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2007-11-30 10:42:54 AM  
Heh,

Lost mine at 19 in college, in the bed directly beneath my roomates bed. While he was in bed and asleap. Heh, she didnt mind. (She was visiting from VATech).

For all you farkers out there that are complaining about your women not having enough sex drive, you need to understand something. Womans sexual peak is in the late 20's through their late 30's or early 40's. Mens sexual peak is basically at 18 to 25.

I've been married now for 8 months. I starting dating my wife in college 6 years ago. At first we didnt have that much sex in fact I had to fly her ass to Japan for vacation just to get in her pants the first time, but the point is that we didnt have much sex because she felt bad about pre-marital sex, and didnt want to be a slut, etc, etc. the moral and belief systems are strong in some young women (the good ones anyway).

But the MAIN point is that almost the SECOND we were out of college and all grows up she started rapin me like 4 times a day. We're married now and both 27, i have to seriosly beat her off on a daily basis, and i still get farked 8-10 times a week. Its all i can do to keep up.


Sexual maturity differences in males and females, why dont they coincide? Nature sure is evil.


/Not that i'm complaining
//Love every minute of my "problem" (not a bad problem to have i know)
///Almost time for my lunch quickie?
 
2007-11-30 10:45:00 AM  
IdBeCrazyIf: I need a link..stat

From our favourite douchebag's own website: Ta-dah!


danic101: Can you Prove Love Exists? Beyond a chemical attraction to Pheremones.

No, I can't. Most of the truly worthwhile things in life are not quantifiable in that way.

How long can 'a chemical attraction to pheromones' last? Biologically speaking, that has long since fulfilled its purpose, since our 3 children are grown and healthy. And yet, here we are after almost 23 years together - he still sings me silly love songs (off-key), he still makes my heart beat a little faster when he smiles at me in that certain way, and while there are other men I've been tempted to sleep with (temptation successfully resisted, thankyouverymuch), there is no man on the face of this planet who I'd rather wake up to.

I call that love; you may call it whatever you wish.
 
2007-11-30 10:45:40 AM  
kiam

8-10 times a week... thats not a lot. Unless you have scheduling issues

only so many hours in the day and all that
 
2007-11-30 10:47:15 AM  
techmom: IdBeCrazyIf: I need a link..stat

From our favourite douchebag's own website: Ta-dah!


danic101: Can you Prove Love Exists? Beyond a chemical attraction to Pheremones.

No, I can't. Most of the truly worthwhile things in life are not quantifiable in that way.

How long can 'a chemical attraction to pheromones' last? Biologically speaking, that has long since fulfilled its purpose, since our 3 children are grown and healthy. And yet, here we are after almost 23 years together - he still sings me silly love songs (off-key), he still makes my heart beat a little faster when he smiles at me in that certain way, and while there are other men I've been tempted to sleep with (temptation successfully resisted, thankyouverymuch), there is no man on the face of this planet who I'd rather wake up to.

I call that love; you may call it whatever you wish.


Awwww Techmom, you are my favorite farker, hands down.
 
2007-11-30 10:47:30 AM  
I lost my virginity to your mum.

/or your mum lost her virginity to me ?
 
2007-11-30 10:47:48 AM  
McManus_brothers: Isn't that the G-spot?

Probably. What matters is that it works. On her, anyway.
 
2007-11-30 10:48:02 AM  
Saoilsinn: getting married summer 08. still a virgin, as is hubby-to-be. waiting until the wedding night.

/not sure if we'll make it
//so excited for sex
///seriously, so excited.


....this could end bad

/just saying
 
2007-11-30 10:50:13 AM  
karasoth: Ya see I wouldn't say loss of Virginity and knowing how you work down there are the same thing

Nor would I, but in the context of TFA it makes a little more sense. I think. All that 'causal relationship' stuff: 'you are sexually disfunctional because you started late', or 'you started late because of that little sexual disfunction problem you have.'

/it's Friday
//no want think more
///beer?
 
2007-11-30 10:51:01 AM  
I was 18 when I lost mine (it was very stereotypical. backseat of his car on prom night.)
But, it wasn't enjoyable. I was afraid I'd never get laid because I'd never really had a boyfriend before, so I just took the first chance I got. Wish I'd waited.

