so it doesn't hurt girls feelings as bad, or for as long, or whatever, when I tell them the real reason I'm breaking up with them...?

/you mean I can stop telling them their knees are too sharp?

If she sucked it up, she probably wouldn't have broken up.

You'll get over it.

Like anything else, the more you do it the more you get used to it. Plus, I usually make a list of their pros/cons & there's always more cons.

/you'll get over it

"easier then"

easier than

*shakes a tiny fist of rage at The Onanist.

I came in here to say that.

Easy? Of course it's easy. That's what Al Gore invented e-mail and instant messaging for.

I mean, c'mon, you're breaking up with them... who cares what they think.

I have to disagree. After all, Fark was pretty convinced Endeavor was going to break up today, but apparently it's hard to do than we thought.

Especially when you can start farking her sister, best friend, co-worker, etc.

/just sayin'

I love it when a woman thinks I am about to break up with her.

They will do anything........

So I should just ignore the restraining order?

She'll get over it.

My last relationship breakup went better than expected.

We were together for a year (broke up on our anniversary) and we actually recently moved into a new apartment together.

We're much better off as friends (w/ benefits -laughs-) than boyfriends.

HunterNIU: so it doesn't hurt girls feelings as bad, or for as long, or whatever, when I tell them the real reason I'm breaking up with them...?

/you mean I can stop telling them their knees are too sharp?

That was full of win.

Breaking up sometimes feels like a kick in the nuts. I like to thing of it as her grabbing my crotch one last time...

Okay - since when does a total sample size of 26 people make a good statistical representation?

Also - breaking up is a million times easier than divorce - you just walk away. You don't have to deal with an ex that turns into a vengeful vampire.

It took me almost 2 years to get over my last breakup, mainly due to the trust issues that were caused by my ex in how she left me.

I took it EXTREMELY hard. She moved on qiwith her life like nothing had happened and wanted me to do so as well because (I suspect) she was feeling extremely guilty over what she had done and/or the way she had done it.

I guess I was just more in love that she ever could be...and, considering her behaviour after the breakup and subsequent relationships, I doubt she's capable of true love...she's just got some twisted ideas about it that will screw her up for the rest of her life unless she sorts them out.

So, basically, I'm better off that the harpy is gone...but I know I'm still dealing with the fall-out to this day...

And I have her to thank for that.

When I break up with a girl, I just play "One More Minute" by Weird Al to them.

Well I heard that you're leavin' (leavin')
Gonna leave me far behind (so far behind)
'Cause you found a brand new lover
You decided that I'm not your kind (aahh..)

So I pulled (I pulled) your name out (name out) of my Rolodex (oohh..)
And I tore all your pictures in two
And I burned down the malt shop where we used to go
Just because it reminds me of you (dippity dippity doo)

That's right (that's right) you ain't gonna see me cryin'
I'm glad (I'm glad) that you found somebody new
'Cause I'd rather spend eternity eating shards of broken glass
Than spend one more minute with you

I guess I might seem kinda bitter
You got me feeling down in the dumps
'Cause I'm stranded all alone in the gas station of love
And I have to use the self-service pumps

Oh, so honey, let me help you with that suitcase
You ain't (you ain't) gonna break my heart in two
'Cause I'd rather get a hundred thousand paper cuts on my face
Than spend one more minute with you

I'd rather rip out my intestines with a fork
Than watch you going out with other men
I'd rather slam my fingers in a door (yah)
Again and again and again and again and again

Oh, can't you see what I'm tryin' to say, Darlin...

I'd rather have my blood sucked out by leeches (leeches)
Shove an icepick under a toenail or two
I'd rather clean all the bathrooms in Grand Central Station with my tongue
Than spend one more minute with you

Yes, I'd rather jump naked on a huge pile of thumbtacks
Or stick my nostrils together with crazy glue
I'd rather dive into a swimming pool filled with double-edged razor blades
Than spend one more minute with you

I'd rather rip my heart right out of my ribcage with my bare hands
and then throw it on the floor and stomp on it 'till I die
Than spend one more minute with you

boatman: Okay - since when does a total sample size of 26 people make a good statistical representation?

Also - breaking up is a million times easier than divorce - you just walk away. You don't have to deal with an ex that turns into a vengeful vampire.

I'd say the main difference is that the vengeful vampire in one case is entitled to half your stuff.

MugzyBrown: She wouldn't sit on my face :o(

It was her time of the month.
Freak.

dogfood Quote 2007-08-21 02:07:09 PM
I love it when a woman thinks I am about to break up with her.

They will do anything........
------------------------------------------------------------------

Even AtM?

I hate the early stages of dating someone WAY more than I hate breaking up.

/Did that sound stupid?
//Does my breath smell bad?
///Is this dress too frumpy?
////Am I better in bed than the last girl?

Breakups are not bad- you may lose a lover but you usually gain a friend.

Infidelity on the other hand- soul crusher.

So I guess I'm just a huge pussy since I can't get over my ex-wife after 2 years.

/also, my fault

I like the article following that one...

"hijack bomb was modeling clay"

Remember, no matter how good she looks, somebody....somewhere....is sick and tired of putting up with her shiat.

RadioactiveApe:
Even AtM?

the worst is when they scream at you as you walk away...

"i'm the best thing that everhappened to you!!!" "you're making a big mistake!".. oh and my favorite, "Your'e just lying to yourself, you'll want me back!!"

Yeah, she was crazy...

jtaker: My last relationship breakup went better than expected.

We were together for a year (broke up on our anniversary) and we actually recently moved into a new apartment together.

We're much better off as friends (w/ benefits -laughs-) than boyfriends.

Been there, done that...

importedbeer: Infidelity on the other hand- soul crusher.

Any betrayal of trust is a soul-crusher...and can jade the victim for quite a while after its occurance, sabotaging future relationships as well (if the new SO isn't understanding of those sorts of things).

It's the emotional equivalent of herpes.

2 months is not a relationship by any means.

Call me when you hit 6 months to a year and have a break up.

The rule of thumb about relationships is it takes anywhere from 1/2 of the length of the relationship to twice the length to get over it if you were really 'in love' with them.

So at most 4 months out you should be over a 2 month relationship. If you aren't you're being retarded.

Date a person for a year, 2 years out is about right to get over them.

Mini Ditka: "It's not you, it's me. I hate you"

I am SO using that one.

i took the break up from me and my ex-gf of 3 years way harder than i expected. it destroyed my life for a couple months, now im able to get out of bed and function but still after 9 months i get pretty f'd up every couple days or so. she says we'll be better off in the long run split up but she's still single after almost a year so im guessing that means shes still f'd up atleast a little too. its been almost a year i really wonder how much of a "long run" shes talking about, but she refuses to get back together.

Breaking up has always been a breeze for me. It's finding a significantly better replacement that's been proving difficult.

x514

Dude - there's only one cure for that - sex with lots of other women, preferably two at a time...

Some breakups are easier than others because many factors come into play. I sometimes wonder what my Worst Breakup Ever is doing these days. Divorced, I bet. Twice.

REOIV: Date a person for a year, 2 years out is about right to get over them.

No way, dude. It's always half or less, not double.

Unless, of course, it's the only person you ever loved or something. In which case, why did you sleep with her mom? And the cat?

WinterstarIt's the emotional equivalent of herpes.

That is a funny yet profound way to look at it.

The emotional aspect isn't really the problem, I just can't afford to hate my wife.

