Ringshadow: So, is it easy for a white chick to pick up an Asian dude over there or does it only work the other way around? Inquiring minds, all that.

/wo hui shuo Zhongwin
//barely


You're out of luck. Expat western women have an infamously tough time dating in the pac rim countries. Here's a link describing your fate.

squadron499: That said, most of them do have an agenda of one kind or another. (Just like us)

Do military there know the word "amejo"? Girls out to get/date Americans (often military members, around bases)?

アメ女, for the curious.

Awesome, Gawdzilla, I got a good chuckle.

itazurakko: squadron499: That said, most of them do have an agenda of one kind or another. (Just like us)

Do military there know the word "amejo"? Girls out to get/date Americans (often military members, around bases)?

アメ女, for the curious.

I don't know. I didn't care what they called me, as long as they called me. I was there 4 times. Twice in Sasebo and twice in Yokosuka. About a month all together. I had two goals in life. One was getting drunk. You can guess the other.

I'm sure many of the military folks do. My son was on the Kitty Hawk for 3 years and spent much time out in "The Honch" playing in his band.

I'll ask him next time I talk to him. I do know for a fact he managed to spend many a night after gigs with the fine stuff.

K/H D

<b><a target="_blank" href="http://www.fark.com/cgi/comments.pl?IDLink=4519318&IDComment=52869201#c528 69201">mfaby</a>:</b> <i>Also the Nipon word for foreigner is 'ganjin' (sp?) which transtates LITERALLY as 'barbarian'; not immigrant, not foreigner, not visitor but barbarian. That should give you an idea of their cultural background.</i>

The word is "gaijin". Which quite LITERALLY means "person from outside". The most literal single word in English would be outsider, or maybe foreigner.

The fact that you make such inflammatory statements in complete ignorance and without even knowing how to spell it gives me an idea of your cultural background.

/lived here 16 years
//it's no panacea.

lindseyp: <b><a target="_blank" href="http://www.fark.com/cgi/comments.pl?IDLink=4519318&IDComment=52869201#c528 69201">mfaby</a>:</b> <i>Also the Nipon word for foreigner is 'ganjin' (sp?) which transtates LITERALLY as 'barbarian'; not immigrant, not foreigner, not visitor but barbarian. That should give you an idea of their cultural background.</i>

The word is "gaijin". Which quite LITERALLY means "person from outside". The most literal single word in English would be outsider, or maybe foreigner.

The fact that you make such inflammatory statements in complete ignorance and without even knowing how to spell it gives me an idea of your cultural background.

/lived here 16 years
//it's no panacea.

Your post looks inelegant.

I knew an American guy who went over to Japan for a year and actually didn't care much for Japanese women because all the ones he met would just go along with anything he said or did, and laugh nervously all the time. He actually preferred women who had opinions of their own and could argue with him.

Egalitarian: I knew an American guy who went over to Japan for a year and actually didn't care much for Japanese women because all the ones he met would just go along with anything he said or did...

I wouldn't necessarily want to date someone like that, but I can certainly see how that would be a useful personality trait for a night or three...

Ringshadow: So, is it easy for a white chick to pick up an Asian dude over there or does it only work the other way around? Inquiring minds, all that.


If you don`t act like an overbearing, stereotypical "western woman"... Then it really isn`t that hard at all. Taking care of yourself and your body also doesn`t hurt either.
The thing is, it seems like most of the western women in Japan have some kind of weird complex and see Japanese women as horrific evil rivals. Not to mention as an affront to feminism, blah blah blah. If you think that it`s insulting to be expected to make a dinner, then yeah - you`ll probably have some trouble. And if you see the typical Japanese woman`s willingness to do so as disgusting, then your life is going to suck and you`ll likely go insane.

/Had no trouble finding boyfriends.
//Married the best of them.
///Still married to him, and living in Japan 10 years later...

Urinal Gum: Can we get the analogous United States site?

