Not that I'm blaming the wife or anything, but honestly, what do you think happens when one party in a relationship is not longer interested in sex? (as she stated)

At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. If a relationship no longer exists, people will seek out that intimacy somewhere else.

There is so much WRONG with that article. Wrong by all parties involved. Good grief.

zymosan: At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship.

Well, that and nagging.

zymosan: Not that I'm blaming the wife or anything, but honestly, what do you think happens when one party in a relationship is not longer interested in sex? (as she stated)

At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. If a relationship no longer exists, people will seek out that intimacy somewhere else.

Kinda what I was thinking after reading the article following:

"Porn offered Joe a "relationship" with zero emotional exposure. I was finally forced to see our marriage and our sex life for what it had become: a sham. For the past few years, Joe had been constantly pressuring me for sex. If I objected, he would say, "But you're my wife," and continue. When I did consent, he'd treat me roughly and wouldn't stop, even after I'd protest and push him away. Then, when he began suffering from impotence, he blamed me."

I don't know folks, I'm getting a scent of shenanigans here:

I called AOL to separate my email address from our joint account. When the customer service rep asked me why, I burst into tears.

"Listen to me," the wise voice said, "I get calls from nice women like you all week long. Here's what I'm going to do. I'll change the password on your husband's account and give it to you. You read his mail and see what he's been up to. If he's telling you the truth, fine, go back to him. But if he isn't, leave the jerk."

So some AOL douche was willing to lose his job for a stranger on the phone? I seriously doubt that. The whole piece reads like fiction.
I say that, not believing this sort of thing doesn't happen, but the whole tone is wrong somehow.
It's like someone writing what they feel someone would say in that situation.

timujin: So some AOL douche was willing to lose his job for a stranger on the phone? I seriously doubt that. The whole piece reads like fiction.

People still use AOL?

I have neither AOL nor a wife, but if my ISP changed my password at the request of someone who's not on the account, I'd be more than a little bit pissed.

timujin: So some AOL douche was willing to lose his job for a stranger on the phone?

If she was paying the bill, I think they'd give her pwords to any accounts she was paying for.

lol, fortunately the in-laws did not realize ashleymadison isn't a porn site.

Epsilon: I have neither AOL nor a wife, but if my ISP changed my password at the request of someone who's not on the account, I'd be more than a little bit pissed.

I would be suing everyone in sight. Specifically, AOL for seven-digits-worth of Emotional Damages and the cost of alimony appreciated at a yearly IR of 8.5% over the course of 30 years, and every cent the phone monkey that changed said password is worth.

/That's gotta be a violation of the service agreement on AOL's end

Who TF still uses AOL?

zymosan: Not that I'm blaming the wife or anything, but honestly, what do you think happens when one party in a relationship is not longer interested in sex? (as she stated)

At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. If a relationship no longer exists, people will seek out that intimacy somewhere else.

tell old people married for 50+ years that

The wife is the creepy one in that house

AOL's still around?

I have to call shenanigans.

This gets so old. Woman don't put out for their husbands and cry they are the victim when there husbands fool around.

I was on a date with the girl the other day and she told me she divorced her husband because he always bugged her for sex. I got up and left the table and RAN.

/And i bet most of the people here still have an AIM account and therefore still use AOL

post above was suppose to start with a "

sigh.... never-effin-mind

/curse you html

Listerine: zymosan: Not that I'm blaming the wife or anything, but honestly, what do you think happens when one party in a relationship is not longer interested in sex? (as she stated)

At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. If a relationship no longer exists, people will seek out that intimacy somewhere else.

tell old people married for 50+ years that

I have some news for you.

Gramps and grampma are still banging away at any chance. It's one thing when physical problems start cropping up that limits sex. It's another thing for when healthy 30 or 40 year old people just turn the sex switch off and expect their partner to be okay with that.


She made it sound like she was doing him this huge favor having sex with him sometime and then wonders why he started looking elsewhere for it.

Nothing gets a guy's libido going than a visit to the in-laws.

The next day, out of the blue, he said something I'd been waiting years to hear: He was ready to have another baby. During the week that followed, the sting of my parents' accusations faded. They could say whatever they wanted, but obviously Joe was a committed family man.

Lady, he's knocking you up to give you a distraction and shut your mouth.

Women need to realize that after being married a couple of years that if they want continued emotional connections with their husbands they need to give up the goods more often. It works both ways. You want flowers, cuddling, and compliments. Men want pussy, blowjobs, and a good meal. Find common ground on all if these and you will have a successful marriage.

