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2008-06-05 01:38:12 PM  
cerberus9: Actually, my quote was in reference to how certain posters constantly seem to seek out marriage/relationship/family threads in order to post about how much sex their husbands get or how wonderful their families are. I believe the term is "ad nauseum", or "attention whore".

Your quote was in reference to me; don't be coy. You are welcome to ignore anything and everything I post.
 
2008-06-05 01:38:40 PM  
IfUwannaFarkWithTheEaglesUgottaLearnHow2Fly: nope sorry...don't give a shiat :)

Yeah, that's why you're still retaliating nearly 5 years later.

Accept your place in life. You're a psycho divorcee.
 
2008-06-05 01:39:07 PM  
cerberus9:

Actually, my quote was in reference to how certain posters constantly seem to seek out marriage/relationship/family threads in order to post about how much sex their husbands get or how wonderful their families are. I believe the term is "ad nauseum", or "attention whore".


I don't think those people are in any danger of outnumbering the other side. Some posters seem to think Dr. Phil reads fark and will contact them for a free session if they gripe enough.

Balance is a good thing.
 
2008-06-05 01:40:03 PM  
LowPlainsDrifter: At the time I don't think I'd *ever* heard that piece of advice. Plus she kind of feigned being "so totally not like my mom" pretty well. Ho hum, live and learn.

Well, live at least.


Maybe you were so much like her dad, you turned her into her mom.

/i kid!
 
2008-06-05 01:40:44 PM  
"cerberus9 Quote 2008-06-05 01:29:48 PM

So you're not a dumbass for marrying her in the first place, why?"

I freely admit that I was a dumbass at 24, being offered a piece of ass any time I wanted it from her. Now, after a lot of scars at 40, not so much. I stayed with her the last 10 years of our marriage for our son's sake. Should have gotten out a long time ago for his sake and mine. I got sick of the chaos a long time ago, but didn't do anything about it b/c I used to be one of those idiots who thought you stayed and worked it out, no matter what. Sometimes, there's situations where you need to get out and run w/o looking back.

excuse the snark from my prev post toward you.
 
2008-06-05 01:41:23 PM  
Gen. Discomfort: Haha, I should just become a lesbian now.


Some guys like that.


I SURE DO!

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2008-06-05 01:42:09 PM  
Q: Why are there so many divorces Marriages? A: Because they're worth it.

If you are too stupid to not pick the right woman to marry, perhaps you should suffer in your divorce.

/PRE NUP
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2008-06-05 01:42:13 PM  
cerberus9:

Actually, my quote was in reference to how certain posters constantly seem to seek out marriage/relationship/family threads in order to post about how much sex their husbands get or how wonderful their families are. I believe the term is "ad nauseum", or "attention whore".


Dude, plenty of bitter and hurt posters here. Some people actually do have successful marriages/relationships. It's possible, and their side is just as valid as the other.
 
2008-06-05 01:42:37 PM  
PeriRies: cerberus9:
I don't think those people are in any danger of outnumbering the other side. Some posters seem to think Dr. Phil reads fark and will contact them for a free session if they gripe enough.

Balance is a good thing.


Does he allow people to kick him in the nutz repeatedly for an hour (I mean 50 minutes)?
 
2008-06-05 01:42:38 PM  
Death_Poot: I got sick of the chaos a long time ago, but didn't do anything about it b/c I used to be one of those idiots who thought you stayed and worked it out, no matter what. Sometimes, there's situations where you need to get out and run w/o looking back.

So ok, I'm one of those idiots now.

Without being bitter, can you explain to me what was so bad?
 
2008-06-05 01:43:08 PM  
The_Time_Master: If you are too stupid to not pick the right woman to marry, perhaps you should suffer in your divorce.

Perhaps you should go back under your bridge.
 
2008-06-05 01:43:15 PM  
Just came to say...

Married.
Happy.
Suck it.

/with kid and house
//wife has reason and accountability
 
2008-06-05 01:43:39 PM  
LowPlainsDrifter: If I catered any more to her needs I'd be a doormat with a "kick me" sign on my back.

Oh well, the day is getting long. Hope your day is going well.


I feel for ya, friend. I do. I'm divorced after a bad marriage, so definitely have the empathy vibe on full-flow.

