Of course it's the man's fault. Damn them working too much and wanting to relax when the come home.

There is an amazing amount of misandry in this article for it to be written by a man.

just think much more hookers that would buy, and they don't complain when you are 20lbs overwieght

is this news to anyone?

Hell, most family men I know would take a 50% pay cut to spend a little less time with their families. Wives, in particular.

Isn't that what work is for? To avoid your family?

"You know, Mr. Burns, you're the richest guy I know - way richer than Lenny."

"Oh, yes. But I'd trade it all for a little more."

I don't need to lose 20lbs and have no children, so gimme my money.

If you read between the lines, it sounds to me like Mr. Writer is a little upset at his partner..

"But Trevor, you said you would be home before CSI, now the chardonnay is warm."

In fact, 35 percent of men in my Men, Love & Sex survey say that a 50-percent raise would be the one-time life boost that would make them feel the best-beating out both losing 20 pounds (29 percent) and working less to spend more time with the family (11 percent). Ouch.

Am I the only one who thinks those numbers are amazingly close? Hell, when I think about how hard I would have to work to make 50% more then I do now compared to how hard I would have to work to lose 20 lbs (assuming I had 20 lbs to drop) I would take the 50% more in a heartbeat.

If nothing else, I could pay for lypo in a few months with just the raise then pocket the rest.

I believe this is one of those "but 80% of people lie when taking a survey" surveys.

you could retire quicker as well.. tho I would take a 50% pay raise at a job I can work part that at :P Win/Win

Duh. With a 50% raise most men could get a better chick.

My Red Squirrel like ESP says there will be a photo of a fat ass at the pool with a hottie in

3....

2...

1..

Lose the 20lbs and you will make more money - maybe even 50% more.

Fat people don't get paid as much. Appearance bias is the largest bias in the developed world.

/quick and dirty.
//why hasnt anyone done this yet?

I'd give you 50% of your salary to spend time with my family for me.

This inane criticism always bothers me. Men can be all sorts of screw-ups in numerous ways... but one of their greatest virtues, is that most men work hard and support their families.

And one of the worst social problems in the US today is that fraction of men who don't. Men who slog through work, every day, not because it's fun, not because it's emotionally rewarding, but because they are damn well going to feed their family, should be recognized for the good they do.

And if they are putting in sixty hours a week, instead of forty, so that they can get their sons and daughter through college, they should not be condemned. They should be lauded.

It's almost heroic, but it's silly to use that word to describe something that hundreds of millions of men do every day.

I'd give you 50% of my family for a 20% raise while maintaining the same weight.

Yeah, but, you haven't met their families. (badumpshush)

Toonol : Ever see that "Married with Children" episode 0302?

"AL- So you think I'm a loser? Just because I have a stinkin' job that I hate? A
family that doesn't respect me? A whole city that curses the day I was born?
Well, that may mean "loser" to you, but let me tell you something. Every
morning when I wake up I know it's not going to be any better until I go back
to sleep again. So I get up, have my watered down Tang and still-frozen
pop tart, get in my car with no upholstery, no gas and six more payments, to
fight traffic just for the privilege of putting cheap shoes on the cloven
hooves of people like you. I'll never play football like I thought I would.
I'll never know the touch of a beautiful woman. And I'll never again know the
joy of driving without a bag on my head. But I'm not a loser. 'Cause despite it
all, me and every other guy who will never be what he wanted to be, are still
out there being what we don't wanna be, forty hours a week for life. And the
fact that I haven't put a gun in my mouth, you pudding of a woman... makes me
a winner!
"

Hey!! Every guy who has ever gotten into a tiff with his wife over how much time he spends at work, and finds himself saying "I do it to support our family!" is completely missing the picture.


I feel confident in saying that, because I have been in the above situation myself. And I absolutely love my job (that's part of my problem...) Make time for your family. There will ALWAYS be more than enough work/overtime/whatever. The key is finding out how much you can fob off on someone else and what stuff is actually super-critical.

But you really need to swing that work/life balance.

/don't let success make a failure of your home!
//And don't let Sinead O'Connor quotes turn you off! ;)

I'm not working my ass into an early grave so some woman can take my kids, house and car.

No sir.

Tired of being the host organism.

/cue "born free" theme

Men who slog through work, every day, not because it's fun, not because it's emotionally rewarding, but because they are damn well going to feed their family, should be recognized for the good they do.

I think anyone who does that should be lauded, no matter if they're male or female.