/I should know I am already on my second successful marriage.

Listerine: zymosan: Not that I'm blaming the wife or anything, but honestly, what do you think happens when one party in a relationship is not longer interested in sex? (as she stated)

At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. If a relationship no longer exists, people will seek out that intimacy somewhere else.

tell old people married for 50+ years that

From 1971 to 2000 the proportion of 70-year-olds reporting sexual intercourse increased, although interestingly, more married men say they are having sex than married women. Among married men, 68 percent were having sex, compared to 52 percent in 1971. Among married women, 56 percent were having sex, compared to 38 percent in the 1970s.


Sexual activity also has increased for unmarried seniors. Among the single, 54 percent of the men and 12 percent of the women reported having sex, up from 30 percent of men and less than 1 percent of women in the 1970s.

Among those who were sexually active, more than one in four seniors in 2000 reported having sex once or more a week, compared to only about 10 percent in the 1970s.

rrost123: /And i bet most of the people here still have an AIM account and therefore still use AOL

Did people ever have AIM accounts?

(Ex)wife-like typing detected.

So, what's the husband's TF name?

These things piss me off so much. Men are going to look at porn. Get the fark over it.

The idea that pornography even resembles infidelity is insulting and ridiculous.

Fark her. I hope this guy lawyers up big time.

TFA is nothing more than bogus textual "redemption porn" for christians.

There's porn on the internet?

Total Fabrication.

Buying it.

I'm not.

Bunnyhat: Listerine: zymosan: Not that I'm blaming the wife or anything, but honestly, what do you think happens when one party in a relationship is not longer interested in sex? (as she stated)

At the core, physical intimacy is really the only thing that separates a relationship from a friendship. If a relationship no longer exists, people will seek out that intimacy somewhere else.

tell old people married for 50+ years that

I have some news for you.

Gramps and grampma are still banging away at any chance. It's one thing when physical problems start cropping up that limits sex. It's another thing for when healthy 30 or 40 year old people just turn the sex switch off and expect their partner to be okay with that.


She made it sound like she was doing him this huge favor having sex with him sometime and then wonders why he started looking elsewhere for it.

All I'm saying is if that's all that holds your marriage together, you didn't have one in the first place

obviously it's important.

It's funny that TFA implies that only men engage in this sort of behavior.

If this is real, it is 100% the woman's fault. There should be a clause in any maraige contract that says if a woman turns into a frigid biatch after marrying her/ turns off the sex then you get the option of free cheating for life or if she divorces you she gets nothing.

Unilateral decisions regarding the frequency and nature of the sex you have with your partner rarely turn out as expected.

I weighed 30 pounds more than I had when we got married. And working part-time while caring for our son often left me tired and stressed.

Ya think?

She sounds fat.

Skimming the last page of the article:

At first I blamed myself. I weighed 30 pounds more than I had when we got married.

...

I hired a divorce attorney. [...] I lost 20 pounds in a matter of weeks.

I helped my neighbor recently. I'll try to make this brief as I know we have short attention spans.

Her DSL "modem" burnt out.
Verizon sold the area to Fairpoint.
I called on her behalf later.
I called from MY house on my CELL phone.
I am not on her account by any means nor am I a Fairpoint customer or anything.
I was never asked who I was.
I asked if they had a dial-up number to use in the interim.
They said yes.
They gave me said number.
I asked if the username was the same.
They said yes.
I asked if the password was the same.
They said yes.
They then TOLD me the password, as in specifically.
I never asked for the password.
I never even indicated I wanted to know it.
I already knew it but the point is not that, it is that they TOLD me.

Stupid people get jobs too. Remember that folks. This was not that long ago either, it was (I think) a wee bit less than two months ago.

timujin:
So some AOL douche was willing to lose his job for a stranger on the phone? I seriously doubt that. The whole piece reads like fiction.

This this this.

Holy fark guys... women want more foreplay than us dry-humping their back in the morning while grunting "hey baby let's do it before we go to work". And since (luckily for you) your girl is not Jenna Jameson, she is most likely not going to suddenly agree to switch from vanilla sex to dressed-as-Batman-sadomasochistic-ATM-facials because you saw it in a porno clip on SpooTube and it turned you on. She loves you, so show some respect, and ask for that stuff a little at a time.

Women... holy christ, give us sex once in a while. Most of us crave it daily, if not more often. Even if you're tired or whatever, it wouldn't kill you to give us a quickie to shut us up. We want to have sex with you because we love you, in spite of the 30 lb of baby weight, in spite of your "mom jeans", and in spite of the fact that you made us clean the eavestroughs in the middle of a thunderstorm.