I'll wish you good luck too, but for different reasons. My previous comments were directed specifically and not in a general sense, so they weren't universally applicable. Your situation sounds much different from Vide Infra's.

My day is going well. I'm Farking at work and today is a "daughter" day for the week. Thanks for the well-wishes.

/not a therapist, but did sleep comfortably in my own enormous bed last night.. Alone. Crying into my pillow.
 
2008-06-05 01:44:40 PM  
danger kart: LowPlainsDrifter: At the time I don't think I'd *ever* heard that piece of advice. Plus she kind of feigned being "so totally not like my mom" pretty well. Ho hum, live and learn.

Well, live at least.

Maybe you were so much like her dad, you turned her into her mom.

/i kid!


Actually, that's kind of not what happened, but I know what you mean. She made a VERY strong effort to turn me into her father though. Even bought me the same exact brands/styles of clothes he wore. This was after our second child was born. The levels of creepy were high at that time.

Her father and I are polar opposites personality wise. I'm not entirely certain but I strongly suspect that my easy going laid back attitude and general happy nature ticks her off. She doesn't show it, but I kind of suspect it.
 
2008-06-05 01:46:02 PM  
War_Kittens: Just came to say...

Married.
Happy.
Suck it.

/with kid and house
//wife has reason and accountability


Divorced.
Happy.
Suck it.

/Johnny came out to play and I have the scars on my chest and hand to prove it...
 
2008-06-05 01:46:10 PM  
bsphotos.com


//had to.
 
2008-06-05 01:47:14 PM  
FarkinHostile: cerberus9:

Actually, my quote was in reference to how certain posters constantly seem to seek out marriage/relationship/family threads in order to post about how much sex their husbands get or how wonderful their families are. I believe the term is "ad nauseum", or "attention whore".


Dude, plenty of bitter and hurt posters here. Some people actually do have successful marriages/relationships. It's possible, and their side is just as valid as the other.


Absolutely. I agree 100%.

I'm just saying that certain threads bring out the same Farkers posting exactly the same thing they posted in earlier, related threads. Predictability is oh so very boring.
 
2008-06-05 01:49:24 PM  
cerberus9: I'm just saying that certain threads bring out the same Farkers posting exactly the same thing they posted in earlier, related threads. Predictability is oh so very boring

You're becoming predictable.
 
2008-06-05 01:49:27 PM  
samimgreen
War_Kittens: Just came to say...

Married.
Happy.
Suck it.

/with kid and house
//wife has reason and accountability

Divorced.
Happy.
Suck it.



Never married.
Happy.
GF sucks it.
 
2008-06-05 01:50:47 PM  
FarkinHostile:
Never married.
Happy.
GF sucks it.


Well played!
 
2008-06-05 01:52:06 PM  
techmom: cerberus9: I'm just saying that certain threads bring out the same Farkers posting exactly the same thing they posted in earlier, related threads. Predictability is oh so very boring

You're becoming predictable.


I'll shut up then.
 
2008-06-05 01:54:33 PM  
cerberus9: techmom: cerberus9: I'm just saying that certain threads bring out the same Farkers posting exactly the same thing they posted in earlier, related threads. Predictability is oh so very boring

You're becoming predictable.

I'll shut up then.


Figured you'd say that.
 
2008-06-05 01:54:53 PM  
Daffydil:-Been married for 11 years there princess.

True for us. True for all of the married couples I know.

When you grow up, you'll figure it out


Yippeee!!! I'm a princess!!!
 
2008-06-05 01:55:31 PM  
danger kart Quote 2008-06-05 01:42:38 PM
Death_Poot: I got sick of the chaos a long time ago, but didn't do anything about it b/c I used to be one of those idiots who thought you stayed and worked it out, no matter what. Sometimes, there's situations where you need to get out and run w/o looking back.

So ok, I'm one of those idiots now.

Without being bitter, can you explain to me what was so bad?
____________________________



For a long time, till I filed for divorce, I thought that we could work things out once we started having trouble. Problem was, we never communicated anything after about the 4th year of our marriage. It turned into a competition. She was not happy unless she was in control, etc. I am usually an easy going person, but it got to the point where we could not say anything w/o it turning into an argument, no matter what it was. We could be talking about the color of the sky above us, and she had to be right no matter what.

