whatever the hell kids need built in the garage these days.
 
2008-08-05 05:58:28 AM  
Where have I seen this before?

tvfordownloads.hit.bg

oh, yeah.
 
2008-08-05 05:59:59 AM  
reads headline That's not a surprise

RTFA Singapore... Singapore!?

Realize I don't know shiat about Singapore
 
2008-08-05 06:00:25 AM  
My wife kept nagging me to have kids. So I said "Fine you are the one that likes to stay in the house, and watch TV." After seven years of marriage we have the kid. She is surprised that I still want to hunt, fish, golf and work out in the yard and garage.

Women listen up. If you have a man that tells you that he can live without kids. Don't nag the crap out of him until he caves in. And when he does, don't act surprised if he doesn't want to drop everything that he wants to do, to sit and watch "Finding Nemo" for the thousandth time, while the rug rat tries to destroy the living room.
 
2008-08-05 06:01:55 AM  
What women really want:

A man who earns enough money so that she can go shopping all day and can hire a maid to do the housework.
 
2008-08-05 06:06:33 AM  
PseUdononymous Savagery: My wife kept nagging me to have kids. So I said "Fine you are the one that likes to stay in the house, and watch TV." After seven years of marriage we have the kid. She is surprised that I still want to hunt, fish, golf and work out in the yard and garage.

Women listen up. If you have a man that tells you that he can live without kids. Don't nag the crap out of him until he caves in. And when he does, don't act surprised if he doesn't want to drop everything that he wants to do, to sit and watch "Finding Nemo" for the thousandth time, while the rug rat tries to destroy the living room.


You sound like a really good father. I'm glad you spawned.
 
2008-08-05 06:07:05 AM  
biatch I do the yard work and fix the cars.
 
2008-08-05 06:10:32 AM  
Dear Working Mothers' Forum...
 
2008-08-05 06:12:25 AM  
durzagott: What women really want:

A man who earns enough money so that she can go shopping all day and can hire a maid to do the housework.


100% unequivocal truth. any women who deny this fact are simply denying their own feminine nature
 
2008-08-05 06:15:19 AM  
chuck4455: Unfortunately, most husbands wives eventually end up "helping themselves" if ya know what I mean.

Most women men have no clue about what men women want.

They think just having a vagina penis is enough and THAT's not very "HELPFUL" either is it?

/sheesh



FTFY

/double sheesh!
 
2008-08-05 06:15:52 AM  
But heavens forbid the husband does the laundry in a way even slightly different than the way the wife would have done it.
 
2008-08-05 06:22:11 AM  
Women frequently confuse the terms "helpful" and "telepathic". I can be one, I cannot be the other. Also I do things my way not yours.
 
2008-08-05 06:27:52 AM  

Holy christ people, did you all marry the first pretty girl who smiled at you? Did you not discuss these things before mawwiage? Do you not communicate in your mawwiage? How is it that so many unsuspecting Farkers are so bitter about "gold digging whores" and lazy women?

To be fair I know a lot of Fark mawwiages are going great. They just aren't awake at 6:30 EDT posting on the Internet.

i5.photobucket.com

Mawwiage.
 
2008-08-05 06:28:03 AM  
durzagott: What women really want:

A man who earns enough money so that she can go shopping all day and can hire a maid to do the housework.


I have to admit, it would be nice. But we all know it isn't going to happen, so we try to make do.
 
pla
2008-08-05 06:28:29 AM  
Mistah Scrotie : You sound like a really good father. I'm glad you spawned.

It sounds like he made his intentions and desires clear.

The fact that his wife still chose him as little more than a sperm donor (and I don't mean that in a negative way, just matter-of-factly) reflects more poorly on her than on him.

Personally, I do not want kids, and have always made that VERY clear. My current SO (but not "wife" - Neither of us want that, either) feels the same way.

But y'know, you just never hear about guys "tricking" women into getting pregnant (not wanting to use a condom doesn't count, intent matters here). Yet how many men - Hell, how many married guys reading this - ended up awfully wedded because she "forgot" to take the pill?