"easier then"

easier THAN

Then - a point in time
Than - used to compare things.

- Jasen.

Yellowbeard: Dude - there's only one cure for that - sex with lots of other women, preferably two at a time...

That does help with one's confidence and put a smile on one's face. I know it helped me...especially that 19 year old that seduced me unexpectedly (I was 33 at the time). ;-)

Buddy of mine got over a break up with a little help. She was 10 years younger, about 2 cup sizes bigger, a natural blonde (she didn't really care for underwear) and wanted to please him all the time. Why? I do not know....

szyska: Breaking up sometimes feels like a kick in the nuts. I like to thing of it as her grabbing my crotch one last time...

It feels that way at first, but later that day just hit your local club and get a nice piece of arse and it will take all the pain away

Supercheeks:

/Did that sound stupid? Huh? I wasn't listening.
//Does my breath smell bad? No, I love the smell of cheap gin.
///Is this dress too frumpy? It looks great on you, and Minnie Pearl.
////Am I better in bed than the last girl? Yes, but where are my new handcuffs?

:-D

WOW a sample size of 26 people. Man that study must have take minutes and minutes to pull off. Christ was this someone's senior year independent study or something?

farking useless data.

I would like to point out that the individuals who were used in this study were college students. Break ups are much easier to get over when you are surrounded by thousands of other co-eds with too much time, too many hormones and the constant availability of cheap booze.

As someone whose emotions are severly repressed and controlled, I find it quite easy to break up, you simply cut off all the feelings in that direction.

Problem comes later when they burst out again and you randomly get angry at your ex (who you haven't even seen since then) after a year of being fine with it.

My boyfriend of 2 years and I just broke up. He said it was his fault.
I know I'm better off without him since he's done horrible, horrible things. But it still hurts everyday.

importedbeer: That is a funny yet profound way to look at it.

The sad thing is that concept (infidelity = emotional herpes) just spontaneously popped into my head. (yeah, I have a farked up sense of humour) Glad it rung true for others as well.

This whole article is asinine. 26 college students in relationships that end in less than eight months is not a statistically viable pool to judge the entirety of human relationships. 4 months dating is in no way comparable to years and years of marriage. If your four-month long relationship ends because you both realize that you are not right for one another, how can anyone draw a correlation to a 26-year marriage that ends due to infidelity? Saying to all of humankind "you'll get over it" based on a college student's level of emotional depth, maturity and integrity is unconscionable.

My last breakup was actually kind of fun. I went off to college, she was a senior in high school. She kept thinking we were gonna last forever. We were together for a month and I realized I just didn't like her for anything but sex. She was quite possibly Satan's third or fourth cousin but in high school you're pretty happy to get whatever you can so I looked past that. Then I got to college and looked past her right at my ex-girlfriend. She took it relatively well until she found out about that part.

Lt Shiny Sides: My boyfriend of 2 years and I just broke up. He said it was his fault.
I know I'm better off without him since he's done horrible, horrible things. But it still hurts everyday.

Sorry to hear that...it DOES get better...slowly it aches less and less...but don't deny yourself the emotions in the short-term. Work through it so you don't keep reliving it.

osdrcomputers: szyska: Breaking up sometimes feels like a kick in the nuts. I like to thing of it as her grabbing my crotch one last time...

It feels that way at first, but later that day just hit your local club and get a nice piece of arse and it will take all the pain away

The key is getting that piece of arse fast enough I've found...

Asa Phelps: My last breakup was worse than i thought it would be - and i thought it would be pretty bad.

It was the rage issues that i didn't expect that really pushed it over the top.

That and the fact that it became cyclical and selfsustaining.

I still take wellbutrin to keep from being pissed off 24 hours a day at nothing in particular.

Talk to your doctor. If you have rage issues (not the ex) or have any sign of mania buproprion is the wrong drug for you and could be making you worse.

I tend to use this method. I get the girl in a room, then ask, "Who's Lane's girlfriend?"

Then, when she starts to raise her hand, you say, "Hold on a minute, champ."

/Never done that.
//Been with my current girlfriend for 5 years.
///Breaking up would be devastating, because for those 5 years we've built a life together. How do you get out of something like that without lots of headache?
////Hint: you don't.

HA! Men are easy to break up with. Just walk away and if they ask 'why' tell them they are too small! LoL. I love men!!

Gothnet: As someone whose emotions are severly repressed and controlled, I find it quite easy to break up, you simply cut off all the feelings in that direction

This. And channel them into something else.

Lt Shiny Sides: My boyfriend of 2 years and I just broke up. He said it was his fault.
I know I'm better off without him since he's done horrible, horrible things. But it still hurts everyday.

I am intriged, continue

Winterstar: It took me almost 2 years to get over my last breakup, mainly due to the trust issues that were caused by my ex in how she left me.

I took it EXTREMELY hard. She moved on qiwith her life like nothing had happened and wanted me to do so as well because (I suspect) she was feeling extremely guilty over what she had done and/or the way she had done it.

I guess I was just more in love that she ever could be...and, considering her behaviour after the breakup and subsequent relationships, I doubt she's capable of true love...she's just got some twisted ideas about it that will screw her up for the rest of her life unless she sorts them out.

So, basically, I'm better off that the harpy is gone...but I know I'm still dealing with the fall-out to this day...

And I have her to thank for that.

dad?

Asa Phelps:

I still take wellbutrin to keep from being pissed off 24 hours a day at nothing in particular.

Suck it up and stop popping pills. Enjoy the anger.

I broke up with a girl I dated for over a year. I really didn't even like her, just the sex and having someone to go to the movies with. She ended up breaking up with me. I was more upset about having to change my daily routine than not dating her.

REOIV: 2 months is not a relationship by any means.

Call me when you hit 6 months to a year and have a break up.

The rule of thumb about relationships is it takes anywhere from 1/2 of the length of the relationship to twice the length to get over it if you were really 'in love' with them.

So at most 4 months out you should be over a 2 month relationship. If you aren't you're being retarded.

Date a person for a year, 2 years out is about right to get over them.

So, according to this, it's gonna take me 18 years to get over my ex?

I call bullshiat.

it's been 2.... OVER IT

Who comes up with this stuff?

Study proves that breaking up is easier; then you thought...

/existential version

fatal_exception: The emotional aspect isn't really the problem, I just can't afford to hate my wife.

If you haven't contemplated murder at some point in time, you've never been married.

I lost my Sony Dreamcast in my last breakup...

Brian: Okay, if you're just tuning in, we're taking calls. Tonight's subject is Denise.. Have you seen her? Has she said anything about me? Let's take another call. Hello?

Caller #1: Hey, Brian, I saw Denise at Friendly's with her parents.

Brian: The one on Central Aveneue?

Caller #1: Oh, yeah.

Brian: Really? Did she look happy?

Caller #1: Yeah. I guess so.

Brian: Good.... Good for her, that's great. Seriously, that's really, really good. I can't tell you how happy I am for her.

Caller: Okay, man, see you later...

Brian: Okay, good. She deserves to be happy. I'm glad, I really am.... Alright, now's the time in the show when I like to give Denise a call and hang up on her.

Denise on phone: Hello? [ Brian hangs up sadistically ]

Brian: That was great! Now, let's bring out my first guest. He lives down the street from me, and has known Denise since kindergarten, Daryl Fitzsimmons... Hey, uh, Daryl, don't you think Denise and I made a good couple?

Daryl Fitzsimmons: Yeah.. definitely.