Couple that with the fact that I was verbally abused constantly (I had friends, coworkers, etc telling me this after they heard us "converse" so it wasn't just me), she put the kids in front of us, no sex for months, financial problems (she was the type that said, "just get another credit card, the old one is maxxed out"), on and off her bipolar meds, drinking and drug problems, refusing to work when we couldn't make the bills, etc. I ended up being the last person I wanted to be in terms of being angry and edge all the time, her, and I could'nt live with myself If I stayed any longer

The final two straws were finding out about her affairs all at once last year and her stating that the only reason why she married me was to use me for all she could get. You can't reason with someone like that and you're a fool for staying in a marriage like that.

I'm not making a blanket statement here regarding being an idiot, but in my case, I was.

The thing is, I am not really that angry any more about it. It doesn't hurt anyone but me to stay pissed off. It is what it is, and I'm moving on with my life, older and wiser.
 
2008-06-05 01:55:56 PM  
Dude...did I just respond to myself? *snort*
 
2008-06-05 01:58:23 PM  
Take two:

mcsestretch-Been married for 11 years there princess.

True for us. True for all of the married couples I know.

When you grow up, you'll figure it out.


Yippeee!!! I are lil princess!!!!
 
2008-06-05 01:59:04 PM  
Death_Poot: danger kart Quote 2008-06-05 01:42:38 PM
Death_Poot: I got sick of the chaos a long time ago, but didn't do anything about it b/c I used to be one of those idiots who thought you stayed and worked it out, no matter what. Sometimes, there's situations where you need to get out and run w/o looking back.

So ok, I'm one of those idiots now.

Without being bitter, can you explain to me what was so bad?
____________________________



For a long time, till I filed for divorce, I thought that we could work things out once we started having trouble. Problem was, we never communicated anything after about the 4th year of our marriage. It turned into a competition. She was not happy unless she was in control, etc. I am usually an easy going person, but it got to the point where we could not say anything w/o it turning into an argument, no matter what it was. We could be talking about the color of the sky above us, and she had to be right no matter what.

Couple that with the fact that I was verbally abused constantly (I had friends, coworkers, etc telling me this after they heard us "converse" so it wasn't just me), she put the kids in front of us, no sex for months, financial problems (she was the type that said, "just get another credit card, the old one is maxxed out"), on and off her bipolar meds, drinking and drug problems, refusing to work when we couldn't make the bills, etc. I ended up being the last person I wanted to be in terms of being angry and edge all the time, her, and I could'nt live with myself If I stayed any longer

The final two straws were finding out about her affairs all at once last year and her stating that the only reason why she married me was to use me for all she could get. You can't reason with someone like that and you're a fool for staying in a marriage like that.

I'm not making a blanket statement here regarding being an idiot, but in my case, I was.

The thing is, I am not really that angry any more about it. It doesn't hurt anyone but me to stay pissed off. It is what it is, and I'm moving on with my life, older and wiser.


Amen brother
 
2008-06-05 01:59:53 PM  
Death_Poot: danger kart Quote 2008-06-05 01:42:38 PM
Death_Poot: I got sick of the chaos a long time ago, but didn't do anything about it b/c I used to be one of those idiots who thought you stayed and worked it out, no matter what. Sometimes, there's situations where you need to get out and run w/o looking back.

So ok, I'm one of those idiots now.

Without being bitter, can you explain to me what was so bad?
____________________________



For a long time, till I filed for divorce, I thought that we could work things out once we started having trouble. Problem was, we never communicated anything after about the 4th year of our marriage. It turned into a competition. She was not happy unless she was in control, etc. I am usually an easy going person, but it got to the point where we could not say anything w/o it turning into an argument, no matter what it was. We could be talking about the color of the sky above us, and she had to be right no matter what.