//at least my current boyfriend thinks I'm hot
 
2007-11-30 10:51:01 AM  
still looking for an outgoing nerdy girl who *isnt* fat

i know they exist
i've seen them before, last tiem was like my freshman year of college. THan whooosh they vanished.

I'm really looking for a nerdy girl, becoming so desperate that I might go join a D&D group to pick up chicks :P (I hate D&D)

Thatsa bad idea, however;

/they're just rare in jersey
/or get overshadowed by all teh trash :/
 
2007-11-30 10:53:06 AM  
karasoth 2007-11-30 10:29:34 AM

*ME* I define Virginity is when you have your bodily fluids/Receive Bodily fluids from another person into an Orifice


So, if I had sex and used a condom at 15 y/o, but went in raw at 20 y/o, then I lost my virginity at 20?

If I recieved a blowjob and shot on her face or somewhere, but no sex, then I am still a virgin, and she is too, right?

I call shenanigans. When you perform a sex act you are not a virgin anymore. A blowjob means at least the guy is having sex, or getting off sexually. So, the guy is not a virgin. The girl lost her mouth virginity, if there is a thing. But the little precious snowflake ain't pure anymore.

I know this is true because guys high five each other after they get their first blowjob, and the girl gets labeled a slut automatically, if she's not your girlfriend. Kid logic pure and simple.

As an aside, I wonder if theres a porn site where virgins give blowjobs? Could be an interesting niche market...
 
2007-11-30 10:53:17 AM  
techmom

well the study is a statistical analysis of folks researching about Aids and STDs... so some people may have lied down their sex role out of embarrassment and -thus- lead to the presumed pattern of dysfunction
 
2007-11-30 10:54:09 AM  
i'm a fat nerdy girl. we have good personalities, larsinio. I promise.

I'd say to go no bigger than a size 16. Girls bigger than that tend to have really bad self esteem issues. I know I did, until i lost some weight.
 
2007-11-30 10:54:13 AM  
karasoth 2007-11-30 10:45:40 AM
kiam

8-10 times a week... thats not a lot. Unless you have scheduling issues

only so many hours in the day and all that


I work 10-12 hour days and she's a realtor (meaning she usually goes to work when i get off work since most people buying houses work during the day and search for homes after work). And trust me, if i wasn't such a lousy no-good wuss with no energy, that number would be more like 20-30 times a week. But alas, my wee-wee probably couldnt take it. Gawd i wish she had that sex drive in college when i could do it once an hour every day.

Oh, and its not like its 8-10 quickies either, those don't count. I'm only counting the ones where we get down to biddness. Those usually take 1-3 hours.

So if you do the math, thats (10 times a week times avg 2 hours) thats 20 hours a week of farkin... thats a part time job damnit!
 
2007-11-30 10:54:48 AM  
techmom: From our favourite douchebag's own website: Ta-dah!

I'm sorry.. I can't hear anything over the sound of how awesome he is!

What's bad are girls who are willing to fark and end up marrying guys who don't. We play with some on occasion who are fark machines, and their husbands literally have no idea what sorta sexual beast they really could have at their disposal.
 
2007-11-30 10:55:12 AM  
CapitolG: Awwww Techmom, you are my favorite farker, hands down.

See that? Right there? That is charm. He could get in my pants easily right now (well, if it weren't for certain logistical problems, not to mention that whole 'fidelity' hangup of mine...).

/that's how it's done, boys
//girly gushing ensues
 
2007-11-30 10:56:18 AM  
kiam

aha so it is schedualing

:-p and your not counting quickies.. :-p thats no fun my own limited history has had quickies lead to more sex :-p
 
2007-11-30 10:56:52 AM  
padraig: McManus_brothers: Isn't that the G-spot?

Probably. What matters is that it works. On her, anyway.


Try replacing the fingers with your tongue (the "come hither" motion is difficult, try doing circles just inside) and use your nose on her clit. My gf's neighbours hate me.
 
2007-11-30 10:57:41 AM  
Sharkster: 28 when I lost mine (32 now) and currently on a 4-year dry-spell. Doesn't bother me at all.

/lives in Montana where I can be by myself.


You're REALLY doing it wrong.
 