Brian: I know. What's with her?

Daryl Fitzsimmons: I don't know, man.

Brian: Okay, thanks for coming by, Daryl.

Daryl Fitzsimmons: Thanks!

Brian: Okay, uh, let's move on to this week's Denise Trivia Question. The question is: Last summer when Denise and I took her niece to Chuck E. Cheese, how long did Denise say we'd be together? The answer is: Forever. Hmm.. I guess in Chuck E. Cheese, Forever means Eight Months.... Okay, now's about the time on the show where I lose it, and my dad calls up and yells at me. Here we go.... I can't believe she did this to me! It's not fair. What did I do wrong, Denise? Just tell me, and I'll stop doing it!

Brian's Father on phone: Hello, Brian, this is your father.

Brian: What?

Brian's Father on phone: What the hell is wrong with you? You're embarrassing the family!

Brian: [ crying ] I can't help it, Dad, she..

Brian's Father on phone: Oh, stop it!

Brian: ..was everything to me!

Brian's Father on phone: Stop it!

Brian: She was so soft!

Brian's Father on phone: Be a man! I can't understand what you're saying, speak English! Moron!!

Brian: You don't get it, man!

Brian's Father on phone: Brian.

Brian: She's different, just butt out!

Brian's Father on phone: Brian!

Brian: This is my life, You don't own me!!...Okay, that was great! Tonight, we have a brand new segment for our show. Let's call up the guy I heard Denise has been dating, and hang up on him.

Denise's New Boyfriend on phone: Hello. Hello? Hello??

Brian:...I'm gonna kill you.

Denise's New Boyfriend on phone: Who is this??

Brian: Okay! That really was fun. Now, every week on the show, I like to take out an old note Denise sent me, and sigh painfully as I read it. This one was from our three-week anniversary. ...Okay. Now is the part of the show where I look at Denise's picture, and I talk to it.... Why? Why do you push me away when all I want to do is love you? Take me back, Denise, please..

Brian's Father on phone: Hello, Brian, this is your father.

Brian: BUTT OUT!!

Brian's Father on phone: Get a hold of yourself!

Brian: YOU DON'T UNDERSTAND!!

Brian's Father on phone: Be a man! You're embarrassing us!

Brian: NO, WHY DON'T YOU SHUT UP!!

Denise: [ runs onstage, angry with Brian ] Brian! Brian, what are you doing? What the hell is wrong with you?



Brian: Hello, Denise.

Denise: Why can't you get it? It is over. You and me are over, face reality, we're not a couple, move on with your life.

Brian: Will you go back out with me?

Denise: NO!! [ she exits ]

Brian: Then, the show must go on. Next week, my guest will be a girl who works with Denise at the movie theater, and a guy who sold her some pants at Marshall's. See you then....

szyska: Buddy of mine got over a break up with a little help. She was 10 years younger, about 2 cup sizes bigger, a natural blonde (she didn't really care for underwear) and wanted to please him all the time. Why? I do not know....

I am intrigued and wish to subscribe to his newsletter. Was thinking the same thing when I started reading this thread.

I came here for sad emo pics and I was sorely disappointed : /

Have they narrowed it down from 50 ways? (DNRTFA)

FTA - The nine-month study involved college students who had been dating

The flaw is that college students' brains haven't yet fully developed emotionally. The older you get, the more you know and feel, the worse heartbreak is.

/IMHO

Photoshopped.

Lt Shiny Sides: My boyfriend of 2 years and I just broke up. He said it was his fault.
I know I'm better off without him since he's done horrible, horrible things. But it still hurts everyday.

How YOU doin'?

Five o' Clock Somewhere: I lost my Sony Dreamcast in my last breakup...

Oh that's nothing, friend broke up with g/f. (Same one from above who found the natural blonde.) She had a kid, and to get on the kid's good side he brough over his X-Box, PS2/PSOne, all his games for all three systems and more than a few movies. Lost it all....

Lousy statistically insignificant study, retarded article, but decent fark fodder.

Nothing farks with your mind more than a person who starts using emotional manipulation. I'd rather have someone outright cheat or be an asshole, because then at least it's a lot easier to decide it's their fault, not yours.

//finally mostly over my 9-year relationship (been about 2 years now)
//not something I'll ever forget, though
//he broke it off, but good riddance. Can't believe the bullshiat I put up with.

I've found that hard liquor, other guys and of course, fark, help a lot...
For a few hours anyway.

highendmighty: FTA - The nine-month study involved college students who had been dating

The flaw is that college students' brains haven't yet fully developed emotionally. The older you get, the more you know and feel, the worse heartbreak is.

/IMHO

College students? Oh yeah, like they know anything.

codewarrior81: dad?

Science! I hope not... :-)

/No kids yet, thankfully...helps minimize the pain in the breakups

I just broke-up for good with my one-itis of 3 years. Nothing wrong with our relationship per se, but our career goals are leading us in different directions, neither one of us wants to compromise, and it's way too stressful to try and hold it together.

//daily Xanax works wonders, else I'd be freaking out nonstop.
///yeah, I'm a pussy, fark you

Lt Shiny Sides: I've found that hard liquor, other guys and of course, fark, help a lot...
For a few hours anyway.

I found out the hard way that, even if you mix them somewhat strong, I can't get passed-out drunk on White Russians before the lactose catches up with me.

i love how some people are using this thread as a chance to vent about their last breakup...
go tell it to a shrink, then get over it.

PS. Breaking up over email is the way to go ( i found)

I recently spotted my ex, almost 10 years after I dumped his stupid ass. Tried to be friendly, asked him how he was doing. Apparently, my breaking up with him was the push into his downward spiral of suicide attempts, bad guitar solos and working at Wal-Mart. He told me he wished I would just die, then said if I wasn't seeing anybody lately that we could "hook up".

Pussy.

Take 2 of these...

...and call a hooker in the morning

geekybroad:

//finally mostly over my 9-year relationship (been about 2 years now)
//not something I'll ever forget, though
//he broke it off, but good riddance. Can't believe the bullshiat I put up with.

You seem like a woman with low self-esteem. Allow me to introduce myself...

I think a lot of the time, if you're one who was dumped, you don't really get over your ex until you meet someone new.

I like the half the relationship-twice the length to get over someone. I think that makes complete sense.

2 1/2 year relationship just ended. She was 8 years older than I am (me-31, she-39) and with two small children (hers from a previous marriage, not mine). It hurts - a lot. So much time, energy, emotion and true love invested, not just in her, but in her children and the lives of her parents, friends etc, all to have her say she doesn't know what she wants, but that she would like to see other people. It's going to take a long time to move on.

/2months is not a relationship.
//this study is farked up

80+ posts and still no fix for the headline. For shame mods....for shame.

THAN

THAN
THAN
THAN

/that is all

szyska: Oh that's nothing, friend broke up with g/f. (Same one from above who found the natural blonde.) She had a kid, and to get on the kid's good side he brough over his X-Box, PS2/PSOne, all his games for all three systems and more than a few movies. Lost it all....

Ouch...that just makes it exponentially worse...

/survived a marriage and engagement with Atari 2600, Genesis, SNES, PS1, PS2, and Xbox intact. :-)

Lt Shiny Sides: I've found that hard liquor, other guys and of course, fark, help a lot...
For a few hours anyway.


How YOOOU doin'?????

/LOL J/K married&happy

Also - breaking up is a million times easier than divorce - you just walk away. You don't have to deal with an ex that turns into a vengeful vampire.