Couple that with the fact that I was verbally abused constantly (I had friends, coworkers, etc telling me this after they heard us "converse" so it wasn't just me), she put the kids in front of us, no sex for months, financial problems (she was the type that said, "just get another credit card, the old one is maxxed out"), on and off her bipolar meds, drinking and drug problems, refusing to work when we couldn't make the bills, etc. I ended up being the last person I wanted to be in terms of being angry and edge all the time, her, and I could'nt live with myself If I stayed any longer

The final two straws were finding out about her affairs all at once last year and her stating that the only reason why she married me was to use me for all she could get. You can't reason with someone like that and you're a fool for staying in a marriage like that.

I'm not making a blanket statement here regarding being an idiot, but in my case, I was.

The thing is, I am not really that angry any more about it. It doesn't hurt anyone but me to stay pissed off. It is what it is, and I'm moving on with my life, older and wiser.


Did I marry you're Ex's sister? Did yours keep you up for days at a time arguing while she slept during the day and you had to go to work? Did she hit and stab you with a knife a few times also? Was her mother on federal disability for being paranoid schizophrenic?
 
2008-06-05 02:00:44 PM  
Just got married a month ago.


/rickrolled my own wedding
//twice
 
2008-06-05 02:01:46 PM  
FarkinHostile: samimgreen
War_Kittens: Just came to say...

Married.
Happy.
Suck it.

/with kid and house
//wife has reason and accountability

Divorced.
Happy.
Suck it.


Never married.
Happy.
GF sucks it.


very droll sir
 
2008-06-05 02:03:01 PM  
frostus: oroku_saki: I was 21 and she was 20 when we got married. Now we're grandparents.

WTF? How is that even possible? Did you have kids at 10, and your kids then got knocked up at 10?

Look in my profile, I'm not anywhere close to 21 anymore.


I figured. I was still waking up when I read your last post.
 
2008-06-05 02:05:10 PM  
To quote Frank Burns, "Marriage is the chief cause of divorce."

Seriously, I do think people get married before they're mature enough to handle it. But even when they are, sometimes shiat just doesn't work out. I love all the armchair psychologists and marriage counselors telling people what they did wrong in their marriage/divorce, things they couldn't possibly know about someone they are acquainted with only from anonymous postings on a website.

Divorce is only a "problem" if you define it that way. I've never understood why the dissolution of a marriage is more of a problem than anything else that affects children (since we don't seem give a shiat about divorce unless the couple involved has kids). People who stay together and hate each other (actively and loudly and often) seem to do as much or more damage to their kids as people who divorce. If one or both of them are assholes, that's gonna negatively affect their kids whether they break up or stay together. There are a lot of assholes in the world. That's why there are so many divorces. And bad marriages. And other stuff that's bad.

My response to people who say divorce is wrong and hurts children and is therefore bad is to point to all those countries that don't allow divorce (or don't allow women to initiate it) and ask them if they'd like to live there instead. Because none of those countries seem to be particularly pleasant to live in for anybody, much less women and kids.
 
2008-06-05 02:06:27 PM  
samimgreen Quote 2008-06-05 01:59:53 PM


Did I marry you're Ex's sister? Did yours keep you up for days at a time arguing while she slept during the day and you had to go to work? Did she hit and stab you with a knife a few times also? Was her mother on federal disability for being paranoid schizophrenic?

___________________________


Unfortunately no. I think they stamp out the model in a factory in hell somewhere. It's a pity that the nameplate isn't on the front of the hood so that we can run like hell when we see one.

All humor aside, apart from a few things thrown at me, slammed doors, etc, she never got violent. But, yes, she wore me down in that manner every chance she could get.

She did try to call 911 and have me arrested after I filed for divorce, saying I beat her up. Luckily, I took my lawyers advice and never stepped outside of the house when she showed up. It didn't help her case much either when one of the cops overheard her telling someone on her cel:

"They're here, I did what you told me to do, and the cops aren't taking him to jail like they're supposed to".
 
2008-06-05 02:09:24 PM  
playdate: I'm happily married and here's my secret:

Sex every day.

Why don't people understand this?


My hubby is happy because I make him happy with whatever he has in mind. I'm tired? So what, it's only 15 or 20 minutes. Easy way to keep the peace. When he's satisfied, he's open to giving me what I want, even if it's just listening to me yammer on about stupid stuff I read on Fark. A relationship goes both ways but each person needs to be met where they are.


Raises hand to be hubby #2 just in case.
 