Link (new window)

Not all US but it is fun.

itazurakko:
More than that though, I've long wondered just what is going on in the "Best Picture Evar" pic with the Oompa-Loompa and person on the stretcher with what looks like the biggest FUPA ever or some oddly misplaced buttocks.

Is there a synopsis? Some crazy con gone wrong? Vegas? Inquiring minds wanna know...

I needed to know, too, so I googled "bunnies oompa loompa ambulance" and came up with this on a long-ass, hard-to-load photo page:

In his latest stunt, promoter Jeff Beacher, dressed a Big Britney, "collapsed" at Jet nightclub at The Mirage on Monday and was wheeled to an awaiting ambulance. Wee Matt, one of Beacher's Oompa Loompas, is holding Beacher's hand. As for the guys in the rabbit suits? Need we say staged? The word is Big Britney is pregnant and expecting on New Year's Eve.

dead_dangler: Yum

Knew a Japanese guy that was dating a German girl.

ironrat: lindseyp: <b><a target="_blank" href="http://www.fark.com/cgi/comments.pl?IDLink=4519318&IDComment=52869201#c528 69201">mfaby</a>:</b> <i>Also the Nipon word for foreigner is 'ganjin' (sp?) which transtates LITERALLY as 'barbarian'; not immigrant, not foreigner, not visitor but barbarian. That should give you an idea of their cultural background.</i>

The word is "gaijin". Which quite LITERALLY means "person from outside". The most literal single word in English would be outsider, or maybe foreigner.

The fact that you make such inflammatory statements in complete ignorance and without even knowing how to spell it gives me an idea of your cultural background.

/lived here 16 years
//it's no panacea.

Your post looks inelegant.

Indeed it did.
ouch.

Anyone else notice that the lines of girls have shoes of varying heels to make their heights uniform? That's pretty hardcore.

Tamyu: Ringshadow: So, is it easy for a white chick to pick up an Asian dude over there or does it only work the other way around? Inquiring minds, all that.


If you don`t act like an overbearing, stereotypical "western woman"... Then it really isn`t that hard at all. Taking care of yourself and your body also doesn`t hurt either.
The thing is, it seems like most of the western women in Japan have some kind of weird complex and see Japanese women as horrific evil rivals. Not to mention as an affront to feminism, blah blah blah. If you think that it`s insulting to be expected to make a dinner, then yeah - you`ll probably have some trouble. And if you see the typical Japanese woman`s willingness to do so as disgusting, then your life is going to suck and you`ll likely go insane.
/Had no trouble finding boyfriends.
//Married the best of them.
///Still married to him, and living in Japan 10 years later...


90% of the Western female population is currently screeching at you in apoplectic rage.

Tamyu: If you don`t act like an overbearing, stereotypical "western woman"... Then it really isn`t that hard at all. ...

... If you think that it`s insulting to be expected to make a dinner, then yeah - you`ll probably have some trouble. And if you see the typical Japanese woman`s willingness to do so as disgusting, then your life is going to suck and you`ll likely go insane.


I don't think it is fair to call "stereotypical western women" overbearing any more than it is fair to call Japanese men misogynists or sexist. You make it sound like western women are totally unreasonable for disliking the expectation of being domestic.

The fact is just that western women are raised to consider themselves more independent and strong-willed, and this results in personality traits that are unfamiliar and unexpected for your typical Japanese male. Culture clash, plain and simple; it isn't anyone's fault, nor is it due to anyone being obstinate, difficult, or overbearing. Western women are simply raised with different expectations than Japanese women (or most other women in "the east"), and likewise, Japanese men expect different things of women than us guys in the west do.

Gawdzila: I don't think it is fair to call "stereotypical western women" overbearing any more than it is fair to call Japanese men misogynists or sexist. You make it sound like western women are totally unreasonable for disliking the expectation of being domestic.