THIS!!!

I tried several times to break it off before marriage, she convinced me she couldn't live without me and would do anything for me. She couldn't until after I gave her her 2 children and a nice house, then she could certainly live without me once she found something (someone) better in the form of one of my best friends. Now as I struggle to make ends meet in constant dependancy of others to help with the bills. She lives comfortably in her (now newer 6 bedroom house) and brand new SUV with her nice almost $1k CS payments every month.

/NOT Bitter :)
//At least I'm not living in a van down by the river!

Death_Poot: szyska: Buddy of mine got over a break up with a little help. She was 10 years younger, about 2 cup sizes bigger, a natural blonde (she didn't really care for underwear) and wanted to please him all the time. Why? I do not know....

I am intrigued and wish to subscribe to his newsletter. Was thinking the same thing when I started reading this thread.

Get in line, I'm trying to get a copy of his newsletter. This is pure conjecture on my part but I think he was just a the right place at the right time. Him being 10 years older meant he has a job, a car, he's stable, he knows his limits when it comes to drinking...etc. He does photography on the side and she wanted to do some nudes for her then boyfriend as some sort of attempt to salvage the relationship. He took the pics, listened to her story and the rest is history... at least that's how I think I happened. He said he met her through photography.

geekybroad: I'd rather have someone outright cheat or be an asshole, because then at least it's a lot easier to decide it's their fault, not yours.

That's why I slept with you sister! I did it for you

Yellowbeard: x514

Dude - there's only one cure for that - sex with lots of other women, preferably two at a time...

I fully endorse this proposal

I'm a hooker addicted loner, so I'm really getting a kick out of these replies...

Nearly $4,000 a month child support has done wonders helping me get over her.

Suck it up, Princess.

Winterstar: I took it EXTREMELY hard. She moved on qiwith her life like nothing had happened and wanted me to do so as well because (I suspect) she was feeling extremely guilty over what she had done and/or the way she had done it.

She didn't feel guilty. She was just reasonably concerned for your mental health.

ImpromptuRhymes: Asa Phelps:

I still take wellbutrin to keep from being pissed off 24 hours a day at nothing in particular.

Suck it up and stop popping pills. Enjoy the anger.

Good! Use your aggressive feelings, boy! Let the hate flow through you.

By the way...and at risk of being labeled a troll for this....

If you have any expectation of a relationship NOT ending eventually you are one of these:

1.) Naive
2.) Not jaded enough.
3.) Not familiar with statistics

Romantic relationships are by their nature temporary. As with everything in life you should have a plan "B".

Obsess much?

i love it when farkers use threads like this one as if it's an online support group.

read about my problems and feewings.

/i do love it
//other peoples problems rock

Winterstar: szyska: Oh that's nothing, friend broke up with g/f. (Same one from above who found the natural blonde.) She had a kid, and to get on the kid's good side he brough over his X-Box, PS2/PSOne, all his games for all three systems and more than a few movies. Lost it all....

Ouch...that just makes it exponentially worse...

/survived a marriage and engagement with Atari 2600, Genesis, SNES, PS1, PS2, and Xbox intact. :-)

But he still has some of the controllers and games lying around. Says he's gonna get the systems again, just not now. Almost 3 years and counting...

My left brain knows all love is fleeting.

"they found the more people were in love, the harder they took the breakup."

Still no cure for cancer.

I'm listening to Wild Thing by Sam Kinison, and I'm getting a kick out of these replies.

vonzales: i love it when farkers use threads like this one as if it's an online support group.

read about my problems and feewings.

/i do love it
//other peoples problems rock

Aren't all threads like that?

cerberus9: geekybroad:

//finally mostly over my 9-year relationship (been about 2 years now)
//not something I'll ever forget, though
//he broke it off, but good riddance. Can't believe the bullshiat I put up with.

You seem like a woman with low self-esteem. Allow me to introduce myself...

Heh, not anymore. *Everything* started turning around for me over a year ago. But I'm sure if you look hard enough, you can find someone with low esteem to meet your inadequacies... :P

Amirite
So I guess I'm just a huge need some pussy since I can't get over my ex-wife after 2 years.

FTFY

JohnnyCanuck: My left brain knows all love is fleeting.

The bottom brain knows that "love" isn't the important part.

This: She didn't feel guilty. She was just reasonably concerned for your mental health.

That may be...however, her preoccupation with how I perceive her, even years ex post facto, says otherwise to me...that she feels the need to feel vindicated of any wrongdoing.

Your interpretation may be correct. The irony is that my self-confidence grew exponentially after the shiat she put me through - like iron in a forge.

But I'm sure if you look hard enough, you can find someone with low esteem to meet your inadequacies... :P

geekybroad is right. Women with low self-esteem are my bread and butter. They're everywhere.

Beve
"easier then"

easier than

I came to say that,
How hard can it be to use the right word?
Yet I see the wrong word used 8 out of 10 times.

Elementary english 101...

To say "easier then you thought" means something was easier followed by thinking, which makes no sense whatsoever in this case.

To say "easier than you thought" means something is easier compared to what you were thinking...Got it????

geekybroad:
Heh, not anymore. *Everything* started turning around for me over a year ago. But I'm sure if you look hard enough, you can find someone with low esteem to meet your inadequacies... :P

cerberus9 just got kicked in the nuts

Well this is good news. I'll remember this next time I meet a woman recently out of a relationship. I'm sure she will find it reassuring and this will go a long way to helping her trust me. If you don't help them trust you, then there's no way you'll ever get them to sleep with you. And that's really the goal. Insecure women...nail them while you can. That's always been my motto.


/This thread should provide some good leads

szyska: But he still has some of the controllers and games lying around. Says he's gonna get the systems again, just not now. Almost 3 years and counting...

It took me over 2 years to get the $500 I loaned my ex for school books back...still amazed I got it...it CAN happen...but 3 years is a long time.

Winterstar

I was gonna post my awful breakup story, but it would just sound exactly like yours. Except mine had the added bonus of said ex sicing her family on me so that they can harp on me every day about how everything is my fault and their precious little snuggle dumpling poopsie kins is utterly guiltless and such a tragic victim in this whole ordeal.

boomaze: geekybroad is right. Women with low self-esteem are my bread and butter. They're everywhere.

I've found the opposite - confident women are HOT and damn good in bed.

Women with low-self-esteem are too clingy and high maintenance.

The way I break up is to line up all my friends, along with my girlfriend, in a room. Then I say "will anybody dating me please step forward. Whoa there, you.... not so fast".

Breaking up used to be hard until I learned to become a dirt bag,now i get all the love

boatman: Okay - since when does a total sample size of 26 people make a good statistical representation?

good point. also:
The nine-month study involved college students who had been dating at least two months
college students dating for two months don't exactly parallel the real world. not when I was in University, and certainly not now, in the age of the hook-up.

cerberus9
Aren't all threads like that?

True. Many of them are. I haven't read this thread yet:
Man rides mule from Minnesota to Wyoming. Boy, was his ass tired

Winterstar: boomaze: geekybroad is right. Women with low self-esteem are my bread and butter. They're everywhere.

I've found the opposite - confident women are HOT and damn good in bed.

Women with low-self-esteem are too clingy and high maintenance.

Amen. I've come to the decision that when women believe they are "deep", it's just a complicated euphemism for borderline personality disorder.