Anyway, back on topic - In my experiece, men do plenty around the house. We do things women won't do, for the most part. More importantly (for those who would claim men spend less time doing chores) - The stereotypical category of "women's work" involves mostly tasks that you can do as "background" tasks to more interesting things. Laundry, as a good example - Oh, pity the poor gals spending all day just so their men can have clean clothes; But wait, that involves around five minutes of actual work every hour! Boo hoo. Try mowing the lawn, cleaning the gutters, or removing spyware from her computer, and see how much "fun" you have doing it.
 
2008-08-05 06:29:15 AM  
durzagott: What women really want:

A man who earns enough money so that she can go shopping all day and can hire a maid to do the housework.


That's what GOLDDIGGERS want. But hey - at least she is nice arm candy. I guess you get what you pay for hmmm...

I have always worked and had 2 in diapers when they were little. My husband wanted kids as well and we had 2 boys 18 months apart. It was rough working and coming home and not sitting down until 10:00 pm but we got though it. Now we have a 13 year old and a soon to be 15 year old. We just have to survive the teenage years....Yikes!

He is the perfect husband? Nope.

Am I the perfect wife? Nope.

We don't sweat the small stuff and have a sense of humor - which I think is important. We love cutting up and going on with each other. Couple that with strong sex drives and we are still lovey-dovey and "can't keep our hands off each other" after 15 years of marriage. I'm sure there are others on this forum who can say the same.


/He is not a handy man and I am not a Martha Stewart.


/If your children are very young and you think you are too tired for sex - have it anyway. Once you get started you will feel less tired - trust me I've been there!
 
2008-08-05 06:42:30 AM  
The only problem is, if you start to help out more, you will not do anything right (no matter what).

So you might as well not bother.
 
2008-08-05 06:45:52 AM  
Lovie33:
He is the perfect husband? Nope.
Am I the perfect wife? Nope.


Oh don't go confusing the bitter little things with the realities of struggling and compromising to make a relationship work for years. ZOMG LAZY WHORES
 
2008-08-05 06:45:58 AM  
BJs aside, most men probably want less demanding wives...
 
2008-08-05 06:46:29 AM  
Gulper Eel: But heavens forbid the husband does the laundry in a way even slightly different than the way the wife would have done it

Hell, I get it trouble if I put the bowls in the cabinets the wrong way.
And I've got a great marriage.
 
2008-08-05 06:50:27 AM  
pla: ... Boo hoo. Try mowing the lawn, cleaning the gutters, or removing spyware from her computer, and see how much "fun" you have doing it.

I didn't realize how much my husband did until he became disabled and couldn't do anything. Of all the things, changing the oil in the mower and the tractor are the worst. I'd do 6 weeks of extra laundry to weasel out of doing an oil change.

No .. wait .. killing snakes is the worst. Then the oil changes.
 
2008-08-05 06:50:28 AM  
Lovie33: /If your children are very young and you think you are too tired for sex - have it anyway. Once you get started you will feel less tired - trust me I've been there!

Can I give you my wife's phone number, please. I think she needs to hear to hear this from a fellow woman :)
 
2008-08-05 06:57:54 AM  
working mothers "need extra support and understanding from their families, employers and the government that would make their lives more manageable, enjoyable and guilt-free," said forum chairman Daniel Goh.

F*cking wah. I'd like my life to be enjoyable and guilt-free too. Guess I was born with the wrong number of X chromosomes for that to happen.
 
2008-08-05 07:00:20 AM  
pla: Mistah Scrotie : You sound like a really good father. I'm glad you spawned.

It sounds like he made his intentions and desires clear.

The fact that his wife still chose him as little more than a sperm donor (and I don't mean that in a negative way, just matter-of-factly) reflects more poorly on her than on him.

Personally, I do not want kids, and have always made that VERY clear. My current SO (but not "wife" - Neither of us want that, either) feels the same way.

But y'know, you just never hear about guys "tricking" women into getting pregnant (not wanting to use a condom doesn't count, intent matters here). Yet how many men - Hell, how many married guys reading this - ended up awfully wedded because she "forgot" to take the pill?


Precise reason I got a vasectomy. Let's see a woman try the "Oh, don't worry, I'm on birth control" trick on me.
 
2008-08-05 07:05:59 AM  
Heroic Poser: I work nights and my wife works days. My daughter told me last week that, "It's funny how you do the mom stuff like laundry and dishes and she does the dad stuff like working during the day."
I would have chased her down and smacked her if I wasn't wearing my good apron.


