I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

I guess I'd have to know what Champagne he was drinking to judge this guy properly.

asshatinagetawaycar: There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment.


Agreed, we all know that leads to the dark side.

The nurse was left starving and thirsty in sub-zero temperatures while attacker Justice Ngema ateChristmas dinner with his girlfriend and celebrated his birthday with Champagne, vodka and cocktails.

The man was just trying to enjoy a nice holiday meal and there's an entire article committing character assassination against him? I guess the Atheism problem is really starting to rear its ugly head.

Anybody else notice that he could get a life sentence, then at the end of the article it states that he'll be deported after being released from prison?

WTF?

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

Well put. Very well put.

I hate it when I drink too much and forget I left somebody bound and gagged in my trunk. For 10 days!

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

Lame - it would be perfectly easy - and i am not kidding - for me to dispose of the guy without any anger resentment or hatred. why it would bring a sweet smile and such joy to my heart to break the man's knee caps then smash his fingers with a hammer one by one. and i don't disrespect her either that's her choice.

/don't get mad - get even.

Wow, that's like my dream first date. :D

I Pity Da Fool!

(My age might be showing.)

Sarcastica75: Wow, that's like my dream first date. :D

You are one sick little puppy, my dear.

/fap

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment.

Sure there is: revenge.

ahhhh sounds if lifefunbutnot had a first date! good for him.

Sarcastica75 that is what I am going to do to you if we ever meet. Minus the trunk of the car of course. But the binding and gagging.....We will stick with those.

Honeymoon's over?

but... how did they find her? i want to know who to congratulate for the fine police work!

Sarcastica75: Wow, that's like my dream first date. :D

Are you the one in the trunk, or the one with the Champagne?

I would feel a strong need to shove a running chainsaw up his ass. If that means that she is a "better" person than me, so be it.

I would feel pity for him, after I take care of a little "business"

Does not approve.

pope183: asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

Lame - it would be perfectly easy - and i am not kidding - for me to dispose of the guy without any anger resentment or hatred. why it would bring a sweet smile and such joy to my heart to break the man's knee caps then smash his fingers with a hammer one by one. and i don't disrespect her either that's her choice.

/don't get mad - get even.

If you are only getting even, you are not trying hard enough.

She'd make a great Jedi

/Fear leads to anger. anger leads to hate. hate leads to your mom and your mom leads to the dark side

She sounds fat

FTFA: She said: "Praying gave me a lot of strength and when the policeman opened the boot, I was so happy my prayers had been answered."

Dipshiat. And God was away saving someone else when you got abducted in the first place?

TFA: Ngema, 35, an illegal immigrant from South Africa, also plundered the nurse's bank accounts, ransacked her home, and went on a spending spree with her money.

Ngema, please.

GungFu
FTFA: She said: "Praying gave me a lot of strength and when the policeman opened the boot, I was so happy my prayers had been answered."

Dipshiat. And God was away saving someone else when you got abducted in the first place?

Yeah. Stupid (non-existing) God. Why do bad things happen to good people?

Wah.

/runs

pope183:

Lame - it would be perfectly easy - and i am not kidding - for me to dispose of the guy without any anger resentment or hatred. why it would bring a sweet smile and such joy to my heart to break the man's knee caps then...



My teenage daughter just broke her knee cap in February, so I know I couldn't wish that on anybody.

This woman is a better woman than I.

give me doughnuts: I would feel a strong need to shove a running chainsaw up his ass. If that means that she is a "better" person than me, so be it.

This. I spent the first 3 or 4 years of my adult life feeling "pity" for other people who I thought could change for the better. After realizing that going out of your way for someone does more harm than good in some cases, my attitude about it has drastically changed over the last couple of years.

IMO, holding grudges is okay if you have a good enough reason and are able to take action against the people that fark you over. If you can't do anything about it, sometimes it's better to just let it go.

If someone stuffed me in the back of a trunk to leave me for dead, the person should be tankful if the cops get them before I do.

asshatinagetawaycar: There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment.

Sure there is! It'll help get you elected president.

asshatinagetawaycar: Caulfield
TFA: Ngema, 35, an illegal immigrant from South Africa, also plundered the nurse's bank accounts, ransacked her home, and went on a spending spree with her money.

Ngema, please.

LOL!

Oh please .......

oroku_saki: tankful if the cops get them before I do.