"Breaking up is like tipping over a vending machine, you can't do it in one push, you have to rock it back and forth a bit"

Seinfeld.

during my last breakup, she threw a plate of Calamari on me. Where did she get THAT from?

Fast Moon: I was gonna post my awful breakup story, but it would just sound exactly like yours. Except mine had the added bonus of said ex sicing her family on me so that they can harp on me every day about how everything is my fault and their precious little snuggle dumpling poopsie kins is utterly guiltless and such a tragic victim in this whole ordeal.

Families tend to stick with their kin, no matter what has actually happened. I was lucky enough that her family didn't really know me at all (they live out in California, so it was practically impossible to meet them)...however, her friends were merciless...

Sorry you've had to deal with that heartache...I wouldn't wish that on ANYONE.

boomaze:-geekybroad is right. Women with low self-esteem are my bread and butter. They're everywhere.

You must be ugly

Who amoungst us hasn't sucked on the end of a .38 while listening to:

I'm standing on the edge of time
I Walked away when love was mine
Caught up in a world of uphill climbing
The tears are in my mind
And nothing is rhyming, oh Mandy

Well you came and you gave without taking
but I sent you away, oh Mandy
well you kissed me and stopped me from shaking
And I need you today, oh Mandy

I've ended the last half-dozen or more relationships I've been in (barring one, where the guy just faded away. Pussy). The guys I've dated have been too pussy or too involved to end things themselves; the last guy took almost five hours of talking before he was convinced that I meant it when I said, "I don't see a future with you."

He was a controlling little twerp, too. Not sad I'm out of that one, especially since the current guy is someone I'm pretty sure is my forever person.

dogfood: Who amoungst us hasn't sucked on the end of a .38 while listening to:

I'm standing on the edge of time
I Walked away when love was mine
Caught up in a world of uphill climbing
The tears are in my mind
And nothing is rhyming, oh Mandy

Well you came and you gave without taking
but I sent you away, oh Mandy
well you kissed me and stopped me from shaking
And I need you today, oh Mandy

Dude, Manilow is the bomb!

/His name was Rico, he wore a diamond...

Winterstar: szyska: But he still has some of the controllers and games lying around. Says he's gonna get the systems again, just not now. Almost 3 years and counting...

It took me over 2 years to get the $500 I loaned my ex for school books back...still amazed I got it...it CAN happen...but 3 years is a long time.

He's not even gonna try to get them back from her. He just gonna buy them again.

IXI Jim IXI: I found out the hard way that, even if you mix them somewhat strong, I can't get passed-out drunk on White Russians before the lactose catches up with me.

LMFAO- AH, thanks for that laugh. I needed it.

WolfinPHX: *shakes a tiny fist of rage at The Onanist.

I came in here to say that.

You'll get over it.

boatman:

Romantic relationships are by their nature temporary. As with everything in life you should have a plan "B".

Plan B is a helluva drug. I've sprung for it more than once. Thank science; all the girls I date seem to be batshiat crazy. Maybe thats just women in general.

RadioactiveApe: dogfood Quote 2007-08-21 02:07:09 PM
I love it when a woman thinks I am about to break up with her.

They will do anything........
------------------------------------------------------------------

Even AtM?

You never go AtM! (pops)

overlord_mike: geekybroad:
Heh, not anymore. *Everything* started turning around for me over a year ago. But I'm sure if you look hard enough, you can find someone with low esteem to meet your inadequacies... :P

cerberus9 just got kicked in the nuts

Maybe. However I've found one thing constant about women with low self-esteem: They constantly repeat how "confident" they are, like it was some sort of mantra. Therefore, the more confident a woman claims to be, the lower her self-esteem probably is.

Breaking up occurs when:

- she has different expectations than you
- the emotional bond once shared was not nurtured properly
- the relationship is not the top priority of both involved
- her penis is bigger than yours

So this one time I was in the middle of dumping this girl and she asked if I wanted to get married now !?!??!

NO!

Then the crazy biatch said I would never find anyone like her, to that I replied Thank God!

/Getting slapped never felt so good
//Why are the pretty ones always insane?

Did I spell this correctly: So this one time I was in the middle of dumping this girl and she asked if I wanted to get married now !?!??!

NO!

Then the crazy biatch said I would never find anyone like her, to that I replied Thank God!

/Getting slapped never felt so good
//Why are the pretty ones always insane?

What, like the ugly ones aren't??

How in the hell do you actually quantify that? Sounds like kind of a bogus study to me.

cerberus9:
Maybe. However I've found one thing constant about women with low self-esteem: They constantly repeat how "confident" they are, like it was some sort of mantra. Therefore, the more confident a woman claims to be, the lower her self-esteem probably is.

Thanks for the info.

I'll look out for that

It's all about putting things in the right context, months after a breakup you may find yourself thinking about conversations and other things that might not have really happened in the way you remember them.

Ever notice that you can look back at some relationships and the good times seem like different events that happened, where as the bad times seemed to have been rolled into one fight.

cerberus9: overlord_mike: geekybroad:
Heh, not anymore. *Everything* started turning around for me over a year ago. But I'm sure if you look hard enough, you can find someone with low esteem to meet your inadequacies... :P

cerberus9 just got kicked in the nuts

Maybe. However I've found one thing constant about women with low self-esteem: They constantly repeat how "confident" they are, like it was some sort of mantra. Therefore, the more confident a woman claims to be, the lower her self-esteem probably is.

In my experience I find that this is true. Girl I went to college with, she's very good looking and intelligent. Divorces her husband of 1 1/2 years, boyfriend of 10 years and now she doesn't do anything any more. The only thing that would help her is validation from her ex that is in fact pretty....

PhotoCindy: No way, dude. It's always half or less, not double.

Unless, of course, it's the only person you ever loved or something. In which case, why did you sleep with her mom? And the cat?

"That cat was the best FARK I ever had."

/Not sure if that's obscure or not... I know none of my friends ever heard the record that I stole it off of.

It's always cheaper to keep em.

dogfood: Who amoungst us hasn't sucked on the end of a .38 while listening to:

I'm standing on the edge of time
I Walked away when love was mine
Caught up in a world of uphill climbing
The tears are in my mind
And nothing is rhyming, oh Mandy

Well you came and you gave without taking
but I sent you away, oh Mandy
well you kissed me and stopped me from shaking
And I need you today, oh Mandy

ME! that's who. My dogs name is Mandy.

Lt Shiny Sides: I've found that hard liquor, other [people of the opposite sex] and of course, fark, help a lot...
For a few hours anyway.

I am a happy subscriber to your newsletter :)

Dr_Phil_Winfrey: Breaking up occurs when:

- she has different expectations than you
- the emotional bond once shared was not nurtured properly
- the relationship is not the top priority of both involved
- her penis is bigger than yours

Considering my ex-wife had an 18" double dong dildo, it'd be tough for her NOT to have one bigger than mine...

/Hasn't heard any complaints.

jasenj1
"easier then"
...
- Jasen.

- JasOn


Sorry, couldn't resist.

Broke up with my bf of four years this summer. It was a lot harder than I expected. I have a standing date with a female friend who also ended a four year relationship to smash disposable things in my garage sometime. We're past the "depressed every day" stage but we agree that some days it would be helpful. We laugh at those college students and their "two month" angst.

You must be ugly

I am as God made me.

Repeat Man!!!: jasenj1
"easier then"
...
- Jasen.

- JasOn


Sorry, couldn't resist.