/gross generalizations

tshetter: From 1971 to 2000 the proportion of 70-year-olds reporting sexual intercourse increased, although interestingly, more married men say they are having sex than married women. Among married men, 68 percent were having sex, compared to 52 percent in 1971. Among married women, 56 percent were having sex, compared to 38 percent in the 1970s.

This may also explain spontaneous combustion. Without lube, that must be like starting a fire with a bow drill.

It's all the woman's fault.

I'm a fat married woman who refuses to have sex with my husband and certainly won't do anything other than lay there and let him pump away.

After years of this, I find my husband has turned to porn!

I totally blame COMPUTERS for this. Yeah, the fact that I'm a horrible wife who gave no consideration to my husband's needs has NOTHING to do with this. COMPUTERS ARE EVIL!.

"After three months of indecision, I hired a divorce attorney. As we scheduled court dates, I found myself sinking into despair. I lost 20 pounds in a matter of weeks. I was embarrassed to think what friends were whispering behind my back. I worried hurtful gossip would get back to my son. I was haunted by the dark and desperate pictures I had seen while tracing Joe's porn path, but I had no one to talk to about it. Confiding such details, even to friends, felt wrong, so I kept my pain to myself."

Analysis: She's lying or paranoid. If she didn't tell anyone about her husband's addiction, then why would she worry about the gossip?
___________________________________________________________________

"After three months of indecision, I hired a divorce attorney. As we scheduled court dates, I found myself sinking into despair. I lost 20 pounds in a matter of weeks."

Analysis: She's fat. No one can lose 20lbs in a few weeks without either being grossly overweight or needing medical attention.

___________________________________________________________________

"It's been more than a year since I stumbled upon the secret life of my soon-to-be ex-husband. Over the months, I've worked hard to make a new home for my son and myself. Even though Joe and I are getting divorced, I will be watching him for the rest of my life. I don't want our child to be a witness to his father's obsession. One thing I've learned: In the wrong hands, computers can be dangerous and destructive. But they are undeniably powerful. After all, it was a computer that finally opened my eyes and changed my life."


Analysis: This article is made up. No one actually writes like that in the first person.

hazeleyedwolff: timujin: So some AOL douche was willing to lose his job for a stranger on the phone?

If she was paying the bill, I think they'd give her pwords to any accounts she was paying for.

Yep, if the account was in her name, she can do pretty much whatever she wants.

TFA: And it's not normal to visit sites dedicated to sadomasochism and voyeurism - not just once out of curiosity, but over and over again.

Wait... what?

UnspokenVoice: I helped my neighbor recently. I'll try to make this brief as I know we have short attention spans.

Her DSL "modem" burnt out.
Verizon sold the area to Fairpoint.
I called on her behalf later.
I called from MY house on my CELL phone.
I am not on her account by any means nor am I a Fairpoint customer or anything.
I was never asked who I was.
I asked if they had a dial-up number to use in the interim.
They said yes.
They gave me said number.
I asked if the username was the same.
They said yes.
I asked if the password was the same.
They said yes.
They then TOLD me the password, as in specifically.
I never asked for the password.
I never even indicated I wanted to know it.
I already knew it but the point is not that, it is that they TOLD me.

Stupid people get jobs too. Remember that folks. This was not that long ago either, it was (I think) a wee bit less than two months ago.

I owned a dialup ISP back in the day, so I'll weigh in here:

Firstly:
Your dialup password isn't necessarly a password to anything but dialup service.

Secondly:
People are CONSTANTLY losing their passwords and calling in for them. If you do what you need to do to truly verify their identity, (basically have them come in and show you ID), you lose customers. So you verify what little you can and give them the info... otherwise your phone rep gets screamed at for half an hour by someone who most likely IS who they say they are.

Thirdly:
What you do on the internet is in no way private, unless you develop the expertise to make it so. The only person that can guarantee your privacy is you. Folks may not like it, but that's how it is.

rrost123: /And i bet most of the people here still have an AIM account and therefore still use AOL

wat

If your point is gaining access through social engineering, I have liberated more than my fair share of accounts through various means to know that AOL isn't going to do shiat about it.

If your point is that we are patrons of their product, then I for one only use Pidgin so I'm really just accessing their protocols.

People still use Protip?

Listerine: tell old people married for 50+ years that

Physical intimacy isn't just sex you know. Cuddling, holding hands, sitting in each other's arms... such small things, and when you no longer have them you start to wonder why you call this person anything but a "friend".
/talking from experience here, unfortunately.