2008-06-05 02:09:46 PM  
A lot of women look at marriage as a way to get a free ride for a few years of sex and pumping out kids.

It's hard to know what you got going in, but if she ever, in the middle of a conversation, while still dating, lets the mask fall to the floor and starts talking to you like somebody who forgot to use the service entrance, run like hell.

You can't love somebody you don't respect and if you got a chick who looks at guys like sperm banks with an ATM at the front door, eventually she'll just act like you're taking up her time.

Stop taking up her time, tut suite.
 
2008-06-05 02:10:08 PM  
Nocens: arbulus: danger kart: Cervantes3773: One thing I'm curious about is pre-nuptial agreements, what they entail, if we should sign one, and how to go about bringing it up to your gf/fiance without looking like a complete dick.

First off - are we talking undergrad, or graduate degree for the last semester of school?

Secondly, prenups go one of two ways, she's either going to agree, or she's not. You can make an argument that you're protecting both your assets, but if she's one of those girls who sees it as dooming the relationship from the start, there's no way you'll get around it.


Prenuptial agreements equal a doomed relationship. When you ask for a prenup you say to your significant other, "I care more about my things than I do about you and i want to guarantee that." Any marriage that requires a prenup WILL fail. There are no two ways about it. You have set out from the beginning expecting it to fail and it will because a prenup is a sign of a selfish and materialistic person who cares more about things than about people, a characteristic that will absolutely doom a marriage 100% of the time.

This is another I'll append to may last comment:
If the word "prenup" comes into your mind, then you absolutely should not get married. If someone asks you for a prenup, then you should run screaming in the other direction.


In a girl's mind, sure.

Boys, ask your friends, fathers, and their friends.

Get a prenup. As I said, it's an insurance policy. You don't buy car insurance expecting to wreck your car either. If she loved you for you and not your shiat, she shouldn't care.



No, if YOU love her for her and not for YOUR shiat, then YOU wouldn't care.
 
2008-06-05 02:12:48 PM  
danger kart: arbulus: Prenuptial agreements equal a doomed relationship. When you ask for a prenup you say to your significant other, "I care more about my things than I do about you and i want to guarantee that." Any marriage that requires a prenup WILL fail. There are no two ways about it. You have set out from the beginning expecting it to fail and it will because a prenup is a sign of a selfish and materialistic person who cares more about things than about people, a characteristic that will absolutely doom a marriage 100% of the time.

This is another I'll append to may last comment:
If the word "prenup" comes into your mind, then you absolutely should not get married. If someone asks you for a prenup, then you should run screaming in the other direction.

I totally agree with you. I was just saying there are two types of girls out there, I am one of the later. I believe that marriage is for as long as I'm on this earth, and if don't have that same belief, then we won't work in the long run because when things get really hard instead of trying to work things out you'll be thinking divorce is an easy way out. The only prenup I would sign would say something along the lines of if you cheat on me I get to cut off your dick. (And vise-versa)



I can definitely get behind that.
 
2008-06-05 02:13:25 PM  
arbulus: Nocens: arbulus: danger kart: Cervantes3773: One thing I'm curious about is pre-nuptial agreements, what they entail, if we should sign one, and how to go about bringing it up to your gf/fiance without looking like a complete dick.

First off - are we talking undergrad, or graduate degree for the last semester of school?

Secondly, prenups go one of two ways, she's either going to agree, or she's not. You can make an argument that you're protecting both your assets, but if she's one of those girls who sees it as dooming the relationship from the start, there's no way you'll get around it.


Prenuptial agreements equal a doomed relationship. When you ask for a prenup you say to your significant other, "I care more about my things than I do about you and i want to guarantee that." Any marriage that requires a prenup WILL fail. There are no two ways about it. You have set out from the beginning expecting it to fail and it will because a prenup is a sign of a selfish and materialistic person who cares more about things than about people, a characteristic that will absolutely doom a marriage 100% of the time.

This is another I'll append to may last comment:
If the word "prenup" comes into your mind, then you absolutely should not get married. If someone asks you for a prenup, then you should run screaming in the other direction.


In a girl's mind, sure.

Boys, ask your friends, fathers, and their friends.

Get a prenup. As I said, it's an insurance policy. You don't buy car insurance expecting to wreck your car either. If she loved you for you and not your shiat, she shouldn't care.