If you wanted to be REALLY witty, it should've been

-JasAn :-)

It's interesting to see how many farkers equate getting laid to getting over a breakup. After my last breakup I wound up sport-farking a stripper in a manner that makes most hetro porn look tame (no, not AtM, but pretty much everything else, yes, the choking noises still kinda freak me out) and found it made no difference in the lonliness and absence of emotional fufillment I fealt. If all you get out of a relationship is sex, you should probably just stick to NSA arrangments or sex workers and save all parties the drama of a BS relationship...

<b>cerberus9:</b>
<i>Maybe. However I've found one thing constant about women with low self-esteem: They constantly repeat how "confident" they are, like it was some sort of mantra. Therefore, the more confident a woman claims to be, the lower her self-esteem probably is.</i>

Ah, and this works in another manner for guys -- the bigger the asshole he is, the more often he goes around proclaiming what a "nice guy" he is... bonus points if he lists all the things that he does that make him a nice guy.

/nice guys don't have to tell you they are
//they just finish last
///after you've finished several times

boatman: Okay - since when does a total sample size of 26 people make a good statistical representation?

Also - breaking up is a million times easier than divorce - you just walk away. You don't have to deal with an ex that turns into a vengeful vampire.

Win.

/Snobby Northwestern students suck
//A bad breakup is nothing daddy' credit card can't fix.
///DIAF princess.

boomaze: I am as God made me.

Don't blame your imaginary friend, blame mom and dad...that is if she knows who the father is. Otherwise, go on Maury. ;-)

I'm 6 months out of a 20 year marriage. Married when I was 18. I've found that sleeping with a younger man (he's 24, I'm 39) has really helped. You're devestated self esteem wise but when a cute hot young latino guy wants you...phew..it's on! Really helped me get out of the post relationship funk.

Lane83: I tend to use this method. I get the girl in a room, then ask, "Who's Lane's girlfriend?"

Then, when she starts to raise her hand, you say, "Hold on a minute, champ."

This is hilarious to me.

AllShelleyAllTheTime: I'm 6 months out of a 20 year marriage. Married when I was 18. I've found that sleeping with a younger man (he's 24, I'm 39) has really helped. You're devestated self esteem wise but when a cute hot young latino guy wants you...phew..it's on! Really helped me get out of the post relationship funk.

It's not the cure-all pill...but it can be the kick-start to rebuilding one's confidence so a good long-term relationship has a chance at succeeding.

Gotta get the rebounds out, might as well be with FWBs.

boatman: By the way...and at risk of being labeled a troll for this....

If you have any expectation of a relationship NOT ending eventually you are one of these:

1.) Naive
2.) Not jaded enough.
3.) Not familiar with statistics

Romantic relationships are by their nature temporary. As with everything in life you should have a plan "B".

My wife and I would disagree

Heartbreak is justified narcissism. And people love to be self absorbed, especially when it's socially acceptable. Why else do you think people buy heartbreak so much in movies, books, and music? Everyone wants to be the most important, the most sad, the most alone, the most of this or that.

If people were genuinely destroyed by realationships ending, they'd just shoot themselves and save the world their self-important whining.

You just say:
I break with thee
I break with thee
I break with thee.

Then you throw dog poop on her shoes.

/later you go to bars and look for girls with dog poop on their shoes

strangeguitar: If she sucked it up, she probably wouldn't have broken up.

This.

arollo: Heartbreak is justified narcissism. And people love to be self absorbed, especially when it's socially acceptable. Why else do you think people buy heartbreak so much in movies, books, and music? Everyone wants to be the most important, the most sad, the most alone, the most of this or that.

If people were genuinely destroyed by realationships ending, they'd just shoot themselves and save the world their self-important whining.

Good thing you can't break up with yourself, eh, Narcissus? ;-)

TimShadee: You never go AtM! (pops)

Sometimes... even AtM is okay

IdBeCrazyIf,

So would most married people, doesn't change the statistics...

/best of luck though

Heartbreak is justified narcissism. And people love to be self absorbed, especially when it's socially acceptable. Why else do you think people buy heartbreak so much in movies, books, and music? Everyone wants to be the most important, the most sad, the most alone, the most of this or that.

If people were genuinely destroyed by realationships ending, they'd just shoot themselves and save the world their self-important whining.


This.

How about getting a break-up note via text.

YEAH! While at work. \\Damn biatch Texted the relationship over.

///Took all night too.

Broke up a few times, been dumped (hard) once as well. Never had too much trouble moving on... the "one month for each year" rule held pretty much true.

My ex's, not so much. One stalked me for 3 years (no exaggeration), threatening suicide regularly - to this day, I never answer my home phone. Two others got engaged within a couple months of our split; one is now divorced with a few kids and no job; the other is supporting her unemployed (and much older) 'man' after 3 years - still no ring or date.

I think I've gotten the better end of those deals. Still miss one of the girls though.

This should have got the Asinine tag. Break ups when you are in college are nothing. But break up after you've been married for a number of years and, well, that's a whole different ballgame.

arollo: Why else do you think people buy heartbreak so much in movies, books, and music?

Because it's a universal theme that everyone can understand? Young, old, rich, poor, black, white, red, yellow, blue, green, American, European, Asian, Australian, African...it's something that anyone can relate to and sympathize with - except the anti-social and psycopathic...

I think people have pointed this out, but if you get wrecked by a breakup in COLLEGE, you aren't going to make it in the big person world.

it took me exactly 1 bj to get over my ex-wife..

boomaze,

Is that because they're in college, or because you assume all college students are in short-termers?

osdrcomputers: fatal_exception: The emotional aspect isn't really the problem, I just can't afford to hate my wife.

If you haven't contemplated murder at some point in time, you've never been married.

Ding ding! We have a winnah!

PetuniaPumpkin
I think a lot of the time, if you're one who was dumped, you don't really get over your ex until you meet someone new.

Dead right, Petunia.

AllShelleyAllTheTime
I'm 6 months out of a 20 year marriage. Married when I was 18. I've found that sleeping with a younger man (he's 24, I'm 39) has really helped. You're devestated self esteem wise but when a cute hot young latino guy wants you...phew..it's on! Really helped me get out of the post relationship funk.

You too, Shelley.

coma: Dear Baby, Welcome to Dumpsville; population: you

You're doing it wrong

/Simpsons did it!

"Study proves that breaking up is easier then you thought. Suck it up, princess"

Study proves that breaking up is easier. Then you thought, "Suck it up, princess."

People on Fark have worthwhile opinions on relationships?

Reading these threads makes me feel as if most on here have touched a keyboard more than actual human skin and even more so than another's heart.

I'm a bit disappointed folks, some love, some loose, most do NOT get over it.

/denial ain't just a lake in China

High school break up:



College break up:



/the college break up also included lots and lots of alcohol

... and you're surprized by this Fletch?

Let's try this again

High School:



College:



/still lots of alcohol

Lollipop165: I find that generally people who divorce tend to have overly romantic intentions about marriage.

The "polyamory" crowd is the same way. They thrive on the "New Relationship Energy", then, when the romantic love has faded a bit and issues to work on as a couple emerge, they leave the relationship and start a new one where everything's sunshine, lollipops, and rainbows...and the cycle continually repeats itself until they're too old to attract new lovers and they're stuck with the last one they snagged...assuming that person wants to stay.

/"Polyamory" is as big a sham as any snake oil salesman.

rdt21: Suck it up, Princess.

Ha! Your ex makes out with her brother!

