techmom: Not to put too fine a point on it (and everyone likes a li'l ego-boo), when you made the offer I checked your profile and thought, "Hell, yeah!"

And that's before I even mentioned my BMW convertible and how much weight I could lift... :-)

Wow, I went to work 10 hours ago and this thread is still going.

Get over it, and get on with it!

If you're sleeping with someone that you don't find a turn on before you get into bed.... you're STTTTTTTTTTTTTTTTOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOPID!

I just finished reading Slut! last night, so I'm getting a kick out of these replies.

It's actually very interesting read.

Anyway.

Things started well with my first at (barely) 18... and we stayed together for almost nine years. By the end of it, we encountering some difficulties and he had me convinced it was all my fault.

(I was his second. His first/girlfriend was two years prior, and was some girl he met on the internet who lived in another country.)

I spontaneously had a fark buddy a few months after my relationship ended, something I would never thought I would have done. It was the best thing I have ever done for myself.

Things I learned/experienced:
1) other people find me attractive
2) being turned on by someone who is being nice to me is a reasonable thing (which taught me feeling no desire for someone who is an asshole to me is a reasonable thing too)
3) there was no stigma of "we can't/don't do that" because no relationship or expectations were established
4) things that "were my fault" were sooooooo not my fault. I rock.
5) experienced a different body type (slightly overweight, but more masculine). That was quite a thrill (even though I tend to be attracted to lean guys).

I guess I'm saying a dysfunctional sex life (a relationship that goes sour) has the potential to be at least as "damaging" as "lack or sex" or "late sex". I'd say more, actually. But you have the ability to change the way you interact with people and change the things in your life you don't like.

guess I am continuing my epic streak of fail then.

25 and no hope of losing it anytime soon.

I haven't had any friends at all for almost five years
/mental illness and most likely a social developmental disorder for the lose.
//wish I was dead every day-- the loneliness is unbearable.

Why am I telling you this?

Miss Misery:
zippythechimp:
pen_sq:

Thanks, guys. :)

As for the Pokemon poster... well, my nostalgic side is sorta attached to it... nostalgic for when there were only 151 and it was all so simple... but I guess it does make me look a bit of a doof; this otherwise adult woman still holding on to her childhood memories. Rainbow Brite? If I could only find one... well, I would look on ebay but I don't have a credit card. Blah. Anyway, thanks for the compliments. :)

Twigz221: ...They say be confident and get out there, but how the hell do you do that?

Same as losing weight. If you want it enough, you'll be able to do it, as long as you don't expect results right away.

The big thing? If you're not meeting new people (male or female), start doing so. Join a club or team which your current group of friends are NOT in. Then you force yourself to make new acquaintances, both male and female.

...

I'm looking over this thread again, and I see a recurring theme:

OMG I go out and do all this guy stuff, but I just can't seem to find women. Le sigh.

I lost my virginity to Benazir Bhutto's bhutto.

/she was hairy and smelled like curry

(Lots) was predictable. Here come all the pizza faced, socially inept virgins trying to act as if they've gone through as many women as they wish they had. Angry, pizza faced, socially inept virgin rebuttal in 3, 2, 1...

Disclaimer: Being a virgin for religious reasons doesn't count. Turning down front due to morals is a lot different from not being able to get any at all.

Lurkerbunny:

Thanks, guys. :)

As for the Pokemon poster... well, my nostalgic side is sorta attached to it... nostalgic for when there were only 151 and it was all so simple... but I guess it does make me look a bit of a doof; this otherwise adult woman still holding on to her childhood memories. Rainbow Brite? If I could only find one... well, I would look on ebay but I don't have a credit card. Blah. Anyway, thanks for the compliments. :)

I only mention Rainbow Brite because I think it's kinda a law on Fark ;) . If you haven't stumbled upon THE pic yet, you must be using lynx.

Don't give up on low-hair-content guys, we're out there. Some of us just don't know if you want us to know that you want us to want you. Got it?

/Richard Reed hug!
//again, sorry for the grand gulf of exceptionally square states in between.

Captain Hollywood: While past research has linked early sexual activity to health problems, a new study suggests that waiting too long to start having sex carries risks of its own.

I see what you did there.

/bunch of virgins writing this article
//still virgin too

NOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO! !
Happy to take care of that for you....
/Late
//not too late though ;)

Sharkster: 28 when I lost mine (32 now) and currently on a 4-year dry-spell. Doesn't bother me at all.

/lives in Montana where I can be by myself.

13 years myself.

/Asexual, single, very non-obese, social, intelligent, politically aware and nontheistic
//among other adjectives
///wonders why society should give a fierce fellatin' fark about what people decide to do or not do with their genitalia.

It is nice to know there are other "too old" virgins out there.

/26
//i'm doomed

14, head cheerleader, soccer field

/good times

Got lucky at 22, but she was more than a little nutty, and quickly dumped me. Briefly had a GF when I was 23. She was very pretty, but at 22, she already had two children, and was getting a divorce. Having been married at 18 or something, the last thing she wanted was to be tied down, so that was over pretty quickly. That was in 1989, and there hasn't been anyone since.

I can haz last post?

/I gotta go into old threads more often. This was epic.

I love sex, I found that out right away. Out of all the partners I've had, only two were virgins and it was laame, they didn't know what they were doing, and I don't have the patience to teach (unless one shows potential). Now I currently have 3 lovely, laid back, experienced partners and I've never been happier in my whole life. I suppose I have a more relaxed attitude towards sex than most people do...

Although, I can definitely say that the earlier you lose it, the more likely you are to engage in risky behavior, I'm living proof of that. I'm just glad I didn't catch the AIDS or end up with a baby.

/fark on!
//be safe, sane, and consensual about it though!
///13

Squilax: how YOU doin'?

/portland ain't so far ;)