No, if YOU love her for her and not for YOUR shiat, then YOU wouldn't care.


I love me for myself and work to take care of it, but I still get health insurance. Any of this "it puts the bad karma out there, you're just dooming it to failure, you pessimist" is just silly. I understand that you don't whip it out with the ring, but it should be one of the steps along the trail between ordering invitations and picking out china patterns.
 
2008-06-05 02:13:29 PM  
@ arbulus

You seem a might powerfully focused on making sure a guy doesn't protect his assets. The guy you're responding to made a point, if you don't care about his property it wouldn't matter to you in the same way you claim it shouldn't matter to him if there was a pre-nup or not.

Two way streets, they be wonderful things.
 
2008-06-05 02:13:36 PM  
bunner: It's hard to know what you got going in, but if she ever, in the middle of a conversation, while still dating, lets the mask fall to the floor and starts talking to you like somebody who forgot to use the service entrance, run like hell.

I'd like to say, "You have got to be kidding!", but I have an inkling that this is personal experience talking.

There are times I'd like to disown my gender...
 
2008-06-05 02:14:41 PM  
how much sex their husbands get or how wonderful their families are.

Yeah, I used to have one who talked like that. Long ago... Now instead of hoping for sex tonight, I'm just hoping she goes to sleep fairly early!
 
2008-06-05 02:17:09 PM  
samimgreen: arbulus: danger kart: Cervantes3773: One thing I'm curious about is pre-nuptial agreements, what they entail, if we should sign one, and how to go about bringing it up to your gf/fiance without looking like a complete dick.

First off - are we talking undergrad, or graduate degree for the last semester of school?

Secondly, prenups go one of two ways, she's either going to agree, or she's not. You can make an argument that you're protecting both your assets, but if she's one of those girls who sees it as dooming the relationship from the start, there's no way you'll get around it.


Prenuptial agreements equal a doomed relationship. When you ask for a prenup you say to your significant other, "I care more about my things than I do about you and i want to guarantee that." Any marriage that requires a prenup WILL fail. There are no two ways about it. You have set out from the beginning expecting it to fail and it will because a prenup is a sign of a selfish and materialistic person who cares more about things than about people, a characteristic that will absolutely doom a marriage 100% of the time.

This is another I'll append to may last comment:
If the word "prenup" comes into your mind, then you absolutely should not get married. If someone asks you for a prenup, then you should run screaming in the other direction.

hehe... nice troll attempt

Troll? I'm not trolling, I'm contributing to the discussion. I know a large number of people who are divorced and a few instances where prenups were involved. I'm not talking out of my ass or trolling.


/why is it that people assume those that they disagree with are trolling?
//whatever happened to civilized debate?
 
2008-06-05 02:18:40 PM  

Accept your place in life. You're a psycho divorcee.


Let's see... Hot girl? Check. Profile pic to prove it? Check. Boasting about making her ex's life even more miserable? That's a roger. Yep, I smell nothing but smooth sailing ahead for her boyfriends. That is, until she marries someone with enough money to allow her to pursue her TRUE calling (sculpting? working with injured animals? The world is your oyster, attractive, high-maintenance American girl!)

/learned from my Dad, too late, that all the things they HATE about you early on are the very same things that drive them inexorably towards you after you/they hit 40.
 
2008-06-05 02:20:00 PM  
arbulus: danger kart: arbulus: Prenuptial agreements equal a doomed relationship. When you ask for a prenup you say to your significant other, "I care more about my things than I do about you and i want to guarantee that." Any marriage that requires a prenup WILL fail. There are no two ways about it. You have set out from the beginning expecting it to fail and it will because a prenup is a sign of a selfish and materialistic person who cares more about things than about people, a characteristic that will absolutely doom a marriage 100% of the time.

This is another I'll append to may last comment:
If the word "prenup" comes into your mind, then you absolutely should not get married. If someone asks you for a prenup, then you should run screaming in the other direction.

I totally agree with you. I was just saying there are two types of girls out there, I am one of the later. I believe that marriage is for as long as I'm on this earth, and if don't have that same belief, then we won't work in the long run because when things get really hard instead of trying to work things out you'll be thinking divorce is an easy way out. The only prenup I would sign would say something along the lines of if you cheat on me I get to cut off your dick. (And vise-versa)


I can definitely get behind that.