The fact is just that western women are raised to consider themselves more independent and strong-willed, and this results in personality traits that are unfamiliar and unexpected for your typical Japanese male. Culture clash, plain and simple; it isn't anyone's fault, nor is it due to anyone being obstinate, difficult, or overbearing. Western women are simply raised with different expectations than Japanese women (or most other women in "the east"), and likewise, Japanese men expect different things of women than us guys in the west do.

You`re right, to a point. The thing is when taken out of the "Western" environment, a lot of women seem to resort to being as stereotypically western as they can pull off. I`ve seen more than one woman pour a bottle of beer on a man who expected her to pour it for him, declaring that a western woman was "better than that!" etc...
Basically, what I wanted to say (and could have found a much better and more clear way of saying it - but followed the flow...) is that if you`re incapable of understanding and following the culture, you will have trouble. It`s not unreasonable to have western expectations... But it is unreasonable to expect them in Japan. Different country, different culture, and all that. Too many people apply their own cultural values to that of another country, and read something into things that just aren`t there.

But really, I meant it about going insane if you find that part of Japanese culture disgusting. It happens. WAY too often. I`ve seen women get to the point where if a woman does ANYTHING for a man, they`re retching and spewing insults at both parties.

Tamyu: But really, I meant it about going insane if you find that part of Japanese culture disgusting. It happens. WAY too often. I`ve seen women get to the point where if a woman does ANYTHING for a man, they`re retching and spewing insults at both parties.

I'm certain that's true.
I'd imagine that a woman who grows up in a place where women are encouraged to be strongly independent would, if she were there for a while, get frustrated at (and sick of) a cultural attitude that she feels is oppressive and demeaning. Not that it is justified, but I see why it happens.

Been to Japan twice, would love to go back. The girls there are definitely beautiful. Eye candy everywhere and lots of short, short skirts even in winter. Definitely the style there, and I wasn't complaining!

I'd say that what most people here have posted in regards to the women is true. If you're looking to score, it shouldn't be too hard to find the Japanese girls willing to go that route. Not really my style, so I never tried during either trip. (I was more interested in the actual travel and getting to see/do stuff during my brief time there.) If you can learn a little Japanese, the people in general will be super friendly to you (moreso than usual since they're typically very polite).

I have heard that a lot of Japanese girls aren't exactly adventurous bed, though, so if that's your bag you could be disappointed. Just something I heard from a few English teachers there...

Jeff73: Ringshadow: So, is it easy for a white chick to pick up an Asian dude over there or does it only work the other way around? Inquiring minds, all that.

/wo hui shuo Zhongwin
//barely


You're out of luck. Expat western women have an infamously tough time dating in the pac rim countries. Here's a link describing your fate.

That's fairly true, though if they make it known that they're not adverse to doing things a lot of Japanese girls don't (see previous point above the quote), then they'll have a lot more luck I think...

Richard in a Box: I have heard that a lot of Japanese girls aren't exactly adventurous bed, though, so if that's your bag you could be disappointed. Just something I heard from a few English teachers there...

Depends on the girl. My last girlfriend in Japan was rather adventurous. I think the trick is to avoid the Roppongi girls that are just using white guys as fashion accessories (they know they are hot and know that if they put out, guys will buy them stuff, so they have no need to try). Once you get out of the "just shag any hot japanese chick you can" mind set, you can find those you might be a bit more sexually compatible with. It helps to learn some Japanese and get of the beaten path a bit.

In my experience in Japan, girls tended to be a bit more open and nonchalant about sex than in many other places. So, you can find plenty of good sex with a little bit of patience and discretion.

Rip Dashrock: I would like to order one of these
Does anyone have a web address?

www.orient-doll.com (new window) (pops, NSFW)

best thread ever

Japanese culture perfectly embodies what it's like to go insane.

It's usually repetitive, and more often than not it's boring, but every once in a while, you get something like the pictures in this thread. God bless them for it.