Teh funneh

hubiestubert: I think we know what men are looking for...

Is he wearing a kippah?

PseUdononymous Savagery: Women listen up. If you have a man that tells you that he can live without kids. Don't nag the crap out of him until he caves in. And when he does, don't act surprised if he doesn't want to drop everything that he wants to do, to sit and watch "Finding Nemo" for the thousandth time, while the rug rat tries to destroy the living room.

Do you like your kid?

Let me try to FTFY;
People, listen up. If you are planning to go into a long term relationship, before you do, ask each other questions, as awkward as they may be, it will save you a headache in the long run.
Ask them what they want, likes, dislikes, future plans. etc. If things, major things, i.e. not wanting children, don't match with your desires. Don't go into the relationship thinking you can change that. It rarely happens and the relationship will end, usually badly, with more people feeling hurt then would have been had you ended the relationship before.
 
2008-08-05 07:07:05 AM  
Mistah Scrotie: PseUdononymous Savagery: My wife kept nagging me to have kids. So I said "Fine you are the one that likes to stay in the house, and watch TV." After seven years of marriage we have the kid. She is surprised that I still want to hunt, fish, golf and work out in the yard and garage.

Women listen up. If you have a man that tells you that he can live without kids. Don't nag the crap out of him until he caves in. And when he does, don't act surprised if he doesn't want to drop everything that he wants to do, to sit and watch "Finding Nemo" for the thousandth time, while the rug rat tries to destroy the living room.

You sound like a really good father. I'm glad you spawned.


My thoughts exactly.
 
2008-08-05 07:07:52 AM  
Jebus Cripes, talk about a freaking loaded survey and statement.....

FTFA:
Working mothers said that their major challenges were exhaustion and a lack of personal time.
Fifteen per cent said they would have more children if they could balance work and family demands.
The survey showed that working mothers "need extra support and understanding from their families, employers and the government that would make their lives more manageable, enjoyable and guilt-free," said forum chairman Daniel Goh.




The way this freakin article is written makes it seem like the Dads here are off doing whatever they want, when they want, with all sorts of free time on their hands. It would have been nice if this survey wasnt stupified (to the point of uselessness), and included the whole family unit instead of just the ladies. Did these people ever think of asking these same question to the Fathers? 10-to-1 they would also say that "their major challenges were exhaustion and a lack of personal time....." and that they "need extra support and understanding from their families, employers and the government...." Hell, its called modern day life, everyone feels this way, its not something that only working moms are going thru.

Well I just thank god these people were around, because this was just what was needed, another meaningless, uninformative, useless survey that means nothing. Surveys like this is why there are sociologists, and psychologists, because the run of the mill dumbass doesnt know how to balance and word a survey, or study, so that it actually will produce some pertinent, meaningful information, and not just emotional non-sense.
 
2008-08-05 07:14:31 AM  
What really pisses me off about relationships is the "boy job/girl job" dynamic. So wait...women are independent and can do everything themselves, UNTIL a dreaded spider comes along or the lawn has to be mowed? In addition, women then still feel the man should have to do laundry, dishes, etc,etc (not a complaint....a fact). Look, if you all really want to be independent, start doing some of the "boy jobs", maybe you'll get a little more reciprocation on your side.
 
2008-08-05 07:15:13 AM  
I blame the women themselves.

Seriously, there are good men out there. And we are convinced you ladies are trying to breed stability and dependability out of the gene pool.
 
2008-08-05 07:16:20 AM  
durzagott: What women really want:

A man who earns A job that earns her enough money so that she and her husband can go shopping all day when they want and can hire a maid to do the housework.


Fixed that for you. This is what I'm aiming for, as I figure that would work out best for both me and my husband. Until then, we've learned to split most of the housework, which is pretty effective.

We tend to fall along predictable lines with the child cat care, though. He does fun stuff like play with them; I do unfun stuff like scoop the litter boxes.
 
2008-08-05 07:18:37 AM  
Administrator Michelle Soh, among those surveyed, was quoted as saying that she feels squeezed by "so many roles - mother, employee wife and daughter" in a 24-hour period.

I suppose the question needs to be asked is why do women who have children and work still feel that they need to take on the extra burden all the time and all by themselves?

Why do they feel that if anything goes wrong the school calls them, why doesn't the school call the father?