Prenups aren't all bad. Hubby and I have one. Not because I don't trust him. I do with my life. But, my family owns some farmground that I'd like to keep in the family. It's more of a sentimental thing, we've been farming it for 150 years or so. So, if something does go wrong and we divorce, assuming I don't kill him first, I'd like to keep it in my family, not have it broken up. Everything else is fair game. Just not the dirt.
 
2008-06-05 02:21:43 PM  
arbulus: Troll? I'm not trolling, I'm contributing to the discussion. I know a large number of people who are divorced and a few instances where prenups were involved. I'm not talking out of my ass or trolling.


/why is it that people assume those that they disagree with are trolling?
//whatever happened to civilized debate?


Sorry, I apologize. I just found the point to be so rediculous that I didn't think it was real. Again, sorry.
 
2008-06-05 02:22:05 PM  
2008-06-05 01:46:10 PM

Sammy tried to teach me, but I was too young and naive to listen while he was still alive...

/"did you ever stop at a traffic light and just get the urge to open the door and run for it?"
 
2008-06-05 02:22:08 PM  
SVX: Reading this thread makes me feel better. Guess I'm one of the lucky ones. Married eight years, still get sex whenever I want it, wife looks great in a bikini and she makes as much money as I do.

Here's a little secret, and it goes for everybody, both male and female. If you want a decent marriage, just try this.

Stop being an asshole to your spouse.

A little courtesy goes a LONG way. When my wife does something nice for me, I thank her for it. When I do something nice for her, she thanks me for it. Kind of makes you want to do other nice things, too. When you treat somebody you share the same space with decency and respect, it makes domestic life a thousand times easier.

/not even remotely interested in being single again
//yes, we have children, too


OMG is that the truth. Where have you been, voice of reason?
 
2008-06-05 02:22:34 PM  
techmom: I'd like to say, "You have got to be kidding!", but I have an inkling that this is personal experience talking.

There are times I'd like to disown my gender...


Well, personal experience insofar as I just started looking at this broad whine and complain and slowly become less satisified with EVERYTHING and I realised she just wanted to be married and I was handy.

I ran like hell.

Not even vaguely kidding. The sense of entitlement, in western women, coupled with arrogant vanity - is a really bitter cup. Don't disown your gender, just do what guys do. Some guys are ok, some guys are creeps. We never write it off to them being men. There are a lot of women who get married and really don't like men, at all. Why this is, I don't know, but I don't want to be one of those guys they marry. You can't love somebody you don't respect. Period.
 
2008-06-05 02:22:56 PM  
danger kart: LowPlainsDrifter: The "glass ceiling" is bogus in this day and age. Little more than the same sour grapes the rest of us have been tasting for hundreds of years when we're passed up for promotion. Reality sucks sometimes. Deal with it and tromp on.

There are many types of glass ceilings and I totally believe in them. Mostly because I've seen it happen - cause you know, I'm a chick. It really sucks though, because the glass ceiling in technology is mostly in place because there are chicks out there who try to get a job they aren't qualified for and then suck at it screwing it up for me. It's ok, I've gotten over it... and moved into an industry where the fact that I'm a girl is what gets me paid. (Corporate training on technologies.) (Whore - FIFY)

/ bonus is i never have to program again! yippie!
 
2008-06-05 02:23:54 PM  
danger kart: LowPlainsDrifter: The "glass ceiling" is bogus in this day and age. Little more than the same sour grapes the rest of us have been tasting for hundreds of years when we're passed up for promotion. Reality sucks sometimes. Deal with it and tromp on.

There are many types of glass ceilings and I totally believe in them. Mostly because I've seen it happen - cause you know, I'm a chick. It really sucks though, because the glass ceiling in technology is mostly in place because there are chicks out there who try to get a job they aren't qualified for and then suck at it screwing it up for me. It's ok, I've gotten over it... and moved into an industry where the fact that I'm a girl is what gets me paid. (Corporate training on technologies.) (Prostitution - FIFY)

/ bonus is i never have to program again! yippie!
 
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