/uh oh spoiler
//did you see that yet?

Mini Ditka: "It's not you, it's me. I hate you"

"It's not me. It's you." is definitely more honest.

misanthropic1

You know.. no. I shouldn't be surprised.......

I still miss my ex and that was 5.5 years ago...

/no lifetime made-for-tv's, no open pining, just personal loss and remorse
//some people actually know how to open up
///we're all different, that's why some win, some lose

Supercheeks: "It's not me. It's you." is definitely more honest.

"It's not me. It's not you. It's me AND you." is the most honest of them all.

JohnnyCanuck: My left brain knows all love is fleeting.

Said it once before, but it bears repeating

Pair-o-Dice you now officially owe me a new keyboard as well as being responsible for a soggy bowl!

/nothing 15 secs in the nuker wont fix

People need stability in their lives. Relationships provide us with an anchor into our past. When we date someone, we share a lot of who we are with the while also learning a lot about ourselves in the process.

Once that special person goes, we realize that life is transient -- that the universe and time continue to progress whether we go willingly or not.

The depression we feel when we lose someone is that separation from stability -- that little hiding place away from the cruel chaos of the world that constantly causes buildings to crumble, people to die and planets to eventually explode when sun goes nova.

In the end, it was all about the sex anyway.

Sage advice to all:
Get a dog

Breakups get easier when she is a crazy drunken weirdo. Last night the phone rings at 1:00, 1:20, 1:25,1:27 no answer each time. My door bell starts ringing at 2:00am then someone starts banging on the door with their fist. I hop out of bed, grab the burner and look out the hole. Its her. I tell her to go home which she does not like but she leaves eventually and scrapes her car on my security gate on the way out. So im back in bed by 3am and I drag in to work this morning only to have her call to tell me that its my fault she faucked up her car and, oh yeah, she is pregnant which is total bullshiat. Breaking up is hard to do my ass.

Dr_Phil_Winfrey: Sage advice to all:
Get a dog

Dog's die.

I'm still not over my husband of 15 years but I've been divorced for seven. But they're just little aches and pains now and they have nothing to do with logic. He was a great guy, but I've grown so much since the divorce it's stupid to wish we were together again- we're totally different people now. But I'm glad I spent the seven years alone... Last year I met the perfect man for the person I've become. Great fun to be with, good-looking, artistically talented and very intelligent. We have the same goals in life and although we've only been together for a year, this has the feeling of the Right Kind of Relationship.

aphexcoil: People need stability in their lives. Relationships provide us with a crutch anchor into our past. When we date someone, we share a lot of who we are with the while also learning a lot about ourselves in the process.

Once that special person goes, we realize that life is transient -- that the universe and time continue to progress whether we go willingly or not.

The depression we feel when we lose someone is that separation from stability -- that little hiding place away from the cruel chaos of the world that constantly causes buildings to crumble, people to die and planets to eventually explode when sun goes nova.

In the end, it was all about the sex anyway.

FTFY

takesdeepbreathkickspuppy: Breakups get easier when she is a crazy drunken weirdo. Last night the phone rings at 1:00, 1:20, 1:25,1:27 no answer each time. My door bell starts ringing at 2:00am then someone starts banging on the door with their fist. I hop out of bed, grab the burner and look out the hole. Its her. I tell her to go home which she does not like but she leaves eventually and scrapes her car on my security gate on the way out. So im back in bed by 3am and I drag in to work this morning only to have her call to tell me that its my fault she faucked up her car and, oh yeah, she is pregnant which is total bullshiat. Breaking up is hard to do my ass.

Can I have her number?

breaking up is easier then you thought

Nah, just become the World's Biggest Asshole, and she'll do all the breaking-up work. It doesn't get any easier than that. After she's gone, change the locks and the phone number so she can't change her mind.

fdlgrl: Last year I met the perfect man for the person I've become.

That right there says to me that it IS the "right kind of relationship". Good luck with it, I wish you all the best! :-)

spooky!

fdlgrl: Last year I met the perfect man for the person I've become. Great fun to be with, good-looking, artistically talented and very intelligent. We have the same goals in life and although we've only been together for a year, this has the feeling of the Right Kind of Relationship.

Funny, because 22 years ago you were probably think the exact same thing.

a girl threw a picture at me once when I tried to break up with her. That was bad...it wasnt even a picture of me.

AllShelleyAllTheTime
I'm 6 months out of a 20 year marriage. Married when I was 18. I've found that sleeping with a younger man (he's 24, I'm 39) has really helped. You're devestated self esteem wise but when a cute hot young latino guy wants you...phew..it's on! Really helped me get out of the post relationship funk.

I'm sooo jealous!
//I love hot uncut latino peener!!

aphexcoil: Yeah but 22 years ago I was 19.

Lt Shiny Sides: I've found that hard liquor, other guys and of course, fark, help a lot...
For a few hours anyway.

Here come the hits on your profile. You might as well have thrown a bloody steak into a pit of alligators . . .

aphexcoil: Dr_Phil_Winfrey: Sage advice to all:
Get a dog

Dog's die.

okay, get a robot dog

/why do I have to think of everything?

I usually start a list right from the beginning of the things she does that are annoying. I then read over teh list every morning when I wake up. And when she starts to break up with me I recite the list of about 200+ things and it makes them feel like crap. Plus all the things you are saying are true. And when you recite your list without stopping and without repeating anything it is amazing! Then it looks like you broke up with them.

/it's a little tip I learned from a book called, "the a$@holes guide to handling women"
//works everytime

Women are like parking spaces-
All the good ones are taken and the rest are handi-capped.

fdlgrl: aphexcoil: Yeah but 22 years ago I was 19.

Yeah, and 22 years from now you'll be 63. Who's to say you won't be a much different person again?

I just don't understand why people who have been married for 10+ years would even bother with a divorce. If you've learned to live and grow for that long, it seems like divorce is just an easy way out. I mean, you say "I do" and "forever" for important reasons during marriage. To rely on divorce because a marriage becomes inconvient just destroys the entire institution of marriage and the reasons for wanting to stick it out for life with someone.

I guess that's what they call "unconditional love," and it appears to be something that most couples never achieve.

Lollipop165: I'd just like to add that while I agree that in marriage, the "romance" is temporary, the bond that you've created with your partner is not. IMHO, marriage is not only about being all mushy in love (which is what most people expect) but also about vowing to work together as a team to create a future and build some sort of a family. This work together is what creates your bond, so that after the "mushy love" and sexual attraction has faded, you still have a much stronger relationship.

Wow. You sound like a kind and understanding person. When I dumped my girlfriend I threw all her stuff and her queen sized waterbed out my second story window. But your way is good too.

Pair-o-Dice: Women are like parking spaces-
All the good ones are taken and the rest are handi-capped.

Yeah, and the rich guys get to double park.

"I'm a bit disappointed folks, some love, some loose, most do NOT get over it."

Well, you got the "loose" part right.

"Love will always end in sorrow"

just don't understand why people who have been married for 10+ years would even bother with a divorce. If you've learned to live and grow for that long, it seems like divorce is just an easy way out.

He cheated on me. That's all. But as mentioned earlier, it's a soul-crushing feeling that someone you trusted so much can betray you like that. For a year he had an affair and when The Other Woman told me the truth, I packed my car and left. I'll also mention for the sake of the misogynists on Fark that I didn't take any matrimony or half of the three houses we owned or half his 401K or anything. Our divorce papers were one and a half pages.

joebahoe: I broke up with a girl I dated for over a year. I really didn't even like her, just the sex and having someone to go to the movies with. She ended up breaking up with me. I was more upset about having to change my daily routine than not dating her.