I had two job offers in the past week.

Job A was a reassignment at the place I'd been temping at. The pay is the same for now, but there will be a decent raise when I get hired full time.

Job B was for several thousand more, and I turned it down.

Job A:
15 minute commute
carpool with my wife
40 hour work week, 8-4:30
uses my degree
growing industry
good cafeteria

Job B:
1 hour commute
45 hour work week, hours vary from 6am-6pm
some weekends required
industry in the beginning of a slump
city wage tax

Oh, and if I lost 20 lbs, they'd put me in the hospital with a feeding tube.

And the obvious? Don't get married you stupid breeders. Geesh. It's simple - women are like cell phone plans, new every two!

Back off ladies, TotallyFarkedDude is all mine.

So is this going to be todays Misandry thread?

mekkab

That sounds fine until your family is unable to grasp the cognitive dissonance of "no, you can't have a new sofa/praystation/bathroom/prom-dress/etc, since you wanted me around to be a father".

It's a lose/lose situation. You're either a bad father or a bad provider.

Anyone else notice the URL for the story?

http//health.yahoo.com/experts/menlovesex/10734/why-do-men-spend-so-much-time -at-their-jobs


Also, this story was absurd. First to assume that all men want to lose weight, second to assume that a HUGE pay raise is somehow equivalent to the weight loss that a high school wrestler accomplishes in 1 week before the season starts.

She says to him: If you gave me the same amount of attention as you give your boss, we'd be topside on the Love Boat rather than ballast in the Titanic.

Maybe my Aaron-Spelling-fu ain't what it used to be, but wasn't the Love Boat full of people whose relationships are farked up?

Diamonds are a girl's best friend. How will those diamonds be paid for? That's right, the guy has to spend more time at work.

That's a pretty poor survey. Of course the raise will win out. It's the least achievable of the three options.

You can always lose 20 pounds with some will power and a reasonable exercise routine.

A 50% raise is tough to come by, unless you get a huge promotion or jump ship to another company, which might involve moving to a new town. And, that 50% raise will allow you to work a bit less, thereby spending more time with your family in exchange.

Hagbardr: I had two job offers in the past week.

Job A was a reassignment at the place I'd been temping at. The pay is the same for now, but there will be a decent raise when I get hired full time.

Job B was for several thousand more, and I turned it down.

Job A:
15 minute commute
carpool with my wife
40 hour work week, 8-4:30
uses my degree
growing industry
good cafeteria

Job B:
1 hour commute
45 hour work week, hours vary from 6am-6pm
some weekends required
industry in the beginning of a slump
city wage tax

Don't go considering yourself some kind of selfless hero, there. Pretty much anyone outside a money-hungry d-bag would have made the same choice.

Dubya's_Coke_Dealer: And the
fact that I haven't put a gun in my mouth, you pudding of a woman... makes me a winner!

One of my favoritist Bundy quotes ever :)

/woooaaaaaah, Bundy!

EggbertShootsFire
Hai

Pxtl

It's a lose/lose situation. You're either a bad father or a bad provider.



Dude - quit reading my mind!

"Mysteries of the Sexes Explained". Finally.

I'd take the 50% raise over the other choices as well.

EggbertShootsFire

Oh stop it you kidder.

/I would...

further evidence that if there's a gender out there getting screwed, it ain't the one with the boobs.

She says to him: If you gave me the same amount of attention as you give your boss, we'd be topside on the Love Boat rather than ballast in the Titanic.


Yeah maybe if you farked me as much as my boss/client/coworkers fark me then maybe I would want to spend more time at home.

Ladies men are simple creatures and there are three F's to any relationship. farking, Food, and Finances in that order.
fark your man at least thrice a week, feed them well and don't screw up the finances and you too will have a long and happy relationship.

If I earned 50% more, I'd be in a happier state, would consider doing something good for myself and lose that 20 lbs and would be less crabby making the time with my wife and such more enjoyable and therefore would do it more.

Nuff said

Galen_Rasputin

Yeah maybe if you farked me as much as my boss/client/coworkers fark me then maybe I would want to spend more time at home.

Ladies men are simple creatures and there are three F's to any relationship. farking, Food, and Finances in that order.
fark your man at least thrice a week, feed them well and don't screw up the finances and you too will have a long and happy relationship.

Ladies - I apologise on behalf of the cretin.

meekychuppet
Ladies - I apologise on behalf of the cretin.


Someone's a little presumptuous and pretentious.