Why do they have to organise breakfast, lunches everyday and make sure the children get to childcare or school. Why is this burden on the mother? Why not Mon, Wed and Friday on the mother and Tues and Thursdays on the father.

So why do mothers put this extra pressure on themselves?
Why don't they leave earlier at times and just let the fathers cope with all the extra pressure they have once in a while?
Why don't they not cook dinner and let the husbands do it?

No arguing, no asking. Just once in a while let their husbands do all the daily, mundane chores that need doing.

I think these women would be suprised that their husbands might actually help out. But they have to give them a go.
 
2008-08-05 07:20:46 AM  
Men never do enough.

Women always do too much.

Or so women believe.
 
2008-08-05 07:22:51 AM  
Number one wish among working mothers? A "more helpful" husbands? An undo button.
 
2008-08-05 07:24:38 AM  
Guest:

If you really need someone in the know, contact my Ex. At first, she couldn't hold down a job because she was depressed. And then, we had a baby, and she discovered that staying home and taking care of the rug rat was too boring.

So she found a job where she could take the wee one with her. And more or less got bored with that. And then wracked up a pile of bills to get a teaching cert. And then took a job teaching chemistry in the inner city. And would come home in tears every night because the kids weren't listening, and I wasn't being supportive, and after nearly being admitted to a mental institution for being suicidal she quit the job.

And a month later, she figured she had enough of my lack of support and divorced me. 2 weeks before Christmas.

Seriously, somewhere in all that is the answer.
 
2008-08-05 07:24:58 AM  
Gulper Eel: But heavens forbid the husband does the laundry in a way even slightly different than the way the wife would have done it.

SHHHH!!! shut up! You are letting out a man secret. Many years ago when I first got married My wife asked me to do the laundry. I mixed all the whites and colors and used too much bleach. The whites came out stained and the colors all washed out.

I NEVER had to do the laundry again!


/I do all the cooking though.
 
2008-08-05 07:25:53 AM  
/The lover she had on the side, and the fact she took up gambling have no impact on any of that at all, mind you.
 
2008-08-05 07:27:48 AM  
Guest: Why do they feel that if anything goes wrong the school calls them, why doesn't the school call the father?

Because one of us has to pay the mortgage.

Why do they have to organise breakfast, lunches everyday and make sure the children get to childcare or school. Why is this burden on the mother?

Because I have to pay the mortgage, cut the grass, fix the cars, fix whatever has broken in the house, take care of the children after school, and do the host of other "man jobs" that get no credit.

Why don't they leave earlier at times and just let the fathers cope with all the extra pressure they have once in a while?

That is a great idea if they want to give up a life inside a home for a life of urban camping.
 
2008-08-05 07:29:38 AM  
Kids don't need much parental involvement besides basic care. This BS about parents needing to spend time with their kids is stupid. After a kid learns to talk and walk, the basics of the brain and personality are in place. They should be playing with other siblings or other kids. Parents now spend so much goddamn time doing stuff with their kids that the kids are not self reliant, they are spoiled, the parents are worn out and overall the kids are worse off. Give em a pack of matches, a BB gun, a magnifying glass, set em loose.

I never had game night with my family as a kid. I never wanted to be around my parents, they were boring. They wouldn't have a BB gun fight or bottle rocket fight, or jump off the neighbors garage roof. Christ I know a 10 year old boy whose mother still cuts up his meat at dinner time, how pathetic is that? What kind of retarded kid wants to hang out with boring ass adults? A spoiled rotten mama's boy.

So ya, the guy not wanting to watch Finding Nemo, good for him. tell the little kid to go outside and bash something with a stick, problem solved.
 
2008-08-05 07:29:41 AM  
Y'all have some seriously farked up marriages.

My darling husband is at home with the kids temporarily - but they are at the age when they don't know any differently. Our new neighbor family consists of a stay at home mom, my older son was confused that SHE didn't go to work but the dad did.

Anyway, better communication, more housework on all sides, ladies, farkin' relax about how the laundry is folded and the bowls are put away (hey, it's put away! back away from your control issues), more bjs for the mens, and we're all good.

Twelve years and counting -

/oh yeah, have the sex anyway even if you don't feel like it
/even if it sucks, he's happy
/maybe he'll take the trash out tomorrow
/keep it up and one day you might get flowers
 
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