Just happened to me as well except I was the one that ended it. Relationship was just over a year old. She wasn't anything special as looks go but she loved to cook (though she always made a big mess with the prep work) and clean (though I keep things cleaner than she ever did).

She couldn't budget money even if her life depended on it (and was nearly evicted many times...in fact is in the process of being evicted since she missed her rent for the last two months) so I was concerned that if I decided to marry her, she would spend every damn dime I had and not be concerned that we couldn't make the morgage.

She also turned out to have a very mild form of Bipolar disorder, and had no spunk or independence. (Always agreed with me or conceeded to any point)

Finally decided it was time to move on about three weeks ago but she drops by to knock on my door daily, then hangs out with friends nearby. Also instead of paying down her rent with paychecks, she goes out and buys computer books or stuff like that, and leaves it with a little note at my door.

I'm about ready to get a farking restraining order.

fdlgrl: just don't understand why people who have been married for 10+ years would even bother with a divorce. If you've learned to live and grow for that long, it seems like divorce is just an easy way out.

He cheated on me. That's all. But as mentioned earlier, it's a soul-crushing feeling that someone you trusted so much can betray you like that. For a year he had an affair and when The Other Woman told me the truth, I packed my car and left. I'll also mention for the sake of the misogynists on Fark that I didn't take any matrimony or half of the three houses we owned or half his 401K or anything. Our divorce papers were one and a half pages.

Well that does suck. Unfortunately it just reinforces my already jaded views on love and the possibility of fruitful long-term commitements.

fdlgrl: He cheated on me. That's all. But as mentioned earlier, it's a soul-crushing feeling that someone you trusted so much can betray you like that. For a year he had an affair and when The Other Woman told me the truth, I packed my car and left. I'll also mention for the sake of the misogynists on Fark that I didn't take any matrimony or half of the three houses we owned or half his 401K or anything. Our divorce papers were one and a half pages.

I hope you mean "Alimony".

As I said earlier, infidelity is emotional herpes. You may never get over the feeling of betrayal, are constantly on the lookout for it in the future, and have to discuss it with any potential partner so that they understand.

I'm glad there are women like you out there.

Bschott007: She also turned out to have a very mild form of Bipolar disorder

This is a BIG RED WARNING SIGN in any relationship. BiPolar people are very difficult to have a relationship with.

fdlgrl
...misogynists...

But that is such a blanket term. Can't we just hate a few of them
without hating all of them?

misanthropic1: So would most married people, doesn't change the statistics...

/best of luck though

The lifestyle of relationship my wife and I have, really does place us outside those statistics you mention.

Trust me, when the woman who loves you actively seeks out another woman to watch you with her you know you've found true love.

I vastly underestimated how difficult my last breakup would be.

And I got over it.

But if you're still not over a breakup, you have my sympathies.

It sucks. Hard. And nothing I can say about how much better I feel nowwill make it any better.

Hang in there.

Winterstar

This is a BIG RED WARNING SIGN in any relationship. BiPolar people are very difficult to have a relationship with.

true, but you simply won't find a better woman in the sack. just saying.

Winterstar: Yes. I met alimony. It's still icky to think about. Thanks very much.

aphexcoil: I was jaded for a long time. Hence the no relationship status for so long. If things don't work out with my current sweetheart, I'll try to remember to look you up just to say you were right. :)

Not taking anything in a divorce is good for you, but I worked for 20 years with my ex and our property was OUR property. I would never in a million years have let him have everything. My life is not some lifetime movie. I work hard (when I'm not playing on fark :) ) and I'll be damned if he was going to divorce me for whatever lame reason he had at the time AND get our property. Hell no.

And I did think it was forever. Trust me. I took my marriage vows seriously and faithfully.

Now I have no desire for any kind of relationship. Just shut up and lets roll ya know. Jaded is fine but broke is not. Love is for the weak.

Wow..I must really sound like a divorced woman! :D

Breaking up is hard.

Every time I break up with a girlfriend the only one happy about it is my wife

Winterstar: fark fark fark. I meant "meant" not met. Jeesh.

Links: Breaking up has always been a breeze for me. It's finding a significantly better replacement that's been proving difficult.

Thats the truth - getting rid of her is nothing that 2-15 beers can't solve - but after 15 beers, the replacements are questionable at best

fdlgrl: just don't understand why people who have been married for 10+ years would even bother with a divorce. If you've learned to live and grow for that long, it seems like divorce is just an easy way out.

He cheated on me. That's all. But as mentioned earlier, it's a soul-crushing feeling that someone you trusted so much can betray you like that. For a year he had an affair and when The Other Woman told me the truth, I packed my car and left. I'll also mention for the sake of the misogynists on Fark that I didn't take any matrimony or half of the three houses we owned or half his 401K or anything. Our divorce papers were one and a half pages.


I call bullshait!!...my ex gets over half my monthly income and she was the one stepin out...I've know a few women scorned, and they took their ex's for all they were worth plus some more...You either had a bad attorney or are not telling everything.

fdlgrl
I was jaded for a long time. Hence the no relationship status for so long. If things don't work out with my current sweetheart, I'll try to remember to look you up just to say you were right. :)

Don't do it! If you are comfortable alone with no serious relationship, live with it. Otherwise you just fall on your face again and feel ten times worse than before. Find some young buck to nail here and there and be happy alone.


//Sorry, a little hateful this morning. Girlfriend left...

I'll be damned if he was going to divorce me for whatever lame reason he had at the time AND get our property. Hell no.

I don't blame you a bit. That property DOES belong to both of you and it was, in a lot of ways, stupid for me not to take what was mine- but at the same time, I just didn't want to fight. And it means that today I have the high moral ground since my ex didn't even offer to give me what was mine.

Dice
But (misogyny) is such a blanket term. Can't we just hate a few of them without hating all of them?

Temporal hair-splitting. You hate a few of them now, the rest you don't hate... yet.

/live and learn

boomaze: fdlgrl
I was jaded for a long time. Hence the no relationship status for so long. If things don't work out with my current sweetheart, I'll try to remember to look you up just to say you were right. :)

Don't do it! If you are comfortable alone with no serious relationship, live with it. Otherwise you just fall on your face again and feel ten times worse than before. Find some young buck to nail here and there and be happy alone.


//Sorry, a little hateful this morning. Girlfriend left...

... and now just arrived!

/sorry

boomaze: Very funny! I mean, about your advice, not your woes. I'm very sorry for your woes.

Curly Howard: fdlgrl: just don't understand why people who have been married for 10+ years would even bother with a divorce. If you've learned to live and grow for that long, it seems like divorce is just an easy way out.

He cheated on me. That's all. But as mentioned earlier, it's a soul-crushing feeling that someone you trusted so much can betray you like that. For a year he had an affair and when The Other Woman told me the truth, I packed my car and left. I'll also mention for the sake of the misogynists on Fark that I didn't take any matrimony or half of the three houses we owned or half his 401K or anything. Our divorce papers were one and a half pages.


I call bullshait!!...my ex gets over half my monthly income and she was the one stepin out...I've know a few women scorned, and they took their ex's for all they were worth plus some more...You either had a bad attorney or are not telling everything.

Or maybe you had a bad lawyer
Or maybe she didnt try for anything either.