2007-11-30 10:58:52 AM  
di3t p3psi

ive been off and on dating a fattish nerdy girl

its just annoying, as like I maintain my weight, and she doesnt do that :P

Thats the problem. Every girl i meet with a good personality/nerdy attributes is larger. Im just looking for 'average'

/me 5'9 150lbs - the average height and weight
 
2007-11-30 10:59:22 AM  
child_god

even with the condom the fluid is still in the orifice... its just bagged off
... so condom still counts
/and microscopic amounts of it have been known to escape
 
2007-11-30 10:59:55 AM  
For all you farkers out there that are complaining about your women not having enough sex drive, you need to understand something. Womans sexual peak is in the late 20's through their late 30's or early 40's. Mens sexual peak is basically at 18 to 25.


You're kinda still newly married and 27 and quoting from others and not from experience. You'll find that your perceptions may well not pan out later in life when you're 37 and looking at a 37 year old woman who used to be your wife today, who wants nothing to do with sex and in fact hasn't considered sex a viable part of the relationship for over eight years.

This is the reality a lot of guys in sexless relationships find themselves in, no matter what they were sold as "the prime age for women's sex drive is from their 30's on up". Blame the men if you will (which is the normal tactic because the last thing a sexless woman wants to do is accept any measure of responsibility for the state of her relationship), but the sexless or nearly sexless relationship due to a lack of concern by the female partner (and very rarely, the male partner) is so prevalent that you can sit at a card game with ANY group of regular life 35 to 40 year old men and they'll almost universally nod in agreement when you talk about how women are sexless at this age.

Some aren't, and Flying Spaghetti Monster bless their little hearts. But if you think you're going to wake up next to a sexual dynamo when you're in your late 30's to early 40's, you're probably setting yourself up for major disappointment. Once the kids pop out and her career gears up, you'll find that in her eyes you're little more than a date that went well twenty years ago. No matter how well you treat her and how much you "take out the trash" or "do the laundry". But don't take my word on it, just wait, see, talk to guys in the 40-ish age range.
 
2007-11-30 11:00:51 AM  
d13t p3ps1: i'm a fat nerdy girl. we have good personalities, larsinio. I promise.

I'd say to go no bigger than a size 16. Girls bigger than that tend to have really bad self esteem issues. I know I did, until i lost some weight.


Fat and nerdy is hot, so long as you both are the same magnitude of nerdy.

Frex; free-form role-play in the bedroom? Hot. So long as it's not involving robes and wizard hats.

Role-play involving dice? As a leadup, fine, but once the action starts, you better be ready to set them aside, and not be a twink.

And still keep acknowledgment of the other person, as it's them you're schtupping, not their character.

/why, yes, the Sig-O likes that whole bunches
//joys of having a suitably zaftig RPG geek girl
 
2007-11-30 11:01:13 AM  
techmom: IdBeCrazyIf: I need a link..stat

From our favourite douchebag's own website: Ta-dah!


danic101: Can you Prove Love Exists? Beyond a chemical attraction to Pheremones.

No, I can't. Most of the truly worthwhile things in life are not quantifiable in that way.

How long can 'a chemical attraction to pheromones' last? Biologically speaking, that has long since fulfilled its purpose, since our 3 children are grown and healthy. And yet, here we are after almost 23 years together - he still sings me silly love songs (off-key), he still makes my heart beat a little faster when he smiles at me in that certain way, and while there are other men I've been tempted to sleep with (temptation successfully resisted, thankyouverymuch), there is no man on the face of this planet who I'd rather wake up to.

I call that love; you may call it whatever you wish.


Fails to make any quantafiable point
 
2007-11-30 11:01:28 AM  
karasoth 2007-11-30 10:56:18 AM
kiam

aha so it is schedualing

:-p and your not counting quickies.. :-p thats no fun my own limited history has had quickies lead to more sex :-p


Hah, totally. The Quickie is the mans tool to the universe. I go home for lunch and get a lunch quickie. By the time i get off work, she's cancelled her appointments and basically has my clothes off before i can get the garage door closed.

The sex starts and continues throughout the house until we pass out.

This has also taught me an important lesson. Never ever, EVER have a lunch quickie when you're expecting company after work. While you can withhold the tempation for a quickie, she CANNOT control herself afterwards. Trust me... I've had friends sitting out front of our house for hours waiting for us to answer the door.

Heh.



yanno.. marriage really is awesome.
 