I meant thankful. My bad.

asshatinagetawaycar: GungFu
FTFA: She said: "Praying gave me a lot of strength and when the policeman opened the boot, I was so happy my prayers had been answered."

Dipshiat. And God was away saving someone else when you got abducted in the first place?

Yeah. Stupid (non-existing) God. Why do bad things happen to good people?

Wah.

/runs


It was the Devil's fault?

Oh, she's just engaging in a little misdirection while she trains.....

I respect the wisdom of her attitude, holding onto anger and fear will only hurt a person further and the prevention of future assaults is out of her hands.
I'm not a wise person myself and I suspect such victimization would haunt me for me a long time.
Hell, it's done damage to my blood pressure and created useless rage just reading this story.

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

9/10 - You forgot to work evolution into it

Wow, a Christian who actually practices Christianity instead of paying it lip-service. A rarity indeed.

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.


And I hope the perp finds God in jail and maybe they can hang out when he gets released. That would be so farking cool!!

groverpm: Wow, a Christian who actually practices Christianity instead of paying it lip-service. A rarity indeed.


Let's face it, if her lips were actually serviced repeatedly during the kidnapping, I think she would be less inclined to forgive.

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

Came for this. Having "pity and hope" for someone does not mean it is Stockholm syndrome, which would be if you sympathized with him. She is avoiding letting him have a negative effect on her life. GOOD FOR HER!

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment.

But there is a sort of plain, unassuming beauty in admitting your natural feelings of hostility toward them that wrong you, and then letting it go when justice is served. On the other hand, affecting a smarmy, insane compassion toward them just makes it look like you're trying to make virtue out of impotence.

FTFA: "A brave nurse..."

And could we please stop ascribing bravery to every cute person who is subjected to unpleasantness? This woman was not called upon to show any kind of bravery. What was she going to do, run away? If hers is an example of bravery, what would a coward have done differently?

Epossumondas:
This woman is a better woman than I.

Not unless "better" == "forgiving" according to your ethics, and even then you can't know. There's nothing she can do to the man now, even if she wanted revenge. If she had been premitted to choose his punishment and she had let him go, then we'd surely be looking at some forgiveness.

asshatinagetawaycar: There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him...

What are you, Yoda's Disney Channel-watching, pot-head, Rasta-Buddah, retard brother?

"He will get what he has coming to him" - what? No, he won't, dickhead!

Contents of a Space Wasp's stomach: pope183: asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude, but I applaud her. There is nothing to be gained by clinging to anger, hatred and resentment. He will get what he has coming to him, and she will move on and live her life without wallowing in her misery. She has my admiration and respect. Not many people have this inner strength.

Lame - it would be perfectly easy - and i am not kidding - for me to dispose of the guy without any anger resentment or hatred. why it would bring a sweet smile and such joy to my heart to break the man's knee caps then smash his fingers with a hammer one by one. and i don't disrespect her either that's her choice.

/don't get mad - get even.

If you are only getting even, you are not trying hard enough.

Indeed.

-= See Clearly - Act Boldly =-

que lastima: police

Nurse found in car boot (new window, Google is your friend)

He left her to die. She could have been in there up to 10 days. Awful.

asshatinagetawaycar: I know there are those who will disrespect this woman for the spiritual basis of her attitude

Fark that noise, shove that douchebag into a car trunk and let him see what it's like, only don't bother opening it up after ten days.

The poor wretch. He has a faulty gun. He has accidentally shot me five times. Oh, how I love him!

Wow, this thread started out waaaay too reasonable for Fark. For a second there, I thought there was hope for humanity! Thanks to the jaded, cynical ones that lack inner peace for chiming in to balance things out a bit.

/on the fence between 'inner peace and turning the other cheek' and 'breaking kneecaps and playing hide the red-hot tire iron'.

This is a tough lady. I don't know why she isn't traumatized right out of her mind, being left like that and having nothing to do but think about how she might die, for days.

She's a far better woman than I.

/Takes drugs.

My kind of woman!!

\The only sex I get, is because of who I am!!
\\A rapist!

PapermonkeyExpress: Anybody else notice that he could get a life sentence, then at the end of the article it states that he'll be deported after being released from prison?

WTF?

"Life" in the UK is usually not really that. It'll probably be 20- or 25-years-to-life. Parole works similarly to the US: after 25 years (or whatever), if he seems to be at low risk of reoffending, he'll probably get out. Eventually.

Although we don't have separation of powers in the UK, so the government minister can over-rule the parole board if it's politically convenient.