2007-11-30 11:01:31 AM  
child_god: As an aside, I wonder if theres a porn site where virgins give blowjobs? Could be an interesting niche market...

no-teeth.com?
itdoesntbendthatway.com?
trust_me_it_tastes_like_chocolate.com?

an interesting niche market... as in the Chinese curse, 'May you live in interesting times.'
 
2007-11-30 11:05:51 AM  
techmom: danic101: I am waiting for Love, but since Love does not exist. I will not engage in any sexual activity.

Love exists.


I don't doubt that it exists.

But 99% of it is codependency, denial, and/or resignation masquerading as love.

I don't even think that most normal couples are really even compatible for true, romantic love. I think most of them are just "stuck together".

The people who talk about love the most are the ones who're lying to themselves about it.
 
2007-11-30 11:06:01 AM  
LowPlainsDrifter

Just because you sucked out and pulled a shiatty card out of the bag, and thus are hating your life now, doesnt meant that the rest of us are in the same position.

True, i'm newly married and young. But i've been with my wife for over 6 years already.

I've also met many many people that have very active sex lives through their 40's and on. I've also met poor farkers like you who basically dry up and lose all purpose in life at age 30. Poor you.

I believe its called romance and communication. If her life with you is mundane and hasn't changed since you were 30 that might be a good reason you're jerkin off everyday instead of farkin your wife.


Try taking her to france, working out together and doing something romantic.
 
2007-11-30 11:07:07 AM  
karasoth: Love exists.

THIS

Love may some times be all kinds of Suck but it is real


Thanks! It's dumb dames like you that make it easy for guys like me to score!

because everything I say is everything you`ve ever wanted to hear
so you drop all your defenses and you drop all your fears
and you trust me completely
 
2007-11-30 11:07:10 AM  
FTA: The researchers say this preliminary evidence may point up detrimental effects of abstinence-only education.

That is all.
 
2007-11-30 11:07:48 AM  
i dunno if i believe in love

but i believe in apt companionship

/marriage having love as a requirement is 20th century thinking, prior to that it was an economic relationship only
 
2007-11-30 11:08:34 AM  
Believe whatever you will Kiam. That's the charm of youth without experience. You have all the answers already, no need to consider other points of view with anything other than contempt. I'm sure you'll do just fine.
 
2007-11-30 11:08:55 AM  
LowPlainsDrifter: Some aren't, and Flying Spaghetti Monster bless their little hearts. But if you think you're going to wake up next to a sexual dynamo when you're in your late 30's to early 40's, you're probably setting yourself up for major disappointment. Once the kids pop out and her career gears up, you'll find that in her eyes you're little more than a date that went well twenty years ago. No matter how well you treat her and how much you "take out the trash" or "do the laundry". But don't take my word on it, just wait, see, talk to guys in the 40-ish age range.

fark, I'm 26 and you just described my life to a T.

Romantically speaking, I have a room-mate. The only reason she even touches me is because I'm exothermic.
 
2007-11-30 11:09:36 AM  
cerberus9

UUuhhh I'm a dude
 
2007-11-30 11:09:47 AM  
I AM NOT CONCERNED BY THIS HEADLINE AT ALL
 
2007-11-30 11:10:35 AM  
They're missing the obvious here.

Men who lose it later in life have a harder time getting aroused because they've been spoiled by years and years of beating off to the finest pornography the internet has to offer. Unless their girl likes inverted blowjobs and going ATM, they might be a little underwhelmed.
 
2007-11-30 11:11:25 AM  
hick_town

HOWEVER their data all came before widespread Abstinence only education happened

so it doesn't say that at all
 
2007-11-30 11:11:36 AM  
techmom:

No, I can't. Most of the truly worthwhile things in life are not quantifiable in that way.

How long can 'a chemical attraction to pheromones' last? Biologically speaking, that has long since fulfilled its purpose, since our 3 children are grown and healthy. And yet, here we are after almost 23 years together - he still sings me silly love songs (off-key), he still makes my heart beat a little faster when he smiles at me in that certain way, and while there are other men I've been tempted to sleep with (temptation successfully resisted, thankyouverymuch), there is no man on the face of this planet who I'd rather wake up to.

I call that love; you may call it whatever you wish.


"I don't believe in destiny/
Or the guiding hand of fate/
I don't believe in forever/
Or in love as a mystical state

I don't believe in the stars or the planets/
Or angels watching from above
I believe there's a ghost of a chance
that we [all] can find someone to love
[And make it last]"

/for no good reason
//not a fanatic of these performers
///bear strong emotions for this number from their repertoire
////i call you pretty fershlugginer fortuitous [and a keeper to boot], tech!
 
2007-11-30 11:12:17 AM  
karasoth: cerberus9

UUuhhh I'm a dude


Pre-op or post-op?
 
2007-11-30 11:13:05 AM  
Wendy's Chili

you however have a much more interesting theory then the study
 
2007-11-30 11:13:28 AM  
This: fark, I'm 26 and you just described my life to a T.

Romantically speaking, I have a room-mate. The only reason she even touches me is because I'm exothermic.


You know it's a reality when shows like 20/20, Oprah and 60 Minutes do full length reporting on how sexless marriages have become. While I'm no fan of any of those shows, if there was no truth to the thought, or nobody to nod their head in agreement, they wouldn't even bother investing a dime into productions like that.

Wish I was 27 and full of All The Right Answers again. You always forget to write down how the world works when you fully and unconditionally understand it in your twenties, and it plays hell with you later in life when you encounter a reality you didn't anticipate, eh? heh
 
2007-11-30 11:13:44 AM  
LowPlainsDrifter

HAH,

just because i dont consider your point of view doesnt mean i dont consider anyone's point of view. You're nothing special get over it.

Its not like i'm ignorant, i've asked the questions, i've started the conversations and confronted the issues. I've often preferred to talk to and question those that actually have fulfilling sex lives as older couples (30-50) because I'm intense on finding out how they kept it alive. I found that talking about these issues with people in your, uh.. situation made me depressed and cynical.

Hard discision to make huh? Stay the way you are, i'm sure you're wife loves it and you are obviously happy.


Have fun. I'll continue to learn from those that have been successful in keeping it alive through their later years, and i will also continue to ignore people in your "situation", you bring me down. Your poor wife.
 
2007-11-30 11:14:30 AM  
cerberus9

LOL no with natural genetics a dude....
 
2007-11-30 11:15:02 AM  
Sometimes sooner, forgot you said you were 26, sorry. :(
 
2007-11-30 11:15:16 AM  
karasoth: hick_town

HOWEVER their data all came before widespread Abstinence only education happened

so it doesn't say that at all


Oh, I understand that. I'm just glad the conversation can be started, and we can finally get off the "Abstinence only works" crap. It doesn't work, and it's a waste of money.

It was on Fark a month or two ago, but the county I think in Alabama or Texas with all abstinence-only education has one of the worst teen pregnancy rates, as well as reaching epidemic status for STDs. Can't seem to find the article, though
 
2007-11-30 11:15:16 AM  
Saoilsinn

getting married summer 08. still a virgin, as is hubby-to-be. waiting until the wedding night.

I admire your purity and all that but any time people have sex, there is the "how does it fit" factor. You could be totally incompatible with each other and you're buying that car without taking a test drive.
 
2007-11-30 11:15:29 AM  
Smarshmallow: IdBeCrazyIf:

yes even the lonely ass losers get looks at least once a day. Perhaps not that "I wanna ride that ass" look but at least "I think I could fix that" look.

Once you start picking up on those looks, it's really not that hard to take advantage of them. Smile back, nod, whatever make notice that you notice them.

Maybe I'll try that. Oh the other hand, they may tend to shy away when they see the wedding band (or the wife sitting next to me).


Are you kidding? I keep my wedding band off in part for that reason. It's a booty and freak magnet. Weird I know, they won't flirt with you with your wife there but you are definately being checked out beer belly or not.
 
2007-11-30 11:15:40 AM  
karasoth: cerberus9

LOL no with natural genetics a dude....


My apologies then.
 
2007-11-30 11:15:51 AM  
techmom: no-teeth.com?

Truth. Five years and going strong, but still getting the cheese grater treatment.

Ladies: open wide. I know you "can't feel it on your teeth." WE CAN.
 
2007-11-30 11:16:04 AM  
LowPlainsDrifter: Sometimes sooner, forgot you said you were 26, sorry. :(

Me too.

So, how does one cope with the horrifying realization that the best years of my life are probably never gonna happen?
 
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